My therapist yelled at me. I feel like I might as well die now.

[marooned123]

My therapist yelled at me. I had said loudly "what do you think I'm upset about?" And she yelled at me using my first and last name and yelled that I would not be speaking like that to her ever. She called it verbal abuse. I exchanged several emails with her regarding my research that stated therapists are never to yell at clients. She responded that if "being stern" with me (she YELLED) was too much for me I could go somewhere else. So I terminated therapy. My dad just told me I am making a mistake. If your therapist yelled at you in response to a stress response, would you want to ever talk to them again? Anyways I feel like a piece of sh** and worthless and I don't care about anything anymore

 

[asteroidFren]

what the hell, what an absolutely incompetent therapist, with that attitude she definitely should not be giving therapy to others.
like, does she expect her patients to be mentally well? people go to therapy for a reason.

 

[hikikomorizombie]

yeah, her expecting her patients to be 100% levelheaded at all times is ignorant of her. i'd understand if maybe u were aggressive or got violent, but what u said is a normal frustrated reaction.

i've left a therapist for much less. i was venting to her abt my mental illness, & she replied by venting abt her own. she was prob only trying to relate to me, but i was a kid @ the time & it felt like she wasn't listening to me/wanted me to be her therapist in that moment. therapy's never worked for me, but i believe making sure u & ur therapist are compatible & u like them + talking to them, are key factors to it's effectiveness.

 

[Kit1]

I am so sorry that she behaved so unprofessionally, unreasonably and was abusive as that is abusive, misuse of power and cruel. You did the right thing by terminating her contract - well done.

 

[Suicidebydeath]

I've been yelled at for no reason. So this triggers me and I don't think it is ever acceptable behaviour.

 

[struggles_inc]

Holy shit that's unprofessional. I'm so sorry.

 

[ForgottenAgain]

My therapist yelled at me. I had said loudly "what do you think I'm upset about?" And she yelled at me using my first and last name and yelled that I would not be speaking like that to her ever. She called it verbal abuse. I exchanged several emails with her regarding my research that stated therapists are never to yell at clients. She responded that if "being stern" with me (she YELLED) was too much for me I could go somewhere else. So I terminated therapy. My dad just told me I am making a mistake. If your therapist yelled at you in response to a stress response, would you want to ever talk to them again? Anyways I feel like a piece of sh** and worthless and I don't care about anything anymore

Your therapist was completely out of line. they are trained to deal with people that are mentally unwell, what you did was nothing, please don't feel bad, you are not in the wrong and you did well by terminating therapy. No good would come from continuing.

Just to give you an idea of how she reacted poorly: I did group therapy and one day, one of the other patients had an episode mid session where he started making wild assumptions and ended by throwing an object at me and then storming out. There was a psychiatrist and a psychologist there and this were their reactions:

The psychiatrist followed the patient that ran away. The psychologist helped to calm down the lady that started crying next to me and tried to help us make sense of what happened.

In no way should one of them have reacted like your therapist, it would have been disastrous and completely unprofessional.

And to give you another example, from myself, I once raised my voice at my therapist during our sessions and started dissociating. My therapist kept his calm completely and brought me back with some words he said.

I have sweared, cried, raised my voice, disassociated and God knows what else during therapy, not once did my therapist react in that way. Your therapist was unprofessional and shouldn't be a therapist.

I'm sorry you went through that experience, that really sucks and it's totally not your fault, by far!

 

[beelzebul]

I think you can (and should) report her to the APA. That's unacceptable.

 

[marooned123]

Your therapist was completely out of line. they are trained to deal with people that are mentally unwell, what you did was nothing, please don't feel bad, you are not in the wrong and you did well by terminating therapy. No good would come from continuing.

Just to give you an idea of how she reacted poorly: I did group therapy and one day, one of the other patients had an episode mid session where he started making wild assumptions and ended by throwing an object at me and then storming out. There was a psychiatrist and a psychologist there and this were their reactions:

The psychiatrist followed the patient that ran away. The psychologist helped to calm down the lady that started crying next to me and tried to help us make sense of what happened.

In no way should one of them have reacted like your therapist, it would have been disastrous and completely unprofessional.

And to give you another example, from myself, I once raised my voice at my therapist during our sessions and started dissociating. My therapist kept his calm completely and brought me back with some words he said.

I have sweared, cried, raised my voice, disassociated and God knows what else during therapy, not once did my therapist react in that way. Your therapist was unprofessional and shouldn't be a therapist.

I'm sorry you went through that experience, that really sucks and it's totally not your fault, by far!

Thank you. Thank you everyone for your supportive comments. I've been obsessing about this and therapy prior to that experience has been very helpful. It's just, she knows my history of abuse and C-PTSD and yet somehow thought that was an ok reaction? I am expected to take responsibility for my dysfunctional behavior but she never did. I don't know how I can feel comfortable enough to trust her in therapy again and not only is that a huge loss for me but I once again cut off therapy after feeling like I couldn't trust the therapist. Maybe therapy isn't a cure-all or a necessity like people make it out to be. I just need to start trusting myself because I am the only one who can stick up for me. Maybe I should start relying on myself instead of therapy and try to get back into life again. It's never going to be perfect anyways and I can only do my best.

 

[EvisceratedJester]

I'm sorry that happened to you. That's horrible. Sadly, most people who become therapists and psychiatrists are usually people who are very full of themselves and like the power that said jobs give them over others. You shouldn't take her yelling to heart. She's just another worthless piece of shit who went into a bogus occupation in order to feed her ego. You made the right decision in terminating therapy.

 

[marooned123]

I'm sorry that happened to you. That's horrible. Sadly, most people who become therapists and psychiatrists are usually people who are very full of themselves and like the power that said jobs give them over others. You shouldn't take her yelling to heart. She's just another worthless piece of shit who went into a bogus occupation in order to feed her ego. You made the right decision in terminating therapy.

Wishing I was gone right now. Why can't some mass shooter kill me instead of innocent people who actually have a purpose in life.

 

[CatLvr]

**Maybe therapy isn't a cure-all or a necessity like people make it out to be. I just need to start trusting myself because I am the only one who can stick up for me. Maybe I should start relying on myself instead of therapy and try to get back into life again. It's never going to be perfect anyways and I can only do my best.**

First, like everyone else has said, your therapist was out of line.

Second, this part of your last post tells me you are stronger than you think. And you are exactly right -- it is never gonna be perfect and you can only do your best.

I would suggest maybe start looking for another therapist but in the meantime remember and focus on the fact that we ALL have things we need to improve on but you ARE good enough, just the way you are.