Obligation towards parent/s?

[fightingforchoice]

I understand some people don't have good parents, and for that I'm sorry. Though I'm an only child (though I'm 35 now!) to my mum, and she's been nothing but wonderful to me. what I've experienced that's made me want to ctb isn't her fault. I want to go, but if I do it'll destroy her. My half brother also has mental health issues and me dying would really f*ck him up. My Dad will probably be ok but if my Mum doesn't follow me, there will be no one to look after her when she's really old. And no one to support my brother when our dad dies. I didn't ask to come here, but also feel a sense of overwhelming responsibility towards my family. It's keeping me so torn and stuck :(

 

[Forever Sleep]

I'm sorry. It's a very difficult situation to be in. I'm holding on for my Dad. I've resolved to wait for him to go first but I know, not everyone can. There are one or two of us here in the same boat. Not that it's really all that helpful but others will relate.

 

[kvsvenky100]

Parents brought us into existence without consent, so I don't feel guilty about leaving them.

 

[SilentSadness]

No one has any obligation towards their family. It's nice that you are thinking about others, but you shouldn't let others' feelings drive your actions.

 

[RichardFirst]

In the micro, I think that we do owe our parents something for the years of care, assuming that they did their duty well. In the macro, however, the older generations have utterly destroyed the Western world for their children. I care about my own parents, but Generation Live Aid (which is what I call Irish Boomers) can rot in the debt-riddled hell that they created.

 

[kvsvenky100]

In the micro, I think that we do owe our parents something for the years of care, assuming that they did their duty well. In the macro, however, the older generations have utterly destroyed the Western world for their children. I care about my own parents, but Generation Live Aid (which is what I call Irish Boomers) can rot in the debt-riddled hell that they created.

But we didn't ask them to drag us into existence. So I don't think we have an obligation towards them.

 

[FuneralCry]

I wish people didn't procreate in the first place and then all this suffering would be prevented. But anyway I certainly don't believe that any of us are obligated to delay our inevitable fate, it's our existence after all and we all have our right to die.

 

[Groundhog_Day]

I can relate. My mum has serious health problems and I'm her primary carer. If I ctb now, she would be left with my sister, who has zero empathy/caring towards her.

It's the limbo state that sucks so much. Also, I'm worried caring for my mum is a convenient excuse, and the reality might be that I'm not going to overcome si when the time comes.

 

[hi-okbye]

I relate. I know how crushed my mom would be, she's done so much for me, devoted everything in her life for me (even if she was a bit abusive at times). It's not her fault I was brought into this world, she just wanted to give me a chance (adoption).

I just try not to think about it too much, remind myself that I shouldn't be forced to go through my suffering just for someone else.

 

[Hotsackage]

I'm pretty much alive for my family to, as my mental health deteriorates drastically. Thank God for alcohol and walking

 

[dreamingofrest]

Yeah, this is so hard. I definitely relate to a lot of these feelings… my relationships with my family members aren't perfect (no relationship is, I think), but I still love them and wouldn't want them to blame themselves because it's not their fault. Not at all. I think it's hard to not feel obligated to not do something that could cause others pain, but when it comes down to it everyone has to make their own choices.

 

[fightingforchoice]

Thank you everyone....