Venting Love isn't real

[highjumping]

I feel pathetic for typing this but I have to get it out of me.
I've been talking to a guy for some time and we fell in love and breifly dated.
He then ghosted me and is still ghosting me without any reason. Today he posted a picture of him kissing another person. I feel terrible.
Why did he date me and then ghost me and now is posting couple pics with someone else? What did I do wrong?
I feel like it's my fault, how pathetic I am.
Nobody will ever love me, I hate myself so much.
I'm sorry.

 

[conarc]

Love is a scam, thats for sure. I am sorry.

 

[highjumping]

Love is a scam, thats for sure. I am sorry.

but why? why can't things just work?

 

[conarc]

but why? why can't things just work?

unfortunately, humans are evil.

 

[Darkover]

Never get too attached to anyone unless they also feel the same towards you, because one sided expectations can mentally destroy you.

people are selfish and only care about themselves

 

[snowlance]

I feel pathetic for typing this but I have to get it out of me.
I've been talking to a guy for some time and we fell in love and breifly dated.
He then ghosted me and is still ghosting me without any reason. Today he posted a picture of him kissing another person. I feel terrible.
Why did he date me and then ghost me and now is posting couple pics with someone else? What did I do wrong?
I feel like it's my fault, how pathetic I am.
Nobody will ever love me, I hate myself so much.
I'm sorry.

I did hear love is literally just our instinct to breed. So you're probably right it isn't real.

 

[highjumping]

Never get too attached to anyone unless they also feel the same towards you, because one sided expectations can mentally destroy you.

people are selfish and only care about themselves

he said he felt the same and we dated for some time, idk what the hell I did wrong
but yea, I still get too attached

 

[ZedZeo]

I'm sorry that happened. I wish love was real but… well. You know.

It would be so nice if we could each find someone that cares about us. But it doesn't seem possible for some of us

 

[Rational man]

We are better off alone than with a love cheat. If theres no honesty then its not love. Ive been through it twice and its crippling. You give of your self unconditionally and some people take advantage of it. So im on my own now and feel better in myself. Love cheats are liars and they are selfish. What could anyone give or take to that sort of relationship....So sorry to hear this news but really its not your fault if this has happened and he committed to you in the first place.

 

[Brown-Jacket Revy]

You didn't do anything wrong.

The guy was a coward who couldn't even have to balls to speak to you about breaking up, so ghosts you and denies you any explanations or closure.

He's a piece of shit.

Please do not base your value as a person upon people like him.

 

[macrocosm]

I feel pathetic for typing this but I have to get it out of me.
I've been talking to a guy for some time and we fell in love and breifly dated.
He then ghosted me and is still ghosting me without any reason. Today he posted a picture of him kissing another person. I feel terrible.
Why did he date me and then ghost me and now is posting couple pics with someone else? What did I do wrong?
I feel like it's my fault, how pathetic I am.
Nobody will ever love me, I hate myself so much.
I'm sorry.

His actions have nothing to do with you. His actions are his own, and are not a reflection of you or of anything you've done. But your feelings are common; a lot of people look down on themselves when relationships don't go well.

There are millions of other people out there. You are more than worthy and more deserving of the right person to fall in love with. You will find it eventually

 

[F&Inside]

Hello.
I'm sorry about what happened to you, it sounds like childish behavior on his part. A real man would never do something like that. So, if you feel that you are not reciprocated, that you do not receive what you give, it is better to leave it and find someone who does. I recommend you find a person with more maturity, if this person corresponds to you, you will not have those problems. You are going to live a beautiful experience, with someone who truly loves you. You will notice an abysmal difference, then it will be worth fighting for that love.

 

[MyChoiceAlone]

i agree. don't waste your time or emotions on scum. may i ask if you were on this site while dating him?

 

[SexyIncél]

You're not pathetic. Dude sounds low quality. And the problem is, the world's full of people like him. The ones who aren't? They're often snapped up off "the dating market" by people who appreciate basic decency

Aristotle said that most friendships (including what we call romantic relationships) aren't enduring: those based on pleasure & usefulness. Pleasures & usefulness change

However, friendships based on compatible virtues are enduring. Plus, they're both pleasurable & useful. Unfortunately, such people are hard to find, because building virtues requires effort. (Like intellectual & moral virtues — you build them by teaching others & practicing moral actions)

Maybe it's best to let guys come & go. Because most relationships are pleasure-based. Like candy. You can even play games of 'love' to increase the pleasure

You can even do it morally. If you break up with a decent guy, maybe help him find replacements! That's what I do

 

[MyChoiceAlone]

i guess it's confession time? i loved this girl head to toe. but she had to leave to her country after uni. i did not know when i'd ever see her again. i spent a fortune just calling her (international calls were not cheap back then). i would have never thought this would happen but yeah i cheated on her. male hormones at that age are hard? to overcome. won't pun there again. i felt sooo guilty. i could have not said a thing but i called her and told her what happened. i can still hear her voice in my head decades later 'don't call me again' and she hung up.

stories of highschool sweethearts in their 60's+ amaze me. you know what though? you don't need to stick to one person. there are so many opportunities out there if you want to try. there are shitheads like me and below. don't base your life on one bad experience. just always be careful.

 

[Wormfood]

He's probably an avoidant. That's typical for them.

 

[SexyIncél]

i guess it's confession time? i loved this girl head to toe. but she had to leave to her country after uni. i did not know when i'd ever see her again. i spent a fortune just calling her (international calls were not cheap back then). i would have never thought this would happen but yeah i cheated on her. male hormones at that age are hard? to overcome. won't pun there again. i felt sooo guilty. i could have not said a thing but i called her and told her what happened. i can still hear her voice in my head decades later 'don't call me again' and she hung up.

Interesting point! Sane societies should have a concept of people attracted to multiple others. Who best pair with people who aren't jealous, or even enjoy watching their partner indulge

There's a term for the latter (cucks), but weirdly it's somehow considered a bad thing! Even though it could help solve soooo many problems — like the sheer destructiveness of jealousy, a miserable affliction