New year resolution: get.. intimacy or ctb

[idiotstillwantstodie]

As i mentioned in an earlier thread i started that got locked, i decided to ctb in the end of the month unless i get some. And i didnt mean just once, i mean finding someone to have sex with regularly, for free of course. I think a month is long enough to see if im able to succeed.

I was quite serious about this and registered on every promising dating app i could find after i made my promise. Even used a tinder bot to get matches lol. Been chatting with a lot of wommen, so far no dates but one possible one on this weekend. This stuff really takes work.

I don't really care that much if i succeed or not, but i find all of this quite exciting, the stakes being what they are. Im making a stand in order to make my life look like how i want it to look like. If i fail, for the first time i have the option of giving up, I dont have to keep failing again and again. This is how life should be for everyone.

Side note:

Any female members (or any pseudo-feminist, populist loudmouth males) who dont like me talking about this, can just ignore this thread. Which you of course will find impossible, but at least follow the rules.

Please dont come here talking about your health problems and about how it pisses you off that im not as sick as you and still want to die either.

 

[ItsMe-Hecked]

As i mentioned in an earlier thread i started that got locked, i decided to ctb in the end of the month unless i get some. And i didnt mean just once, i mean finding someone to have sex with regularly, for free of course. I think a month is long enough to see if im able to succeed.

I was quite serious about this and registered on every promising dating app i could find after i made my promise. Even used a tinder bot to get matches lol. Been chatting with a lot of wommen, so far no dates but one possible one on this weekend. This stuff really takes work.

I don't really care that much if i succeed or not, but i find all of this quite exciting, the stakes being what they are. Im making a stand in order to make my life look like how i want it to look like. If i fail, for the first time i have the option of giving up, I dont have to keep failing again and again. This is how life should be for everyone.

Side note:

Any female members (or any pseudo-feminist, populist loudmouth males) who dont like me talking about this, can just ignore this thread. Which you of course will find impossible, but at least follow the rules.

Please dont come here talking about your health problems and about how it pisses you off that im not as sick as you and still want to die either.

Speaking from experience, hookups aren't going to fix your issues. They're going to prolong your suffering until you realize that it wasn't filling your void like you'd hoped.

 

[dreadpirateroberts69]

Speaking from experience, hookups aren't going to fix your issues. They're going to prolong your suffering until you realize that it wasn't filling your void like you'd hoped.

It actually sounds like homie wants a relationship

...which, granted, you'd have to be EXTREMELY fucking lucky to find one in a month

 

[ItsMe-Hecked]

It actually sounds like homie wants a relationship

Ah gotcha. Idk. Maybe they'll be able to find a needle-in-a-hay-stack, but the majority of people are shit, and it's unlikely to find a non-narcissist on dating apps.

 

[dreadpirateroberts69]

Ah gotcha. Idk. Maybe they'll be able to find a needle-in-a-hay-stack, but the majority of people are shit, and it's unlikely to find a non-narcissist on dating apps.

Yeah dating apps are just the worst

 

[Snake of Eden]

I relate to your state OP. I really really really hope you find a cool person to have sex with regularly and you can finally feel fulfilled and validated as you deserve. I have you in my thoughts and rooting for you to get laid before month ends :3

 

[idiotstillwantstodie]

It actually sounds like homie wants a relationship

...which, granted, you'd have to be EXTREMELY fucking lucky to find one in a month

Relationship, a fuck buddy, call it what you want. For me its about the physical act.

I dont necessarily need to love the person im having sex with. I think that im generally a loving person, all i need is someone who wants to accept it from me.

Its not just about luck tho, ive been literally chatting with women for hours these few days. Also im asking them for dates left and right.

Can i get some to save my life? Lets see!

 

[eternalpeace]

As i mentioned in an earlier thread i started that got locked, i decided to ctb in the end of the month unless i get some. And i didnt mean just once, i mean finding someone to have sex with regularly, for free of course. I think a month is long enough to see if im able to succeed.

I was quite serious about this and registered on every promising dating app i could find after i made my promise. Even used a tinder bot to get matches lol. Been chatting with a lot of wommen, so far no dates but one possible one on this weekend. This stuff really takes work.

I don't really care that much if i succeed or not, but i find all of this quite exciting, the stakes being what they are. Im making a stand in order to make my life look like how i want it to look like. If i fail, for the first time i have the option of giving up, I dont have to keep failing again and again. This is how life should be for everyone.

Side note:

Any female members (or any pseudo-feminist, populist loudmouth males) who dont like me talking about this, can just ignore this thread. Which you of course will find impossible, but at least follow the rules.

Please dont come here talking about your health problems and about how it pisses you off that im not as sick as you and still want to die either.

I'm not going to judge, but I will say that you should give yourself more than a month to find someone. I think it's great that you are finding ways to work toward your goal, but it does take a lot of time to sift through all the interactions from dating websites. When I was using those apps, there were times when I'd have a date every few days, and times when it was just totally dry. It can take months or longer to really find what you are looking for. I don't say this to discourage you (again, I think it's great that you are going after what you want), just that expecting it to work in a month might not be realistic.

 

[idiotstillwantstodie]

I'm not going to judge, but I will say that you should give yourself more than a month to find someone. I think it's great that you are finding ways to work toward your goal, but it does take a lot of time to sift through all the interactions from dating websites. When I was using those apps, there were times when I'd have a date every few days, and times when it was just totally dry. It can take months or longer to really find what you are looking for. I don't say this to discourage you (again, I think it's great that you are going after what you want), just that expecting it to work in a month might not be realistic.

Whose to really say whats realistic in this? I mean I dont think most people use that much time with these apps. Ive been using them for hours, every day. Im putting work in this.

The one reason why i have the energy and interest for doing this, is because im serious about my resolution. Im over 25y old. Ive been trying, believe me. Not quite like this, but you get what I mean.

 

[eternalpeace]

Whose to really say whats realistic in this? I mean I dont think most people use that much time with these apps. Ive been using them for hours, every day. Im putting work in this.

The one reason why i have energy and interest for doing this, is because im serious about my resolution. Im over 25y old. Ive been trying, believe me. Not quite like this, but you get what I mean.

I'm not saying it won't or could never happen in a month, just that you might consider managing your expectations when it comes to the timeline, based on what I know from my own experience and what I've heard from others. I'm not trying to rain on your parade. I'm just cautioning you against quitting too early if it doesn't happen as fast as you would like it to.

 

[idiotstillwantstodie]

I'm not saying it won't or could never happen in a month, just that you might consider managing your expectations when it comes to the timeline, based on what I know from my own experience and what I've heard from others. I'm not trying to rain on your parade. I'm just cautioning you against quitting too early if it doesn't happen as fast as you would like it to.

Then how much time would you suggest? 2 months? 3? 6?

There has to be a strict time limit, or i wont be following through with this, as im sure you understand.
I dont see any sensible reasons for changing the time limit i gave myself. Doesnt seem to make much difference if its one month or two.

I couldnt keep up doing this dating app shit for hours every day much longer than a month anyway.

 

[eternalpeace]

Then much time would you suggest? 2 months? 3? 6?

There has to be a strict time limit, or i wont be following through with this, as im sure you understand.

I'm not going to comment on specifics as to what kind of timeline I think would be more realistic because I don't want to be construed as endorsing your decision to kill yourself if you don't find a sexual partner within a certain time. (For the record, I do NOT endorse it). Also, I'm not God, so even if it takes the average person X amount of time to find someone on a dating app, there is no guarantee that it won't take you (or anyone else) more (or less) time than average.

I guess I will just say that I'm glad you have a goal to work toward, and I hope it works out for you.

 

[idiotstillwantstodie]

I'm not going to comment on specifics as to what kind of timeline I think would be more realistic because I don't want to be viewed as endorsing your decision to kill yourself if you don't find a sexual partner within a certain time. (For the record, I do NOT endorse it). Also, I'm not God, so even if it takes the average person X amount of time to find someone on a dating app, there is no guarantee that it won't take you (or anyone else) more (or less) time than average.

I guess I will just say that I'm glad you have a goal to work toward, and I hope it works out for you.

So its as i suspected, you dont really think giving myself more time would make any difference either, youre just against this whole thing.

I guess you mean well but i dont need this. My life has been empty promise after empty promise. This promise im going to keep.

All work and no play makes jack a dull boy.

 

[eternalpeace]

So its as i suspected, you dont really think giving myself more time would make any difference either, youre just against this whole thing.

I guess you mean well but i dont need this. My life has been empty promise after empty promise. This promise im going to keep.

All work and no play makes jack a dull boy.

No, I am NOT saying that giving yourself more time would be futile. I think you should give yourself a lot of time to improve things, in whatever way you think will matter. I DO think you are putting all of your eggs into one proverbial basket, as I believe there are many things other than sex that make life meaningful. I did not go into that, because it was clear from the other thread that you weren't interested in hearing that, so I was trying to be helpful without going there.

Clearly you don't find anything I have to say helpful, so have no fear, I won't bother commenting on your post ever again.

 

[idiotstillwantstodie]

No, I am NOT saying that giving yourself more time would be futile. I think you should give yourself a lot of time to improve things, in whatever way you think will matter. I DO think you are putting all of your eggs into one proverbial basket, as I believe there are many things other than sex that make life meaningful. I did not go into that, because it was clear from the other thread that you weren't interested in hearing that, so I was trying to be helpful Without going there.

Well, you kind of just did go into that. And I dont think there is anything much more self-evident you could say here. Im very much aware of the existence of other things than sex in life.

clearly you don't find anything I have to say helpful, so have no fear, I won't bother commenting again.

Youre free to say whatever you like, just stop patronizing me and accept that im going to do this.

What kind of feedback were you expecting? Surely you didn't think someone was actually going to come on here and say "yeah, you should def kill yourself if no one has sex with you in the next month"?

I was expecting some people to understand where im coming from. You clearly dont. So let me explain.

Ive never been satisfied about my life. I dont think im the only one on this forum. I hate constantly busting my ass for nothing. I hate the fact that ive experienced the peak moments of my life with prostitutes. That makes me a total sucker. If i was at least rich i guess my life would be tolerable. Im not, so fuck this.

 

[Ashu]

Speaking from experience, hookups aren't going to fix your issues. They're going to prolong your suffering until you realize that it wasn't filling your void like you'd hoped.

Oh for God's sake, of course they won't "fix his issues" or "fill the void", but they'll alleviate one of the lacks that are making his life so intolerable, a lack that is a major reason that many people want to die.

 

[Chaestergram]

Expend your research, there is going to bar, clubs, even toooooons of adds online for that purpose, from the most desperate one to the horniest or simply hooking up with different people every time you want to actually fuck

 

[idiotstillwantstodie]

Expend your research, there is going to bar, clubs,

Every place is closed where i live. Too bad

even toooooons of adds online for that purpose, from the most desperate one to the horniest or simply hooking up with different people every time you want to actually fuck

In a way, the job i gave myself is easy, as there are plenty of females even more unattractive than me. But getting a sex partner im not attracted to was not what I was after here.

I think that my standards are quite realistic: im not overweight, so i dont want you to be overweight either. Other than that, almost everything goes

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

Good luck in this venture. I sort of told myself the same thing for this year except I'm way more lazy and instead of putting in all this effort just decided to veer straight to deciding to CTB. Hope it works out for you.

 

[SuicidallyCurious]

Well, you kind of just did go into that. And I dont think there is anything much more self-evident you could say here. Im very much aware of the existence of other things than sex in life.

Youre free to say whatever you like, just stop patronizing me and accept that im going to do this.

I was expecting some people to understand where im coming from. You clearly dont. So let me explain.

Ive never been satisfied about my life. I dont think im the only one on this forum. I hate constantly busting my ass for nothing. I hate the fact that ive experienced the peak moments of my life with prostitutes. That makes me a total sucker. If i was at least rich i guess my life would be tolerable. Im not, so fuck this.

Using prostitutes doesn't make you a sucker. You get to dictate when they leave and you don't have to worry every day for decades that you will lose half of your home or your retirement.

 

[idiotstillwantstodie]

Using prostitutes doesn't make you a sucker. You get to dictate when they leave and you don't have to worry every day for decades that you will lose half of your home or your retirement.

It makes me a sucker because i cant really afford that shit with what I make.

Its a fucking joke. I want to have sex every other day, not once in a month. Not going to resort to sex tourism either, this is it for me.

My N is waiting, 23 days to go.

 

[Dot]

The search continues and i have ran into a couple girls who have chosen to waste my time. That is, to chat with me, and then refuse to go on a date when i asked. One girl literally poured her heart out to me about her break up and miscarriage out of nowhere. And then didnt go on a date with me?

This one thing i never understood about women: how can they be so attention hungry, that when using a dating app, they choose to chat for long periods of time with males they have no real sexual/romantic interest over? That is just crazy.

I mean i guess i could do the same with the females im not attracted to. Its just that 1) its mean 2) literally anything else is more interesting

Wmn on apps r prbbly lookng fr relatnshp / emotnl cnnectn b4 movng on2 sx. Tht happns natrlly ovr tme. If wmn thnks u jst wnt sx thn wll b hardr 4 u. Nt sre whch apps u r usng.

 

[uselesswaste]

Out of context : I appreciate your determination about the time limit, in which I lack a lot.

I hope(i hate hope but) you find someone that you truly want and change your life or something (like a wattpad story -.-)

 

[SuicidallyCurious]

It depends on the app yes. But on tinder most people just look to get laid women included.

I previously talked about my standard for a partner. I forgot to mention people with kids. If i come across one willing to jump i the sack right away then sure, why not. But on long term, im not going to take care of other peoples kids. Simple as that

Not to mention that i have zero interest in giving any pleasure to a woman when im paying for the sex.

Im not selfish. I just dont want to pay myself sick to have sex with you and then do all the work. Thats fucking stupid. Besides i dont know the girls, they could be total bitches so i dont know if i even want to make them cum.

So paying for it is a very "limited" way of having sex.

I can see why you don't like it with prostitutes . Sounds like you treat them poorly. Your type are never very popular with ladies of the night and it's guys like you that keep prices low for the rest of us and occasionally score a few freebies with them

Your post title stated that you wanted to find intimacy soon. But it's very clear from how you speak here you are not looking for intimacy . What you are describing is not how intimacy is defined