lack of romance

[KarmicRain]

I've never been in a relationship. I can't see myself ever actually being in one because I don't meet the "requirements" my parents instilled into me growing up.
I'm not financially stable and therefore shouldn't look for relationships at all because I wouldn't be able to handle the entire concept of "settling down."
I'm not the most emotionally or mentally stable since of course I'm here. As amazing as going out together sounds, I wouldn't want to bring someone down with me or have another person that'd grieve over me.
Romance is so heavily romanticized. I often hear it'll give the world more color and even fuel a lot of people's will to live. Many live for it, but I can't even begin to imagine it. Well I can, but all I really see is its inevitable end. Or worse cases and they do something like cheating. Like I don't think I'd be able to handle a regular break up if I was actually attached to them- if I get attached. If I don't have it in me to care like I usually am, then nothing would happen. It'd be empty and I'd only have guilt following the end of that relationship.
I'm not the most confident in my looks but I don't think I'm the worst either. Just average and that's probably good enough. I like making dumb jokes and have a dark sense of humor but I just can't seem to care for a long enough period of time about anything. I wouldn't want to do or feel that way about another human being: it'd be wrong.
So yea, I'll probably die alone but its something I've kind of come to terms with for a while.
But even knowing that, I can't help but feel lonely.

 

[Alltheywanted]

I almost felt like you were talking about me. I know exactly how you feel and I know how terrible and sad it is. Loneliness is the worst thing that has happened to me in this life. I've been lonely all my life, I've never been able to openly tell anyone about my problems (except for a therapist), I've never hugged anyone out of love and I've never cried on anyone's shoulder.

It's not like I'm ugly or stupid. Because of who I am, it's hard for me to keep a conversation with newly met people, others often think that I'm strange (even I think so myself). Another thing is that I'm not looking for what the vast majority of people want in a relationship, which is sex or intimacy. I just want to be loved.

The funniest part of it all is that out of lonileness i started to imagine that I'm in some kind of movie. I literally can't stop seeing myself as a main character. It's pathetic but that s how i cope with this feeling. Maybe that can help you too.

Much love, wish you the best. <3

 

[DeadManLiving]

Love is a trap. Knowing that the odds of finding that special someone vanished into false expectation and hope in the deadlock of your mind and forever alone is maximum daily mental torture. Being deprived for what one longs for most will culminate in my suicide. It's non-negotiable.

 

[Ambivalent1]

Metoo

 

[Someone123]

Getin some good frineds can be a strat, easier said than done in a world with so much loneliness, but it can be done. YOu could maybe find some better fiancially stbailty over time, possiby, there could be a path to happiness maybe, but it's true that a relationship takes more time and effort to work, and more stability, so you might be able to get gonig in this direction. I do always support choice for leaving whenever it seems like the right time for a person, but it may be worth trying to get mnore stability and seeing if things could get better- peopel here may be able to offers some ideas to try to help if you would share more specifially what has gone wrong and what you have tried to fix things so far. You're a thoughtful person and you may have a chance to put some thoughts together that could turn things around.

 

[SexyIncél]

Modern "romantic love" seems peculiar in world history. We should build alternate forms of loving social organization, for people who don't fit its peculiar requirements

 

[Sad Avocado]

I was in a relationship and honestly that was the thing that gave me the last blow, the thing that brought me to this website :')

 

[AShipinthedark]

Love is a trap. Knowing that the odds of finding that special someone vanished into false expectation and hope in the deadlock of your mind and forever alone is maximum daily mental torture. Being deprived for what one longs for most will culminate in my suicide. It's non-negotiable.

Long ago in a faraway land, in a D&D game, we had this conversation. We wondered what the highest positive form of emotion was and all naturally guessed Love, but when asked the opposite, solemnly our cleric declared, "unrequited love".

 

[KarmicRain]

sometimes i think to myself that
love is just another thing people use to cope with harsh reality. the nice feelings you get will inevitably stop like every other thing you once enjoyed.
better to just not then to have another painful memory.

 

[foreverfalling]

Yes love is just another cope. If you do find love, then what will be the next thing you will be unsatisfied with? Life doesn't become happily ever after the moment you find the one. You will get bored of them, they will cheat on you, you will get into arguments, they will die. It is a very lucrative idea though, because it seems like the answer for so many of our problems. Loneliness, belonging, sexual desire, safety and meaning.