Help Need help deciding CTB date

[sydel sushi]

Hi. So, my SN is set to arrive somewhere next week, probably on the 23-24. I was planning to CTB the day i get the SN, but then I got news that my sister is moving away on the 28th for a new job, and on the 26th my mom is going to a friend's wedding in the same city sister is currently working in, lets say city X. I am in a different city altogether (city Y).

Should i wait for my sister to go away to her new job (on the 28th), or is it okay for me to CTB before that time so that she has time to grieve surrounded by family members?

 

[frayed]

it's gonna hit them like a freight train out of nowhere. No accounting for how they are gonna react to it. if you wanna spare them the pain, you can't do it. But that's up to you.

 

[gothbird]

There's no perfect timing for this. Whether you do it before your sister leaves or after, she's going to be hit hard. And either way, it's likely she won't be able to start or keep the job without needing time off. If it happens before, she might not even be in a state to go. If it's after, she'll still probably need to step away early on. The grief is going to land no matter when it happens.

What matters more is when you feel ready. Don't stretch the timeline trying to find a version of this that hurts less because it doesn't exist. Do it when it makes sense for you, not because you're trying to control how others will cope. They'll deal with it how they need to, and the timing won't change that in any lasting way.

 

[bankai]

Ideally, I'd say she'd want to grieve with family members. That being said, don't let such reasons influence your decision.Taking your life is a very serious matter that requires a lot of thought and consideration. Make sure that you're sure. And only do it after that.

 

[darksouls]

however you decide
wish you the best
hope you find the peace you desire

 

[sydel sushi]

Ideally, I'd say she'd want to grieve with family members. That being said, don't let such reasons influence your decision.Taking your life is a very serious matter that requires a lot of thought and consideration. Make sure that you're sure. And only do it after that.

I have prepared my last words, and i have sorted out my stuff. So all that's left to do is the act itself

 

[painfully]

Its sad that you feel like this. Would you mind sharing what causes you so much pain?

 

[sydel sushi]

Its sad that you feel like this. Would you mind sharing what causes you so much pain?

I am a bit hesitant to share because maybe my life is not as fucked up as i think it is, lol. I have been very burnt out, every aspect of my life is messed up, and there is this milestone in my academic life that i know i wont be able to achieve before running out of money.

I have planned to ctb 8 months ago using night night, but decided against it and got help. But now, i think it is the right time. I hope that answers your question.

 

[TAW122]

I think one's CTB date and manner is really subjective. It all depends on one's personal circumstances. Barring impulsive attempts at CTB, it would generally be whenever one's personal preference and circumstances align.