Life is really shit when you’re ugly and been isolated I can’t even feel emotions and now I know too much and can’t enjoy society

[Lost Magic]

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Everybody has a different view on what is beautiful. You are a beautiful person, not ugly. Saying that I have body conscious issues so I do get where you are coming from. The internet is my lifeline.

 

[BluesRunTheGame]

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

Oh it definitely isn't. Ugly people are treated worse than others constantly and it's both objective and universal.

 

[lonewolf22]

Unless you are monstrously hideous with severe facial deformities, you aren't really ugly, just average.

 

[Lost Magic]

Oh it definitely isn't. Ugly people are treated worse than others constantly and it's both objective and universal.

The people who call others ugly are the real ugly ones. Society is ugly.

 

[FuneralCry]

It is all so unfair, in this life many people are disadvantaged through no fault of their own. Some people are just luckier than others and that is just the way that life is. This life really is so depressing and I want nothing to do with this horrible world. It is sad how so much suffering exists.

 

[Eternaloblivionplea]

This is why being ugly is horrible because it forces you to stay glued to tech without social interaction

If it helps I get hit on by women and men. Still choose solitary confinement with technology.

 

[BluesRunTheGame]

The people who call others ugly are the real ugly ones. Society is ugly.

I would say that the people who reject people for being ugly but then be disingenuous about their reasons for rejection are more ugly. But yes that is alas a part of this sick society.

 

[dustyfurcollector]

Being ugly is complicated socially but that doesn't mean you can't do a lot of things.

Soaking as a person so ugly ppl look startled a lot of the time I open the door when they knock. I have actually seen ppl physically pull away with a fake smile plastered on their face. And I'm not deformed in anyway. I'm just ugly. I still feel depression, but I don't feel anything else either. And I don't know how to interact with anyone bc being on disability I don't have to go out except for very specific short time things a CPL times a week. I don't know how ugly ppl who have to work do it every day. I have made respect for every one of them, bci feel seriously depressed after the facade slips on sometimes face and you realize they're accepting you as their token ugly person. Or your having a normal conversation and you see the look in their eyes for just a second. Yeah I know you're really gross but I'm using my manners not to let you think I recognize it and that it surely doesn't matter. I have manners. Look at me not treating you like the ugly person you are.

 

[not-2-b-the-answer]

This is why being ugly is horrible because it forces you to stay glued to tech without social interaction

That's why I'm here. Sorry you suffer the same fate.

 

[Zegers]

And I don't know how to interact with anyone bc being on disability I don't have to go out except for very specific short time things a CPL times a week.

I was rejected a lot since HS too because of the disability and you know what? I don't care. If people reject you, it's their problem, not yours.

 

[not-2-b-the-answer]

If it helps I get hit on by women and men. Still choose solitary confinement with technology.

Well... You have two more options than I do. I'm dumb so I wouldn't know if either one was hitting on me.

 

[hellispink]

Once I matured enough, I realized for me that it doesn't matter how we look. We decide what we give importance to. After all we just bones that mean nothing and take nothing with us. Smaller things for me are the greatest. Just because something "shines" doesn't make it good. I mean, we believe and have standards on what is beautiful or not because of social construction. I question myself everything. And when i see that some people find one thing beautiful and another can find it the ugliest, I understand that it doesnt matter at all.

 

[AloneInCollege]

Well... You have two more options than I do. I'm dumb so I wouldn't know if either one was hitting on me.

IDK, I know the joke is that guys are dumb and don't know when they're being hit on. But it's pretty obvious to me when people are hitting on each other, I've seen it a lot, and I sure as hell have never seen it happen to me.

You are a beautiful person, not ugly.

I appreciate that, but I'm gonna have to hard disagree there lol

 

[Superdeterminist]

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Everybody has a different view on what is beautiful. You are a beautiful person, not ugly. Saying that I have body conscious issues so I do get where you are coming from. The internet is my lifeline.

Can you really say someone is beautiful without having seen them? Or do you mean beautiful in the more figurative sense?

 

[Journeytoletgo]

The thing is my skin and hairiness other than that I'm not even that ugly. I just need to fix that and my jaw and chin and I'll be fine I should have stayed a virgin until then and built up my financial literacy, dance, and martial arts

The way I was trained was through dysfunction, not the worse though. And turned to medications, sex and alcohol to cope with trauma which didn't end well in now stronger and I'm just saving for plastic surgery because I'm too cowardice to CTB but I still can't get over the fact that porn and masturbation led me to be used by that south Asian man and I abused alcohol and had a one night stand the things I would have never thought I'd do happened to me. Smh

 

[WorthlessTrash]

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Everybody has a different view on what is beautiful. You are a beautiful person, not ugly. Saying that I have body conscious issues so I do get where you are coming from. The internet is my lifeline.

And if no one considers you attractive and you don't feel that way about yourself, wouldn't it be fair to say you are objectively unattractive? After all one beholds you as such. This sounds really copium tbh.

Let me ask this. Do you find 400 lbs ppl with a triple chin attractive? If so, what is physically attractive about that? How about someone with awful teeth? I mean you said beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Would you behold the attractive label to them?

Just feels like toxic positivity and COPIUM to me.

 

[veryhappyhuman]

The whole "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" thing is too simplistic when applied to humans. The issue is actually fairly complex with different underlying factors. Firstly it's not just facial features that affect your beauty but also a certain "vibe" (for lack of a better term) those features give out, not considering behavioral factors. That's why sometimes we can find someone looks ok in a photo but not when interacting with them (again, not considering their behavior).
Secondly, adults these days tend to be too PC about commenting on others looks to their face, so there is no way you can get honest feedback about your appearance from them. That's why in my opinion the best arbiter of someone's attractiveness tend to be babies and young kids, and the way they react to you. Kids are too immature to be PC and will just reflect the first thought in their mind when they see something. If they recoil in horror and try to move away from you after just one look at your face (as plenty of kids have done to me), then you're objectively, genuinely hideous and there's no hope lol. If this is the case, any adult who says you're good looking is just plain lying to your face. If, OTOH, they smile at you and/or want you to pick them up etc, then you're probably ok. That's imo the bare minimum standard.

 

[8evergo]

asmah liebe und Schönheit kommt vom innen wer das äußere shit ist blind

 

[GetMeOut]

I'm a pretty attractive young woman and most of my boyfriends have been....not attractive.
What mattered to me was their intelligence and more importantly, how we meshed. If you click with someone, that likely changes how you see them. I also admired qualities in them.
On the flip side, even though I'm attractive and have an elegant physique and face, I am a mess, bipolar all. So since my body language, behavior, and general representation reflects my inner state, I seem a lot less attractive than I am.

I like you. You're very funny.

It's really tedious having to read this sort of crap even here on SS.

 

[stoiccactus]

Get off social media and you'll release there are ugly people everywhere

 

[Superdeterminist]

Get off social media and you'll release there are ugly people everywhere

It's...depressing. That being attractive is a privilege reserved only for the chosen few.

 

[not-2-b-the-answer]

IDK, I know the joke is that guys are dumb and don't know when they're being hit on. But it's pretty obvious to me when people are hitting on each other, I've seen it a lot, and I sure as hell have never seen it happen to me.

If it's happened to me, I definitely didn't know. I don't even know how to flirt, at least I don't think so.
I hope I don't do it with guys. I actually made a thread awhile ago about subconscious flirting. I don't think there were many responses. I think I try to be nice to people and it can be misinterpreted. I just don't want to be creepy.

 

[Mocon33]

As someone who may be considered half ugly or "decent looking" by the generous, as a man, you need money to make up for bad looks. Some will say personality matters and it absolutely does, but to KEEP a woman as an ugly guy, you need money, and a good amount.

I've been with many women, but I can't keep them, because I'm poor for American standards. It doesn't help that I'm not good at math, and I can't afford higher education much. I'm also bad at sales, so I'm screwed in life. My only hope realistically is the lottery or some kind of big break that's never found me.

Hopefully I can die sooner than later, my family and possibly some friends are the only thing keeping me around. Otherwise, I'd swallow some sodium nitrate tonight.

So true. As someone who is ugly adjacent ( short and chubby) you really need money to play on the mating market. On the other hand, there are good things to do in life that don't involve women.

 

[Mtnwildflowers]

Attractive people have suicidal depression too. Don't kid yourself. Becoming attractive won't rid you of severe mental illness.

 

[Journeytoletgo]

as an unattractive woman you can only rope tbh

Is it that bad? It can't be that bad. I'm sorry you suffer

 

[BluesRunTheGame]

Attractive people have suicidal depression too. Don't kid yourself. Becoming attractive won't rid you of severe mental illness.

Of course I agree with this but they would have a lot more chance of support. The depressed uggo? No one cares.

 

[Mtnwildflowers]

Of course I agree with this but they would have a lot more chance of support. The depressed uggo? No one cares.

if that support is based off of superficial things like attractiveness, is that really support you want? Nope.

 

[BluesRunTheGame]

if that support is based off of superficial things like attractiveness, is that really support you want? Nope.

I'd take anything right now tbh.

 

[Message In A Bottle]

I'm passable as stoic but as soon as I show emotion I look so ugly. I have big eyes and a small mouth. So when I smile I look like this:

So yeah, I get what your going through. Doesn't help there's jerks who'll take advantage of this and use it as a tool of mockery :(

 

[DarkRocket]

if that support is based off of superficial things like attractiveness, is that really support you want? Nope.

LOL I'd be happy to take that support. I know guys who have women give them credit cards or money for being good looking or attractive. I know a guy who can leave a state and easily shack up with a well off woman a few weeks later. When I say well off, I mean women who will let him live rent free for weeks or months. And he has 5 kids.

Me? I'm lucky if I get a bag of weed from a woman. The only generous woman I've truly ever met was my mom (she brought me into this terrible world, so that's debatable). Other women treat me as something to be used, either for a sexual curiosity (rare) or the good friend or more likely, a commodity that can help pay a phone bill. The older I get, the more I see the truth about the world: it's a terrible place.

So true. As someone who is ugly adjacent ( short and chubby) you really need money to play on the mating market. On the other hand, there are good things to do in life that don't involve women.

Yeah, I'm playing an unhealthy amount of videogames lately. I also find myself getting high and day dreaming a lot since I broke up with my ex last year. It doesn't help that I'm 5'4, so triple edge whammy against me......short, relatively below average looks, and broke after bills. I'm shocked I haven't ran into traffic yet.