People are so cruel

[forgivemegod]

I told to a friend about my suicide ideation and she said to me to stay out of her life, because she already has her own problems, I didn't even sleep.

 

[blankfairy]

We live in a hyper-individualism cult nowadays, I'm also repulsed by people. I'm so sorry you feel this way, much love

 

[nobodycaresaboutme]

I can't believe these words were used for a suicidal person. Sorry you were treated like this. I don't know you and she are what level of "friends" and I don't want to be intrusive, but it seems relying on her will cause more harm than good

 

[wham311]

Yea. My friends ignore me because I'm doing so bad and it brings them down. They just leave you on read. Mom too. It is excrutiating. People won't look me in the eye in public. I've been entirely alone since December.

 

[fallingtopieces]

highly capitalist systems have divided and conquered and helped to create hyper-individualism. so many people are suffering and struggling, compassion can become drained.

your friend certainly could've responded in a kinder way, i'm sorry. but they too may have struggles and just can't handle some things and maybe need to have some boundaries to survive. many of us have experienced this, lost friends or become distant. it's sad, hurts and is disappointing. but i don't think they're horrible people, just people with their own stresses and weights they're carrying.

 

[darksouls]

I am very sorry for all people who have been disappointed by friends
hugs and love to you
I have never had human friends
I have been alone since my female dog died
she left me in 2020

 

[bankai]

people are extremely selfish. let's look at my typical workday. such a simple thing. I'm always on time for my meetings, it's the least I can do. we're on company time after all but I've seen multiple people come late by 20 minutes or half an hour. it shows how selfish they are and how little they care.

I've said it before most people irl are scum. I'm in a car right now waiting for a workmate. we're doing a company car pool and I'm waiting outside their home for 15 minutes so far.when I'm getting picked up I'm already waiting outside my home.

I would say stick to SaSu to discuss these things. some people will even make fun of you or bully you when you discuss these things.

 

[Ch4in3dcr0w]

Im so sorry your "friend" left you when u needed to vent and be vulnerable. Generally talking to anyone about about your suicide ideation or topics related to suicide is a bad idea, like u said people are extremly cruel and selfish, all the compassion leaves the world when its not about themselfs and thats the world we unfortunetly are living in, there are people who will listen to you but finding those people is hard and not worth the risk and hurt u can feel. So like the person above i would recommend stickubg to SaSu for topics like that, u will have hard time finding compassion and the least bit of support outside here. Much love

 

[treestumpisland]

yeah, that's just cruel. even with "compassion fatigue", there are alot nicer ways to go about it when one really does have their plate full and can't handle the weight without making the person struggling and needing support feel like shit or they're in the wrong for reaching out for support from a friend. like, i'd be so apologetic if i wasn't in a mindset to give proper support because i'm in a bad place, i'd be apologetic, straightforward, still try to help by giving ideas and kept-promises of when i'd be able to actually talk and connect with them, kept-promises, not just brushing off/avoiding, fake promises. and that's only when i'm in a state where i can't really handle anything else, i'd never be lmean or rude or cruel about it, i'd be very straightforward with why i can't be emotionally available right now, that it's not me closing the door on them at all.

i wish those people who are actually rude about it and have actual cutting-off mindsets, which is not appropriate at all, when they need support, they're made to feel in the wrong or like they're doing bad when they're doing the human thing, which is reach out for support, what humans are designed to do. all i can say is see that as a sign that those people are just not the people for you to be friends with, i know that's very hard to do because you've been deeply hurt by them, but they're not the ones to give you what you need, which is empathy, understanding, time, care, they're not the ones, unfortunately. that's helped me a little bit, it's a hard pill to swallow, but you'll feel better about it when you move your attention to finding people who actually listen, don't want you to shut up, just have zero empathy or care, because when you find people who are up for it and open to it and actually supportive, it'll be the much-needed life-floaty you';ve been needing. it doesn't stop the hurt of the people who are actually mean/cruel about it, i don't have advicefor feeling better about that, i struggle with that alot and get so damn angry about it, but seriously, find other places, whether SaSu or other people who actually listen, don't judge, want to help, want to listen and hear you, support you.

 

[Alexandra0]

You don't deserve this kind of treatment. I hug you.
Oh, most people are really very cruel and mean. In this world, basically everyone thinks only about themselves

 

[bia ♡]

Oh my angel...You dont deserve "people" like this. They're not empathic at all, they're stuck in a reality where they think they're the main characters, and other people are NPC's. They see us as the support role in their story. It's disgusting.

I hope you're doing okay. Love love love u. Don't let this kind of people put you down

 

[Dejected 55]

That's not a friend. I mean, it hurts just the same... but a friend wouldn't do that.

 

[StrawberryRed]

Im so sorry this happened to you!! Youre better off without them anyways, gives you space to meet new people who will care!!!

 

[EchoWanderer77]

fuck em

 

[LastDayOnEarth]

Humans have always been awful and they will always be