Story My ex bestfriend turns out to be a homophobe 😭

[miseryismybsf]

Nothing suicide related but I had nowhere to post so yeah.


So this was my first time coming out to anyone irl, and the first thing she said was "eww" and she kept saying "eww". Man it's so funny, I always thought she would be the most supportive one, but god dang.

 

[Forveleth]

Damn dude. I am so sorry that happened to you.

On the other hand, congrats on coming out! Lots of support for the LGBT+ community here.

 

[Dawnfang]

When I came out to my best friend like, 10 years ago, he said some crazy transphobic shit to me. It was hurtful at the time. Turns out he was just ignorant. He learned, got better, and today we're still best friends. He turned out to be one of the most important people during my transition. Hopefully, your friend will come around. It doesn't change the fact that what she said was hurtful, and apologies are in order, but I sincerely hope it isn't the end of a friendship.

 

[miseryismybsf]

When I came out to my best friend like, 10 years ago, he said some crazy transphobic shit to me. It was hurtful at the time. Turns out he was just ignorant. He learned, got better, and today we're still best friends. He turned out to be one of the most important people during my transition. Hopefully, your friend will come around. It doesn't change the fact that what she said was hurtful, and apologies are in order, but I sincerely hope it isn't the end of a friendship.

You are lucky. But nah my bsf is not like that she's never going to change ik that, but still its pretty funny that of all people the one whom I trusted so much would let me down. She literally said not to ever come close or near to her because I disgust her now. God she's acting like I'm some kind of creep or its a contagious disease. Man people are still such a homophobe in this big 2026 I can't believe it

Damn dude. I am so sorry that happened to you.

On the other hand, congrats on coming out! Lots of support for the LGBT+ community here.

Yep thanksss

 

[Dawnfang]

You are lucky. But nah my bsf is not like that she's never going to change ik that, but still its pretty funny that of all people the one whom I trusted so much would let me down. She litrally said not to ever come close or near to her because I disgust her now. God she's acting like I'm some kind of creep or its a contagious disease. Man people are still such a homophobe in this big 2026 I can't believe it

Damn, I didn't think it was this bad. That's awful. I'm sorry this happened to you. I hope you can find friends who love you and accept you for who you are. Don't let the homphobes win, keep your head up o7

 

[heal]

I am so sorry your first experience opening up to and trusting someone with such an integral part of your identity was met with rejection. You seem to be handling it quite well, but I still want to mention that their reaction was entirely subjective and not something worth internalizing. A compassionate friend would feel excited to know you have found some clarity, and touched to be trusted with your vulnerability. I know I would feel this way if I were in your friend's position.

 

[miseryismybsf]

Damn, I didn't think it was this bad. That's awful. I'm sorry this happened to you. I hope you can find friends who love you and accept you for who you are. Don't let the homphobes win, keep your head up o7

Definitely, Though I don't have anyone else to even come out lol but I hope too if in future I ever had friends I hope they are not homophobes.

I am so sorry your first experience opening up to and trusting someone with such an integral part of your identity was met with rejection. You seem to be handling it quite well, but I still want to mention that their reaction was entirely subjective and not something worth internalizing. A compassionate friend would feel excited to know you have found some clarity, and touched to be trusted with your vulnerability. I know I would feel this way if I were in your friend's position.

Our friendship was not in the best position to be continued anyway.
This incident gave me nice chance to move on, well I hope I can move on. I told myself a year ago the same but

 

[thelostautistic]

I'm so sorry OP that's truly so shit. Hopefully you'll find some more supportive friends in time.