This is why being ugly is horrible because it forces you to stay glued to tech without social interaction
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I can't feel emotions either iand I don't really mess with social media . shouldn't be calling yourself ugly tho
Zegers
Enlightened
- Dec 15, 2021
- 1,758
Being ugly is complicated socially but that doesn't mean you can't do a lot of things.
WorthlessTrash
Worthless
- Apr 19, 2022
- 2,430
Yeah, lookism is definitely a thing in society.
I am anti social. I just prefer to be alone. It works for me. With that in mind there are countless things you can do besides playing on your phone and or computer. Just need to put on your shoes and walk out the door, go for a walk, maybe take up exercise. Take up reading, there are just so many options.
Join a dating site. There are options.
Join a dating site. There are options.
Red
Warlock
- Apr 10, 2019
- 744
I feel so bad for those that are so incredibly hung up on this… IMO it doesn't matter as much as some might think.
I've known many people who have not had "conventionally attractive" features yet still had major success with those that they are attracted to. These people shine from within and this surpasses any perceived outer "ugliness" in every case.
I've met a variety of "alternative" type people and have known several who you might be frightened to bump into on a dark night lol but get to know them and they quickly become desirable; some have a quick wit, or endless patience and positivity; some light up when talking about something they are passionate about; some simply have an animation to them that softens their features and the face that others see when they interact with the world is actually much different from their still, disappointed face in the mirror.
Conversely, bitterness can make even the most gorgeous looking person ugly in no time at all. It not only affects mood and interactions and whatnot but does horrible things to the features on the outside too; an angry glint in the eye, a tight-lipped smile, maybe even a sneer - all these tiny presentations can ring alarm bells, the initially "beautiful" face becomes unsettling and turns people off, often without them even fully registering it.
I know it's hard not to get hung up on stuff like this, as some people are shallow as hell, but those that really matter don't give a shit about what arrangements or shapes your features are in!! Thinking that outward appearance matters so completely only hobbles you further - you can't shine from within if you're smothering your own flame
I know that some people are so down on themselves that they would then argue that they also have no redeeming qualities to compensate for their apparent "ugliness", however there is always something to be proud of and to accentuate, and many more to discover and develop as you move through life.
If you're working to EVOLVE as best you can, in any way you can, you can find someone to love you sooner or later. If you're always trying to be better tomorrow that you were yesterday, even if it's something small, like showing a mite more tolerance, or learning something new, or being a bit kinder, or whatever, you're slowly progressing and becoming more desirable; tweaking out the bad bits and inflating and adding to the good bits is what getting older and learning from your experience is all about. It's that forward motion that should drive all of us and if you are pushing forward with your best intentions then someone will want to come along for the ride somewhere along the line, guaranteed.
TL;DR: please don't get too hung up on physical attractiveness! The best bits of people are on the inside; if you're always trying to be better your inner light will grow in intensity and shine like a beacon to draw people in
I've known many people who have not had "conventionally attractive" features yet still had major success with those that they are attracted to. These people shine from within and this surpasses any perceived outer "ugliness" in every case.
I've met a variety of "alternative" type people and have known several who you might be frightened to bump into on a dark night lol but get to know them and they quickly become desirable; some have a quick wit, or endless patience and positivity; some light up when talking about something they are passionate about; some simply have an animation to them that softens their features and the face that others see when they interact with the world is actually much different from their still, disappointed face in the mirror.
Conversely, bitterness can make even the most gorgeous looking person ugly in no time at all. It not only affects mood and interactions and whatnot but does horrible things to the features on the outside too; an angry glint in the eye, a tight-lipped smile, maybe even a sneer - all these tiny presentations can ring alarm bells, the initially "beautiful" face becomes unsettling and turns people off, often without them even fully registering it.
I know it's hard not to get hung up on stuff like this, as some people are shallow as hell, but those that really matter don't give a shit about what arrangements or shapes your features are in!! Thinking that outward appearance matters so completely only hobbles you further - you can't shine from within if you're smothering your own flame
I know that some people are so down on themselves that they would then argue that they also have no redeeming qualities to compensate for their apparent "ugliness", however there is always something to be proud of and to accentuate, and many more to discover and develop as you move through life.
If you're working to EVOLVE as best you can, in any way you can, you can find someone to love you sooner or later. If you're always trying to be better tomorrow that you were yesterday, even if it's something small, like showing a mite more tolerance, or learning something new, or being a bit kinder, or whatever, you're slowly progressing and becoming more desirable; tweaking out the bad bits and inflating and adding to the good bits is what getting older and learning from your experience is all about. It's that forward motion that should drive all of us and if you are pushing forward with your best intentions then someone will want to come along for the ride somewhere along the line, guaranteed.
TL;DR: please don't get too hung up on physical attractiveness! The best bits of people are on the inside; if you're always trying to be better your inner light will grow in intensity and shine like a beacon to draw people in
avenueofbrokendreams
Member
- Feb 7, 2021
- 5
I'm a pretty attractive young woman and most of my boyfriends have been....not attractive.
What mattered to me was their intelligence and more importantly, how we meshed. If you click with someone, that likely changes how you see them. I also admired qualities in them.
On the flip side, even though I'm attractive and have an elegant physique and face, I am a mess, bipolar all. So since my body language, behavior, and general representation reflects my inner state, I seem a lot less attractive than I am.
If I was confident and had all the qualities a wished I did, I think I would be more comparable to Grace Kelly (a compliment I received from a stranger before I opened my mouth lol)
What nature gives us isn't fair, but it can be worked around. Easier said than done, but if you are able to be confident, even if it's fake, then I think you'll see people treat you differently. Especially if you do so while being kind and making others feel good. That's a huge part of winning people over.
Dale Carnegie might be some help there. And remember that the thing about confidence is no one knows if it's real or not :^)
What mattered to me was their intelligence and more importantly, how we meshed. If you click with someone, that likely changes how you see them. I also admired qualities in them.
On the flip side, even though I'm attractive and have an elegant physique and face, I am a mess, bipolar all. So since my body language, behavior, and general representation reflects my inner state, I seem a lot less attractive than I am.
If I was confident and had all the qualities a wished I did, I think I would be more comparable to Grace Kelly (a compliment I received from a stranger before I opened my mouth lol)
What nature gives us isn't fair, but it can be worked around. Easier said than done, but if you are able to be confident, even if it's fake, then I think you'll see people treat you differently. Especially if you do so while being kind and making others feel good. That's a huge part of winning people over.
Dale Carnegie might be some help there. And remember that the thing about confidence is no one knows if it's real or not :^)
What a superficial society we all live in. Where things that are out of our control can change how people treat each other.
It's so messed up, how love can just be taken away just because of looks. How a parent can just abandon a child just for being born too ugly.
It's like all the comments on inspirational stories about people that live with their appearance. They all comment that person is so brave and beautiful on the inside and out; all while being secretly greatful they don't look that ugly or even deformed.
The fact that overcoming and learning to live with being different or ugly is something inspiring in the first place says it all. Because the ugly get treated horribly, that looking a certian way can make life harder.
I know, it's so hard to look in the mirror and even think a positive thing when all you get is disgust from others.
Sometimes, I foolishly wish all humans were blind. What is the point of sight if we can't look beyond appearances. That just a random arrangement of cells is enough to judge a person on.
loving or even just being okay with your looks, I wish it was that easy. No amount of reassurance or compliments from people makes the self hate go away; if only I could believe them; if only I could see what tney see.
that got depressing quick
It's so messed up, how love can just be taken away just because of looks. How a parent can just abandon a child just for being born too ugly.
It's like all the comments on inspirational stories about people that live with their appearance. They all comment that person is so brave and beautiful on the inside and out; all while being secretly greatful they don't look that ugly or even deformed.
The fact that overcoming and learning to live with being different or ugly is something inspiring in the first place says it all. Because the ugly get treated horribly, that looking a certian way can make life harder.
I know, it's so hard to look in the mirror and even think a positive thing when all you get is disgust from others.
Sometimes, I foolishly wish all humans were blind. What is the point of sight if we can't look beyond appearances. That just a random arrangement of cells is enough to judge a person on.
loving or even just being okay with your looks, I wish it was that easy. No amount of reassurance or compliments from people makes the self hate go away; if only I could believe them; if only I could see what tney see.
that got depressing quick
DarkRocket
Member
- Jan 7, 2022
- 25
As someone who may be considered half ugly or "decent looking" by the generous, as a man, you need money to make up for bad looks. Some will say personality matters and it absolutely does, but to KEEP a woman as an ugly guy, you need money, and a good amount.
I've been with many women, but I can't keep them, because I'm poor for American standards. It doesn't help that I'm not good at math, and I can't afford higher education much. I'm also bad at sales, so I'm screwed in life. My only hope realistically is the lottery or some kind of big break that's never found me.
Hopefully I can die sooner than later, my family and possibly some friends are the only thing keeping me around. Otherwise, I'd swallow some sodium nitrate tonight.
I've been with many women, but I can't keep them, because I'm poor for American standards. It doesn't help that I'm not good at math, and I can't afford higher education much. I'm also bad at sales, so I'm screwed in life. My only hope realistically is the lottery or some kind of big break that's never found me.
Hopefully I can die sooner than later, my family and possibly some friends are the only thing keeping me around. Otherwise, I'd swallow some sodium nitrate tonight.
Is it that bad? At least you're not an ugly woman
DarkRocket
Member
- Jan 7, 2022
- 25
For me it is that bad, yes I get some attention but in the USA, if you don't have much money, you can't really keep a relationship. If I was better looking, money probably wouldn't as matter as much, but with my looks, I need money and a good amount. Honestly, it's better to be dead than be ugly as I am and broke.
As an ugly woman I agree. I come from a family that is poor and dysfunctional. Also because of their cycle of abuse and trauma And the nasty foods they been eating corrupting our genes
DarkRocket
Member
- Jan 7, 2022
- 25
Hopefully I get a decent job or hit some money luck soon, and sorry about the cycle of abuse that's occurred in your family. Perhaps they can eat better food someday?
Hopefully that's on them, I'm just saving up for surgery at this point and I'm currently eating healthy, doing tai chi and dance
Roll out the red carpet for the toxic positivity. Don't plague this place with this too, keep it on that other dumpster fire site.
^^^^^
Im not just ugly im litterly born with one of the most fucked up facial deformities. Can you imagine? Cant even go outside without feeling looked at all the time. 
DarkRocket
Member
- Jan 7, 2022
- 25
Best of luck to you on saving and on the surgery, whatever it may be for.
Thanks and good luck on your job
I get why people try to be positive about this type of thing but the unfortunate truth is that looks do definitely matter. Yeah you can still live a decent life if you're unattractive but you're gonna have a more tough time doing it than someone who is attractive and that's just facts. I used to be attractive when I was younger and now that I'm older and about 100 pounds heavier and I was beat up and have permanent scarring on my face, I can see the stark difference in how people treat me. You become invisible almost and get into a rejection cycle that makes you isolate and not even wanna try anymore. Lots of people always say it's about confidence but I used to be painfully shy when I was young and attractive, no confidence at all. Now that I am who I am I'm 10 times more confident and outgoing and myself than I ever have been.. but it doesn't seem to matter. And yes I could lose weight and wear makeup/get surgery but it still wouldn't take away the fact that people can be pretty gross and I'm never going to forget how people treated me over something as insignificant (or should be insignificant) as my outward appearance.
BluesRunTheGame
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- Dec 15, 2020
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Ugly guy checking in. Can confirm life is really shit.
Superdeterminist
Enlightened
- Apr 5, 2020
- 1,874
It's absurd how influential appearance is on how people treat you. People considered more attractive will have many more opportunities given to them.
As for personality, this also affects how people treat you. But personality is an attribute like appearance and it is not as mutable as many think it is. You can be stuck with a personality that no one likes, just like you can be stuck with a face that no one likes. A miserable roulette in all aspects, this life is.
As for personality, this also affects how people treat you. But personality is an attribute like appearance and it is not as mutable as many think it is. You can be stuck with a personality that no one likes, just like you can be stuck with a face that no one likes. A miserable roulette in all aspects, this life is.
Zegers
Enlightened
- Dec 15, 2021
- 1,758
Looks matter (specially in shallow west) but you don't have to be Thor or a k-pop girl, a minimum is enough.
In a man, considerable traits its height, nice face, smart dressing, active life, some cash and self-assurance. I don't consider myself ugly but unfortunately im disabled and it makes you ugly in some way. I can understand people is hang up with this, i was so hung up with money but don't feel so much better.
The media is dangerous and toxic when its about appearance, it is better to be disconnected from it. They want to make you feel 'less' then you buy more and more, its basically a business.
In a man, considerable traits its height, nice face, smart dressing, active life, some cash and self-assurance. I don't consider myself ugly but unfortunately im disabled and it makes you ugly in some way. I can understand people is hang up with this, i was so hung up with money but don't feel so much better.
The media is dangerous and toxic when its about appearance, it is better to be disconnected from it. They want to make you feel 'less' then you buy more and more, its basically a business.
TheDoomedDoomer
Eternal sleep awaits me
- May 22, 2022
- 140
Dude honestly tho if you're super ugly like my level of ugly meeting people or having friends even is almost impossible
What's your issues? I'm sorry you suffer. My problem is my skin damage I'm going to try micro needling
BluesRunTheGame
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- Dec 15, 2020
- 1,715
You think you can out-ugly me? I don't think so, and all the women constantly rejecting and disrespecting me would be inclined to agree with my stance.
TheDoomedDoomer
Eternal sleep awaits me
- May 22, 2022
- 140
I have several birth deformities. My face isn't nearly as cermetical as your average looking person. On top of that my teeth are so crooked and out of line my smile makes me look like I got meth mouth. It's really bad. I used to get bullied back in highschool they'd call me extra chromosome and a bunch of other shit. On top of all of that I'm a full on mouth breather cause my nose doesn't work for breathing at all so my mouth is always slightly open so I can take in air.
It's not a contest lol. But yeah I bet I could.
BluesRunTheGame
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TheDoomedDoomer
Eternal sleep awaits me
- May 22, 2022
- 140
Well you don't have too. I'm not gonna prove it too you either cause I don't feel comfortable sharing my identity with someone I don't even know let alone haven't talked too long enough to trust. For all I know you could be a pro lifer on here trying to stop people.
as an unattractive woman you can only rope tbh
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