Open relationship insecurities

[kmycluisfe]

If you are in an open relationship, how did you get over your insecurities ?
My girlfriend would like to try it out but it's scary as shit, I'm clingy, I'm dependent so I just imagine the worst and I see it as an open door for her to find someone way better than me
Even if she clearly said that she wants a life with me but with the other it's different I can't get over my insecurities

I just wish I could be stronger than that and make her happy, let her do what she likes because she is polyamorous

So, if you were in the same spot, how did you get over it ? Or how did you manage to not break up idk

 

[Skallagrim]

Do you ever watch Epic Rap Battles of History?

On the Walter White vs Rick Grimes rap, there is a lyric there that deals with this.

"Nobody saw Shane coming, except for your wife."

A long time ago, someone cheated on me, and this lyric REALLY stung. It summed up something - the woman I loved looking into the eyes of another man as he orgasmed, with her, while I sat at home looking after our family.

Even now, years later, it's really difficult to deal with (but then I never seem to recover from anything).

I can't relate to polyamory. Not that I'm judging people who do make it work, but I just don't see how anyone could get past this. I don't see how it doesn't kill the intimacy, the feeling that you're sharing something special with your lover.

I am, however, going to say that it's hardly unknown for polyamorous couples to suddenly decide they need to move on, and go hopping from one love to another.