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CowardKnight

CowardKnight

wondering
Feb 12, 2025
30
First, we all know it's very important to have a therapist that shares the same beliefs and political views as you, and after having some bad experiences with previous therapists, I decided that when I go to a new one, I'll just straight up ask her what their views are in the first session, to save time (and money...).

Today I went to a new therapist, and told her about this. She was like "umm, okay, but I don't wanna make this about me, y'know this is about you. And it worries me that if I told you that, it'll affect what you say to me in therapy". I understand her point, but this is still very important to me.

I started asking her some basic stuff, like, are you religious (she's catholic... nothing against religion, but that made me a bit uncomfortable). Although she said even though she's catholic, she doesn't agree completely with everything about it, and also especially mentioned that she's not going to bring that into therapy.

I asked what's her opinion on minorities like trans people, and y'know, that stuff. She already listed on her profile that she also treats LGBT people, but I still wanted to ask her in person. She said that she completely supports them and overall said she was an ally.

I then asked how do you believe this, if the bible says it's wrong? From this point I noticed she was getting a bit uncomfortable with these questions. She just said to me the same thing as before, that even though she's catholic, she doesn't completely agree with the religion and the bible, and thinks things like sexuality aren't something to be judged or something... I don't really remember this part, but you get the point.

Then, I asked her what the thinks of AI. She said that's it's just a tool, although she thinks that it's doing more harm than good, especially for new generations who are starting to rely on it for everything, and how people are replacing therapy with chatGPT.

I then asked her about images made with AI, I really wanted to know about this because, on her Instagram page, she has a video made with AI. She said that honestly it's getting scary with how real and accurate they're getting, and says that people are going to steal your identity with that, and that stuff. But she still thinks it's useful for marketing.

Then I asked about how it's affecting artists. She just faked some empathy, put on a "sad face" looked away, and said in a "sad" tone: "oh... ummm, yeah... It's very sad..."

Here I explained to her how harmful it's for artists and art in general. I noticed that she was VERY uncomfortable up to this point. The entire time she just continued faking more empathy.

But then I told her that I don't blame her, because I also used to have the opinion as her before I knew any better.

She was like "okay, I respect your opinion." ? She then told me that I'm trying to see perfection in people? And things like that?

Anyways, a part of me feels like I shouldn't have brought that topic into session, but another part of me feels like I did the right thing because it kinda allowed me to see her true face, especially seeing how she reacted to certain things and the fake empathy I could feel from like, miles away.

She asked me if I was going to book a next session, but I told her that I'd text her about it later (basically, perhaps, perhaps not).

See, honestly I don't know if I should return. I made things very awkward and omfg, I dunno, fuck... and the worst part is that most likely she was one of my only options, cuz it's very hard to find therapists with the same views as me in the area I'm in. Did I screw up?
 
K14~♡

K14~♡

The night comes down like heaven
Mar 11, 2026
104
I've never been in therapy so my opinion might not be that helpful, but the conversation did sound pressuring/interrogative for her based on what you said? (Also a bit lecturing with the AI art part). I don't think it's that big of a screw up, you could prob still salvage it by sending a simple apology when you text again, and hopefully she'll forget it/wouldn't mind it much ToT But since she seems to fake empathy as you said, maybe it's not that good to settle for her anyway?
 
CowardKnight

CowardKnight

wondering
Feb 12, 2025
30
I've never been in therapy so my opinion might not be that helpful, but the conversation did sound pressuring/interrogative for her based on what you said? (Also a bit lecturing with the AI art part). I don't think it's that big of a screw up, you could prob still salvage it by sending a simple apology when you text again, and hopefully she'll forget it/wouldn't mind it much ToT But since she seems to fake empathy as you said, maybe it's not that good to settle for her anyway?
Yeah I should apologize to her... Also about the empathy part, I dunno... I think this is just me being paranoid. Cuz to me all therapists kinda fake empathy to me. Besides, what else could she have said or done when I was basically lecturing her? oh god.

Yeah I'll apologize to her and return or... look for another therapist.
 
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K14~♡

K14~♡

The night comes down like heaven
Mar 11, 2026
104
Yeah I should apologize to her... Also about the empathy part, I dunno... I think this is just me being paranoid. Cuz to me all therapists kinda fake empathy to me. Besides, what else could she have said or done when I was basically lecturing her? oh god.

Yeah I'll apologize to her and return or... look for another therapist.
I really hope she'll be chill with it and won't affect your future sessions TvT I also hope it won't hinder you from talking about what you need to talk about and won't make you feel bad much. It's possible ya'll could just start anew the next time you meet and everything would go ok...Well I'm just positively thinking here ToT
Whatever happens, best of luck to you <3
 
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