Venting Many of my former classmates found girlfriends in a semester

[Sanva]

Which is why I said if you want to understand why this situation is occurring , check the bank and credit card statements.

Most relationships are based on monetary and attractiveness factors . That's a reality in our world. Anyone trying to believe or play it any other way I'm offering odds on whether Jennifer Aniston is more likely to date trump or some poor guy with a clean IRS audit record next year

Reality wins over all. Attractive women like rich men . Deal with it !

yeah bro you definitely understand women & this isn't an insane generalization

 

[Sanva]

Reality is very harsh. You can delude yourself for awhile but the sooner you accept it the better off you will be. One piece of advise I was given early in life is learn to manage expectations . I won't offer dishonesty to members of this venue about this subject

I've been in very happy relationships with people who weren't well off financially and not conventionally attractive in the past but clearly you know what women want more than they do themselves

you're the one deluding yourself if you think your own life experience is a general fact. there are plenty of poor people in very happy relationships & it's damaging to spew bullshit like this to vulnerable members. it's just so mind numbingly stupid to make generalizations like this

there's no point in discussing this with you because you're willingly ignorant but I do wish you weren't allowed to just say shit that's outright wrong like this to people that are very vulnerable & might believe you.

 

[KuriGohan&Kamehameha]

University is a time where most people want to explore. A lot of your friends likely befriended interesting people they enjoy hanging around, and over time developed attraction and curiosity towards deepening a particular platonic relationship. Many of your peers likely aren't vying for a long term partner or searching for a soulmate at this stage, they just sort of went along with whatever budding feelings sprung up when they developed a crush on someone.

Attraction is entirely random, and often times will hit you completely out of left field. The person you least expect to form a connection with could end up being a future partner as the heart unexpectedly grows fonder. The frustrating thing is this process is almost always out of our control. You can lose feelings for someone, but it's very hard to develop and sustain them.

With time, hopefully you can meet some chill people and form connections with them. At the very least, you may end up with some cool friends, even if you don't find a romantic match. Proper platonic relationships are just as invaluable, especially when love and lust fall through.

I understand it's very frustrating though. A guy I know who is fit, intelligent, good looks, and a complete sweetheart took years to find a girlfriend, after being burned time and time again by shallow people on dating apps who would insult him or ghost him when they'd scheduled a date. He couldn't find a single person on those toxic cesspools of piss taking. Then out of nowhere, a random girl from his course started taking a liking to him and wanting to watch films with him. No one predicted that at all.

My point is, there's no real method to finding compatible people except to minmax your socialising and meeting loads of strangers, which is no easy task, I'm aware. When the right person comes along, you'll know it. Good luck with your love quest, mate.

 

[SuicidallyCurious]

I've been in very happy relationships with people who weren't well off financially and not conventionally attractive in the past but clearly you know what women want more than they do themselves

you're the one deluding yourself if you think your own life experience is a general fact. there are plenty of poor people in very happy relationships & it's damaging to spew bullshit like this to vulnerable members. it's just so mind numbingly stupid to make generalizations like this

there's no point in discussing this with you because you're willingly ignorant but I do wish you weren't allowed to just say shit that's outright wrong like this to people that are very vulnerable & might believe you.

You can open economic datasets on the longevity of different relationships.

Relationships among the poor are a disaster , usually very short lived. Most successful and stable marriages are in the high income brackets

I'm sorry, I wish reality could've been different too. It just doesn't go the way we want it to go. People may not want to know this information but truth is truth

 

[Maaizr]

Since no one mentioned this, maybe they went to courses where there are more girls than guys, so they're in a more predominantely female enviromnent which makes it easier

this is most likely the case, OP's friends played strikeout all semester

 

[Journeytoletgo]

hey I have a question, do you have people around you share a common interest with? A friendship group or something? Usually that's how one can meet someone for dating