Hi. So I am a sikh from india and I met a girl online on Facebook who is muslim and is from pakistan. It started in 2015. We talked to each other and fell in love. There were phases in our relationship when we talked and didn't talked. Last time I made a mistake and i verbally abused her. Since then she stopped talking talking to me and blocked me. I am unable to find her on internet. I even talked to some of her friends on internet but I am unable to find her. Now either I will run from my home and cross border illegally to meet her or I will commit suicide. I have not been able to talk to her since approximately last six months. I badly miss her. I have attempted suicide many times in my life but failed. I think I will practice hanging in my life till I get successful and commit suicide.
There may be another alternative. She has decided against you after some verbal abuse, and you probably can't change that. But there is a bright side- you proved that you could win a girl over. A better approach could be to start chatting with other girls online until you start to get a connection, and then learn from your previous mistake and be careful to avoid verbal abuse. You can gain confidence from having gotten pretty far this time, learn from your mistake, and get love to work out next time. May next time try to meet within a few months. I hope you can find peace somehow.
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Littlewittlelight
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- Sep 3, 2022
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If you make another account and try to search for her account or if you had her e-mail or phone then you could reach out and tell how you feel and I don't know what happened but it feels being in a relationship for 7 years and then just ghosting the other person without telling why sounds really hard. I can only imagine what you might be going through. There are spats between people but why someone wants to ghost you is hard. Do you know love I was just reading*la belle dame sans merci by John Keats*. It couldn't bring me to tears because there was someone sitting infront of me but I felt love is destruction too and I don't know in todays world. I am not a saint either but once someone leaves it just hurts so much but I haven't got to live that way so I don't know what love means. Maybe I will regret it when my time is very near as it's just around the corner at the moment but that's something I shouldn't have read.
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can I ask if you could seek help? We know loss of relationship is a loss too and that is as big as losing other things must be hard for you and is there a way you could reach her? Because if someone loves you and you let them know how you feel. Do they give you another chance? I don't know what happened but you could find her if you had her email or phone number by going to whichever sites she maybe on and using those to find her even if she changed her user it should pop up unless she has chosen not to be found by number I think.
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hamvil
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- Aug 29, 2022
- 650
Learn from mistakes and get to know other girls. She is not the only one in the world. Unless you think you cannot get other girls for some particular reason.
FlowersInTheRain
Member
- Sep 8, 2022
- 11
I am sorry to hear about your difficulties 
Very sorry to hear about that. I would advise you move on or don't try to find her at movement. May be she need some space and more abscess you are, more likely she will run away further.
𣴠nadia π£΄
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- Dec 15, 2021
- 252
I don't think this is a good idea tbh, if she had just ghosted him without blocking, then that would mean she's still open to communication, or at least willing to hear him out. But she blocked him which is a clear sign that she's not ready to talk to him at all right now, his best bet is to give her some time and space, if she wants to come back, she will. Also, he knows the reason for the ghosting, he said it was because of verbal abuse.
SunshineAndSuicide
Sunshine is what's keeping me alive
- Aug 24, 2022
- 75
Respect her wishes to end communication with you and move on. She has a very valid reason for ending it with you, as there is no excuse for verbally abusing the one you "love" and she has the right to decide to not put up with it even for a moment.
FuneralCry
Just wanting some peace
- Sep 24, 2020
- 43,993
That must be hard to deal with. Living can be very painful as we cannot go back in time and change things, we have to deal with the consequences of our actions. It must had been awful going through those failed ctb attempts. It's just so unfair how it can be this difficult to leave this life behind.
This is a harsh truth but I think I have to accept it.
That is a smart and mature response. The bright side is that you proved you could win a girl over, so you could win another girl over- but next time meet much more quickly, hopefully within a few months.
𣴠nadia π£΄
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- Dec 15, 2021
- 252
I think the reason they didn't meet up even after 7 years together is because it'd be very difficult for someone from India and Pakistan to meet up because of geopolitical barriers. It also would've been unlikely that they could take the relationship further because of religious/cultural obstacles unless they both moved abroad.
I even told to her that we could to canada and marry there. But it seemed like a difficult choice for her.
May be because if the religion I guess. You usually can feel better during the time.
Yes, asking people to leave their family behind to get married can lead to loneliness that is too much. It would be better to try to find someone whose family would accept you and someone who your family would accept.
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