Maintaining appearances/taking care of yourself?

[prince345]

Hi y'all, I'm pretty new to this site.
I moved in with my family, and while I'm saving up to get a new place I'm finding it really hard to maintain a healthy lifestyle. I'm not taking care of myself and my family is starting to notice. When I'm not working, I tend to stay in my room until nighttime (I have a horrible sleep schedule and insomnia), often going 24 hours without eating and neglecting my hygiene and hydration. It was easier to hide when I lived alone. So I guess the question is, do you guys have the strength to keep appearances up while feeling this way? If so, how?

 

[WorthlessTrash]

Nope because i will hate my body regardless so why bother?

 

[Klo]

I don't have the energy or the will to do better right now. You shouldn't be hard on yourself if you can't do more right now.

 

[W’ren]

i don't have energy or desire or care to make myself look like something im not (ie make up) but i was never one to wear any.

i do brush my hair as it's very long and i like to keep it soft.

i find showering exhausting so i try not to be too judgemental with myself when i can't manage it… but i live alone and no one gives a shit about me most days so i can get away with it since no one knows, cares or is around to notice.

 

[Weebster]

I shower twice a week. I brush teeth every day. I shave twice a month. I wear the same outfit around the house for days at a time. The people I live with think I'm gross lol. I make sure I'm presentable if I have to leave the house.

 

[prince345]

Nope because i will hate my body regardless so why bother?

I'm sincerely sorry you feel that way.

I shower twice a week. I brush teeth every day. I shave twice a month. I wear the same outfit around the house for days at a time. The people I live with think I'm gross lol. I make sure I'm presentable if I have to leave the house.

Yeah I can relate. I also make sure I'm presentable when I leave the house but otherwise I'm very neglectful to myself

i don't have energy or desire or care to make myself look like something im not (ie make up) but i was never one to wear any.

i do brush my hair as it's very long and i like to keep it soft.

i find showering exhausting so i try not to be too judgemental with myself when i can't manage it… but i live alone and no one gives a shit about me most days so i can get away with it since no one knows, cares or is around to notice.

i empathize with you, I find showering exhausting too. I miss the days when I didn't live with my family ; I feel guilty often now.

 

[AloneInCollege]

I try to shower two or three times a week but it can be hard. One good motivator is that I shave in the shower and I hate the feeling of having facial hair so that can get me in there. Brushing my teeth has been something I've had an issue with since I was a child, I've had lots of cavities, actually had to get like 6 of them filled before I flew off to college, and they didn't even do it right and some of my teeth still hurt when I drank water and the like. With my wacky sleep schedule and the fact that I'm not going out or doing anything during my days I brush my teeth like maybe 4 times a week on a good week. I'm gross and I wish I wasn't but I feel like I cant change it. Though even if I shower and brush my teeth, my teeth are still pretty yellow and I'm extremely not pleasant to look at so I guess it doesn't really matter lol.

 

[Slimetae]

I don't shower every day since I don't go anywhere brush my teeth sometimes wear the same stuff for multiple days don't shave often hard to find the energy when I just lay around all day anyways.

 

[Graytaichi]

U need medication. Valium or xanax . Take 2 when feel tired. Sleep deprive will make your blood presssure v high and its not good.take good care of yourself.

 

[fillthevoid]

I shower or bath once a week. I brush my hair usually once a week after I shower. I do try to brush my teeth twice a day but often it's just once a day that I actually manage, or not at all on my worst days. I wear the same clothes for days at a time, including the same socks and sometimes the same underwear too. If I'm going out I do put something clean on as I can't exactly go out in pyjamas lol. But it will just be jeans and a t-shirt/hoodie. I wouldn't say I look presentable.

I do eat everyday but I have no schedule, I just eat when I'm really hungry so I'll often fast all day and then have a huge meal / multiple meals later on. It's rare nowadays that I cook. So I'll usually fill up on fast food or binge on snacks.

Sometimes I apply cosmetic products after I shower that smell really good, like moisturizer etc. This is the most 'put together' and good that I ever feel in terms of looking after myself.

 

[hopelessdreams]

i don't have the strength to keep up
appearances too, it comes in waves. i can look presentable even if i didn't shower for a week, i also don't smell bad very fast, so i'm kinda lucky with that. i you're a girl, i suggest to just do a clawclip in your hair. it's really easy and actually looks nice. for clothes, i hide in the same ones but change them up when i go outside.
i don't have the strength to keep up
appearances too, it comes in waves. i can look presentable even if i didn't shower for a week, i also don't smell bad very fast, so i'm kinda lucky with that. i you're a girl, i suggest to just do a clawclip in your hair. it's really easy and actually looks nice. for clothes, i hide in the same ones but change them up when i go outside.

 

[Ligottian]

I'm pretty decent as far as personal appearance. I have very oily hair and if I don't shampoo at least every other day I will look like a homeless person who sleeps in the woods. My housekeeping is quite another story.

 

[outatime_85]

My ability to keep up appearances is lacking, to say the least.

I still try to get in some burpees, body weight squats, push-ups, etc.

I do dress as neatly as possible, but I will wear the same clothes until it is time to wash them.

I shower when I reek or if it is absolutely necessary.

I don't worry about shaving anymore. I brush my teeth with the bare minimum, i.e., a wet tooth brush and no paste.

I don't eat every day, and when I do, it is usually just eggs, bone broth, and fruit things that are easy.

 

[FuneralCry]

I have to force myself to do such repetitive and meaningless tasks. I hate it all. To me, it is horrifying that this life is even a thing in the first place. I do not want to experience anything ever again, all that I want is to be gone. All that humans do is just pass the time until they die, and it is all so depressing. I see life as being so pointless and unnecessary, I was perfectly fine not existing until I was forced to live. I will never not be tired of living. I know that I am not meant for this world and I want the peace that only death can bring.