Older members chat 50 plus.

[hamvil]

Everytime I see you my inner child says...

BUNNY! *Giggles & pets you*

LOL

 

[AliceTheGoon]

Maybe this can be a 50+ Megathread. So any of the 50+ers here live alone? And if so are you leaving notes? I had a whole note planned out with contacts and will-type info with bank accounts but now I'm thinking about not leaving a note at all. A part of me wants my death to be 'ruled a suicide' without me confirming it with a note. I don't have a wife or kids so I assume my assets will default to my closest family and my bank info will be traced regardless. I do have a beneficiary set on accounts with that option. Would like to hear thoughts on this from anyone in a similar situation.

 

[nopointinlife]

What about naming a charitable organization as a beneficiary?

 

[blackwidow]

hello...50

 

[Somber]

Seems like there are plenty of 50+ people on here, yet none of them have access to the PP Essentials handbook to verify an email adress?

 

[MrOptions]

Almost 50+ club member here. Sounds like a good idea.

 

[BGooG]

Hi all. I'm 60, and have had chronic suicidal ideation for years. Over a decade, which was when I stopped keeping track. I'm outwardly fine, and inwardly desperate. A good job which I enjoy, a gorgeous wife who can't stand the sight of me, and a brilliant daughter who probably feels I've ruined her life.

 

[rationaltake]

The decision is made for me. I have to go. Only have SN and dubious about it. Though it might have to do.

 

[outrider567]

What about naming a charitable organization as a beneficiary?

That's what I did--Left my entire estate to St Judes Childrens Cancer Hospital here in the US

 

[emgrl]

Maybe this can be a 50+ Megathread. So any of the 50+ers here live alone? And if so are you leaving notes? I had a whole note planned out with contacts and will-type info with bank accounts but now I'm thinking about not leaving a note at all. A part of me wants my death to be 'ruled a suicide' without me confirming it with a note. I don't have a wife or kids so I assume my assets will default to my closest family and my bank info will be traced regardless. I do have a beneficiary set on accounts with that option. Would like to hear thoughts on this from anyone in a similar situation.

I wonder the same, never had a husband nor children. I'd like everything to go to my beneficiary. Now I wonder if I need to put them on my account at the bank? I'm definitely not going to leave a note, though.

 

[AliceTheGoon]

I wonder the same, never had a husband nor children. I'd like everything to go to my beneficiary. Now I wonder if I need to put them on my account at the bank? I'm definitely not going to leave a note, though.

How did you designate a beneficiary...with a will?

**decided to ace the note and just leave a list of contacts and bank accounts. They can sort it out however they wish.

 

[emgrl]

How did you designate a beneficiary...with a will?

No, with my place of employment. I'm on the younger side, never thought of getting a will.

 

[PeacefulRest]

I'm a boomer, well old enough for this topic.

I've been contemplating suicide seriously for about two years. I joined here almost two years ago to research methods and to hear from others about motives and means. I'm seldom here because it makes me uncomfortable to be here. Aside from any suicidal ideations I've had over very many years, the fact is that I want to live more than I want to die. But that's not what's in my suicide note.

I have a devoted partner and they know about my suicide plans. I have a double dose of N ready and waiting. I have prepared and prepared and prepared so as not to burden anyone with my passing. I've streamlined all my finances and investments. I have a detailed and explicit will. At my partner's urging, I have written a long note. Or rather, it is a short note ("the pain of living is worse than the pain of dying" sort of note) and a farewell to friends and family. And then there's a longer journal I've been keeping, appended to my suicide note.

So why should I die? I don't really want to die, but I'm facing a painful decline with very little possibility of a solution. There may yet be something, some miracle, some eleventh hour salvation. But at present it looks pretty dire, and I don't want to drag things out past the point of reason. I wish I could be more explicit, but I need my anonymity here, so this is the best I can say.

My time may be coming to a close. Perhaps it will be in a month. Perhaps in six months. But certainly no longer than that. So I'll continue to check in here from time to time, and I felt compelled to share something in this thread for elders. May peace find us all, one way or another. We are all going to die, and acceptance is liberating. Peace.

 

[Hollowillow]

Hi all. I'm 60, and have had chronic suicidal ideation for years. Over a decade, which was when I stopped keeping track. I'm outwardly fine, and inwardly desperate. A good job which I enjoy, a gorgeous wife who can't stand the sight of me, and a brilliant daughter who probably feels I've ruined her life.

I kinda envy yet dread your normal life. I have the pain though but no family... Yay?

 

[Gustav Hartmann]

I am 67 and therefore use rather messengers on horseback than chatting for communication.

I defenitely don´t want to die in a nursing home but by hanging because I have a hanging fetish. The question is, when is the right time to go. Concerning my physical and mental degenration due to old age I feel like the frog in hot water.

 

[outrider567]

Maybe this can be a 50+ Megathread. So any of the 50+ers here live alone? And if so are you leaving notes? I had a whole note planned out with contacts and will-type info with bank accounts but now I'm thinking about not leaving a note at all. A part of me wants my death to be 'ruled a suicide' without me confirming it with a note. I don't have a wife or kids so I assume my assets will default to my closest family and my bank info will be traced regardless. I do have a beneficiary set on accounts with that option. Would like to hear thoughts on this from anyone in a similar situation.

Been alone since my girlfriend died,....I don't like it---My notes are strictly financial info and my computer password info--But suicide books will be left on the table(showing where I got the idea for Nitrogen), as well as my girlfriends plaques and awards for working at her job for 38 years(these for her brother and wife to keep)and also a painting of my girlfriend when she was 4 years old(also for her brother)----All of my Estate(about 300 grand)will go to St Judes Children's Cancer Hospital(my girlfriend's wish also)

 

[Diacon]

Any 50+ here has access to PpeH forum???.

 

[freedompass]

Hey there, nice idea for a thread. I'm always up for chatting and/or making a new friend. I'm 60 and more stable now than I've ever been. On disability for bipolar. Chronic suicide ideation for 10 years but have never acted on it. Life is empty but comfy, just getting by from day to day.

 

[Littlewittlelight]

I am not 50 I am 20 and sorry for just trespassing into the 50+ thread but I like the honesty of elderly people especially your message hit home. I wish everyone finds peace in their life whatever it is in.
Hey there, nice idea for a thread. I'm always up for chatting and/or making a new friend. I'm 60 and more stable now than I've ever been. On disability for bipolar. Chronic suicide ideation for 10 years but have never acted on it. Life is empty but comfy, just getting by from day to day.
I appreciate all the elderly people giving it away for a cause all their possessions they would never forget you lived for a cause it's one of the best things someone could do. I appreciate from the bottom of my heart.
I wish you all find peace whatever it is in.

 

[tearsontoast]

I'm a boomer, well old enough for this topic.

I've been contemplating suicide seriously for about two years. I joined here almost two years ago to research methods and to hear from others about motives and means. I'm seldom here because it makes me uncomfortable to be here. Aside from any suicidal ideations I've had over very many years, the fact is that I want to live more than I want to die. But that's not what's in my suicide note.

I have a devoted partner and they know about my suicide plans. I have a double dose of N ready and waiting. I have prepared and prepared and prepared so as not to burden anyone with my passing. I've streamlined all my finances and investments. I have a detailed and explicit will. At my partner's urging, I have written a long note. Or rather, it is a short note ("the pain of living is worse than the pain of dying" sort of note) and a farewell to friends and family. And then there's a longer journal I've been keeping, appended to my suicide note.

So why should I die? I don't really want to die, but I'm facing a painful decline with very little possibility of a solution. There may yet be something, some miracle, some eleventh hour salvation. But at present it looks pretty dire, and I don't want to drag things out past the point of reason. I wish I could be more explicit, but I need my anonymity here, so this is the best I can say.

My time may be coming to a close. Perhaps it will be in a month. Perhaps in six months. But certainly no longer than that. So I'll continue to check in here from time to time, and I felt compelled to share something in this thread for elders. May peace find us all, one way or another. We are all going to die, and acceptance is liberating. Peace.

Your story reminded me of the movie Supernova. I enjoyed the movie.

 

[wljourney]

Oh! I'd love a thread of older folks. Not quite there yet, but definitely close.

Living alone makes planning a bit easier, but I too am wondering about notes etc.
I don't expect to be found by friends/family, but likely by landlord/police/EMS or whoever notices the smell first. Not a pretty thought and I don't want them to go through my personal effects, so I have started slowly discarding any personal notions like paperwork, journals etc.

Is anyone familiar with the Marie Kondo method? Living simply, decluttering... that sort of thing.
Apparently someone else has joined the wagon and has written about the "Swedish death cleaning" method. Apparently it's quite popular in Europe. But of course It's mostly about older people decluttering their homes, so that loved ones don't have to sift through so much stuff after their passing.

I think it's a valid point though. Nobody wants to be grieving and then going through boxes of old pictures etc, having to decide what to keep and what to let go. It's much harder to make that decision as a relative who is still processing the loss than for the person that is dying (or eventually going to die) and has arranged themselves with that notion.

 

[jk9761]

anyone here from london

 

[freedompass]

anyone here from london

Me

 

[Lost21]

just turned 50 and always willing to chat

 

[wljourney]

Oh, so many people from the UK I see.
Interesting!

I was wondering: many seniors (70+) around me (Canada) are glued to the TV right now watching the Queen being transferred to London. The preparation of Charles being crowned etc etc.
While I know this is a historical event and it is history happening in front of our eyes, I am also not really phased by it (or following it).

My theory: either it is the similar age (being 70+ and identifying more with the Queen when they were young, entertainment in the 1950s being limited, making the Royals a family event to watch on TV) or it is cultural (the Queen being head of state and many Canadian immigrants having British parents)

What do you think?
Are you watching this in real time?

 

[Lily (Osako)]

I'm 49 1/2. Can I please join?

 

[HoneyandGlass]

I'm 49 and three quarters. Crawling up that hill. Does that count to join here and chat with anyone willing to chat with me? Would be nice.

 

[Nightbird]

I'll be 50 in a few weeks. I'm in NJ, USA - can spit on the Big Apple from here (though I haven't tried, lately …).

 

[Al0neAlwayz]

47 here, and ready to end it now. Everything coming at me at once and I can't take it anymore. Already alone, family won't have anything to do with me, and now I have to find a new place to live. The person whose property I live on is going to sell it, so there went the only security I had! I cannot afford a place on my income, and I'm disabled so very limited on what jobs I can do. I need both knees replaced and finding jobs where I'm not on my feet all day is close to impossible. I have one, but it is only part time. Sorry, I know I just rambled.... Just haven't had anyone to talk to for a long time. I work with a bunch of 20 something's and they are too busy with TikTok and all their drama to hold a real conversation with... I'm so lonely and I miss my family and I just wish I was already dead. Nice to be around like minded individuals...

 

[freedompass]

Oh, so many people from the UK I see.
Interesting!

I was wondering: many seniors (70+) around me (Canada) are glued to the TV right now watching the Queen being transferred to London. The preparation of Charles being crowned etc etc.
While I know this is a historical event and it is history happening in front of our eyes, I am also not really phased by it (or following it).

My theory: either it is the similar age (being 70+ and identifying more with the Queen when they were young, entertainment in the 1950s being limited, making the Royals a family event to watch on TV) or it is cultural (the Queen being head of state and many Canadian immigrants having British parents)

What do you think?
Are you watching this in real time?

Yeah I do think it's more of a fascination for the oldies since she's just always been around our whole lives. I listened to livestream coverage on the day itself (and felt genuinely sad) but nothing since, my brother's the same, mum (90) is not a royalist but I'm sure the wall to wall TV coverage evokes many memories for her. I'll probably watch the state funeral on Monday, apparently the city will be on high security alert because of all the high profile visitors to London. I highly doubt it will affect my quiet leafy street in Zone 3 tho. How about anyone else, any royalists or otherwise? How did y'all feel?