note or no note?

[rustinpeacepolaris]

my attempt is coming up on the 20th. should i leave a note? only person i really care about is my partner.

 

[leavingsoon99]

If you care about them, then I'd say leave one. At least give an explanation. Just know that a note won't mean closure. That will come with time for them. Good luck in whatever you decide to do.

 

[Vizzy]

my attempt is coming up on the 20th. should i leave a note? only person i really care about is my partner.

Your choice

My note is simple, "I can't do this anymore, I am tired"

 

[rustinpeacepolaris]

If you care about them, then I'd say leave one. At least give an explanation. Just know that a note won't mean closure. That will come with time for them. Good luck in whatever you decide

okay.

 

[waiting93]

Yeah I'd leave a note . Maybe stress how it was not your significant others fault . I know my family will feel guilty but I want them to know that it's not their fault , and I made the choice because of my constant suffering.

 

[cami]

if you have someone you love, then yeah i think you should. one word of advice though, if you survive they will have read your note so just be aware of what you write.

 

[FuneralCry]

It's up to you deciding what to do, nobody is owed an explanation but leaving one could mean that those left behind are less likely to be left with as many unanswered questions.

 

[brokeandbroken]

Depends I have no one who cares about me so I wouldn't leave a note. If you do it may be helpful for them.

 

[angelk]

I would leave a note if someone cares about you, explaining maybe that it's not their fault. It is not necessary to make others feel that they could have done something more... what I am going to do

 

[helplessufferer]

lately i've been thinking about leaving a video explaining few things in a very calm, not sad way and will ask them to live their life happily. tell them not to be affected bad by my death since there is no suffering for me anymore and i was certain about my ctb decision.

 

[purity]

one word of advice though, if you survive they will have read your note so just be aware of what you write.

just wanted to say there's an alternative. you could write a scheduled email and cancel it if you live. it feels a lot less meaningful, but it prevents anyone from reading your note if you live.

 

[MerryGoDown]

For myself I'm wondering the same thing. Based on what everyone else has already said, here are the pros and cons:

Pros
Give an explanation
Control over our final words/thoughts
Express it's not their fault and that they couldn't have/should have done more (depending on
Answer their questions
Express your final wishes/instructions for them

Cons
Explanations don't equal closure
We can't control how they feel
Answers lead to more questions

I think what's hanging me up most is will a note actually help them feel better? I think if a person is strongly pro-life, no matter what you say they will never understand, and leaving a note would only cause more grief and questions than letting them resolve and come to a conclusion on their own. But if they are more pro-choice, and explanation can leave them with a little more clarity.

Something I saw once was someone left a voice mail for their partner saying "I love you", and after they cbt they would listen to it over and over again. Maybe that's all that I will do.

 

[sayire]

my attempt is coming up on the 20th. should i leave a note? only person i really care about is my partner.

I personally prefer a simple note. that helps clear others of wrong doing.

keeping it simple helps with NOT generating more questions.

mine will say something to the effect of... I am sorry to put you through this. I just cant find another way and it has been my time for a while. it is my time to go. love ya!

 

[liljeep]

If you have any final words for anyone, even just one person, you should leave a note.