For the people who are wanting to loll themselves over a lost love, understand that you are valid and so are your reasons. Do not let privileged fools on this forum shame you out of your choice, because I see that a lot with this topic.
To start, don't believe these people who tell you "it gets better" when it comes to losing the love of your life. That's always coming out of the mouths of people who truly have never loved so deeply. They then explain a situation with a lover of their past, acting like they can relate to what you're going through, and then when they're done telling their shitty story you laugh because their situation is absolutely nothing like yours but they sure think it is because they want to be quirky and relatable. There is not "somebody for everybody" and if you lost your somebody, then you'll be struggling to find another and you can't fake feelings for someone. I also don't encourage you to settle. There is NO promise you'll find true love again in fact, that's a small chance you'll find exactly what fulfills you again unless you lower your standards and force yourself to enjoy a mediocre woman or man (I don't recommend that) I just simply ignore the "you'll find someone else it gets better" people because I'm on my fourth year and it's gotten worse.When you've done drugs and therapy for years with no results, as well as tried many other things, you're only masking your feelings. If you're in this position too where you truly have tried everything (including dating other people) and you know that person was your soulmate and you can't move on let me share with you what helped me not get over, but accept I cannot fall in love again….
I was going to a group session where men and women well into their forties and even sixties talked about how they lost their true love and never moved on. This has been comforting to know I'm not alone, and I hope it helps you too. Among the idiots who were lucky to find compatibility again and who live in this fantasy land that love is abundant, there are sane people who have gone through exactly what me and you are, and they are in groups for this.
It's not uncommon to never get over someone. It means you truly fell in love with that person and it's hard, I know. It's a very hard thing, but know you aren't alone and through these groups, I learned this is WAY more common than we may realize. There are many people who are married that secretly know they had to settle for that scrap of a person because they couldn't have who they truly love, but they will NEVER tell their spouse that they were the settling option.
I share this because learning this made me feel a bit better about losing my love.
It didn't change my thoughts on killing myself, but it did comfort me knowing so many are struggling with the same thing.
I hope it helps you too
To start, don't believe these people who tell you "it gets better" when it comes to losing the love of your life. That's always coming out of the mouths of people who truly have never loved so deeply. They then explain a situation with a lover of their past, acting like they can relate to what you're going through, and then when they're done telling their shitty story you laugh because their situation is absolutely nothing like yours but they sure think it is because they want to be quirky and relatable. There is not "somebody for everybody" and if you lost your somebody, then you'll be struggling to find another and you can't fake feelings for someone. I also don't encourage you to settle. There is NO promise you'll find true love again in fact, that's a small chance you'll find exactly what fulfills you again unless you lower your standards and force yourself to enjoy a mediocre woman or man (I don't recommend that) I just simply ignore the "you'll find someone else it gets better" people because I'm on my fourth year and it's gotten worse.When you've done drugs and therapy for years with no results, as well as tried many other things, you're only masking your feelings. If you're in this position too where you truly have tried everything (including dating other people) and you know that person was your soulmate and you can't move on let me share with you what helped me not get over, but accept I cannot fall in love again….
I was going to a group session where men and women well into their forties and even sixties talked about how they lost their true love and never moved on. This has been comforting to know I'm not alone, and I hope it helps you too. Among the idiots who were lucky to find compatibility again and who live in this fantasy land that love is abundant, there are sane people who have gone through exactly what me and you are, and they are in groups for this.
It's not uncommon to never get over someone. It means you truly fell in love with that person and it's hard, I know. It's a very hard thing, but know you aren't alone and through these groups, I learned this is WAY more common than we may realize. There are many people who are married that secretly know they had to settle for that scrap of a person because they couldn't have who they truly love, but they will NEVER tell their spouse that they were the settling option.
I share this because learning this made me feel a bit better about losing my love.
It didn't change my thoughts on killing myself, but it did comfort me knowing so many are struggling with the same thing.
I hope it helps you too
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