Okay okay so my mum had told me to stop being friends with this individual for so many many years. The first time was when I told my mum that he wanted to come and visit me and my mum's immediate answer was no I asked her why and she said I don't like him and I don't like how he talks about other people. I had to plead with her for him and she reluctantly agreed. After he left she even made a few comments after saying "you cooked him breakfast everyday when he was here but you don't do that to me your own mother" and I was like I will start cooking you breakfast everyday then.
I remember when he even invited me to go to his aunt's party and it was a disaster and I met his whole family there and his drunk brother ended up touching my butt and I remember him apologising to me for his brother's behaviour saying that he was an alcoholic and tbh the girl that I went with even told me to stop associating with him and I didn't speak to him for about six months until he came back again with an apology ( at the time I thought oh well it's not his fault that his brother did that to me) but I should have just distanced myself then. Him and his brother also mentioned how that girl that I went with was so ugly and why I didn't bring a better looking girl ( so rude).
One day I was sleeping in my room my mum barged into my room and I asked her what was the issue and she told me this guy "former friend" was on a tv show that she used to watch and she asked me to come and watch it with her and after watching the show with her she literally said on he is so embarrassing and a loser please stop talking to him and she said what type of person goes on national television and air his dirty laundry like that and she clearly stated that he was trouble. For the next few months he would call me I would have to hide it from my mum and until one day she overheard me speaking to him and she said I can't believe you are still speaking to him when I have told you to stop being friends with him.
A few years later I found out he had posted in a WhatsApp group that I had been intimate with him and it wasn't even true and because I was upset I told my mum and she was like that's disgusting and she said to me "what did I tell you about him I told you this guy is trouble" and she even sat me down and said "G i wish you would listen to me as your mother" and then she continued to say "please do not speak to him ever again after this" and I did listen to her and I stopped talking to him but no he came back after saying sorry to me and that he would never do such a thing again.
About some time after this my "former friend" had introduced me to his friend D, D said something to me and I told my former friend and me and him laughed about it and he even said some things himself about D to me but he ran back to D and told him and D was so angry at me that he called me and he was shouting at me on the phone.
After that I decided to distance myself from both of them because I didn't want drama and I even deleted this former friend from my Facebook and we didn't speak for about a year until he send me a message on what's app telling me how he had changed because he had become a father and oh boy I told my mum and she was like no no no and no don't go back there and unfortunately I didn't listen and that led me to me and him falling out again a few months after that and that was the beginning of my hell.
I won't go into specifics of what happened after that but oh boy that even a few year ago my mum said "If you had listened to me years ago when I told you to stop being associated with this guy, we wouldn't be in this situation" and I totally agree with her. Please anyone out there when someone shows you who they really are the first time never give them another chance because they will mostly likely end up f?cking you over and I'm taking from my own experience here.
I don't really believe in "karma" as they call it but sometimes I think this is my karma for not listening to mum back then. When you parents tells you that someone is trouble please run and never look back because one day you will look back and have nothing but regret.
I remember when he even invited me to go to his aunt's party and it was a disaster and I met his whole family there and his drunk brother ended up touching my butt and I remember him apologising to me for his brother's behaviour saying that he was an alcoholic and tbh the girl that I went with even told me to stop associating with him and I didn't speak to him for about six months until he came back again with an apology ( at the time I thought oh well it's not his fault that his brother did that to me) but I should have just distanced myself then. Him and his brother also mentioned how that girl that I went with was so ugly and why I didn't bring a better looking girl ( so rude).
One day I was sleeping in my room my mum barged into my room and I asked her what was the issue and she told me this guy "former friend" was on a tv show that she used to watch and she asked me to come and watch it with her and after watching the show with her she literally said on he is so embarrassing and a loser please stop talking to him and she said what type of person goes on national television and air his dirty laundry like that and she clearly stated that he was trouble. For the next few months he would call me I would have to hide it from my mum and until one day she overheard me speaking to him and she said I can't believe you are still speaking to him when I have told you to stop being friends with him.
A few years later I found out he had posted in a WhatsApp group that I had been intimate with him and it wasn't even true and because I was upset I told my mum and she was like that's disgusting and she said to me "what did I tell you about him I told you this guy is trouble" and she even sat me down and said "G i wish you would listen to me as your mother" and then she continued to say "please do not speak to him ever again after this" and I did listen to her and I stopped talking to him but no he came back after saying sorry to me and that he would never do such a thing again.
About some time after this my "former friend" had introduced me to his friend D, D said something to me and I told my former friend and me and him laughed about it and he even said some things himself about D to me but he ran back to D and told him and D was so angry at me that he called me and he was shouting at me on the phone.
After that I decided to distance myself from both of them because I didn't want drama and I even deleted this former friend from my Facebook and we didn't speak for about a year until he send me a message on what's app telling me how he had changed because he had become a father and oh boy I told my mum and she was like no no no and no don't go back there and unfortunately I didn't listen and that led me to me and him falling out again a few months after that and that was the beginning of my hell.
I won't go into specifics of what happened after that but oh boy that even a few year ago my mum said "If you had listened to me years ago when I told you to stop being associated with this guy, we wouldn't be in this situation" and I totally agree with her. Please anyone out there when someone shows you who they really are the first time never give them another chance because they will mostly likely end up f?cking you over and I'm taking from my own experience here.
I don't really believe in "karma" as they call it but sometimes I think this is my karma for not listening to mum back then. When you parents tells you that someone is trouble please run and never look back because one day you will look back and have nothing but regret.
