It's too late for me

[FireFox]

I really wanted to be happy and do amazing things with my life but now I realise I am not strong enough for this world. I am a dysfunctional adult because there is a lot of things I don't know how to do and there is a lot I don't know.

I don't know how to drive a car and I dont have a drivers license. I do driving lessons but I still struggle, its so embarrassing i cant drive a car, it makes me cry . I don't even know how to pay a utility bill or understand how sex and relationships work or adult things generally. Everyone my age else can do these things properly and I can't.
To survive this world you have a be fighter, smart and I am none of these things. I am 24 years old but mentally I always feel like the unpopular werid teenage girl was who was rejected by the guys, never seen as pretty and struggled to fit in at school.
It's too late for me. I will never figure out how to do all the adult things, find love and do all the exciting things i wanted to do. Maybe it was not meant be.

 

[DPJ187]

Or maybe you just haven't found the right person yet, it's ok to be an outcast, it's ok to feel not part of the group. You are on your own journey and should not compare against other people. At 24 your life can still be whatever you want it to be, it's not to late, its just a slow burner. You will be ok

 

[FuneralCry]

I'm sorry that you are in this situation. I know that it is awful when things seem hopeless. This life is just so unfair, and it is always sad to hear about people who want to live, yet are unable to. I wish you the best in whatever you decide to do and I hope you find relief from your pain.

 

[GreenTree]

Hope you find happiness. The mind can make us doubt ourselves so much. Its a pretty useless thing yhe mind. It's supposed to protect us but can lead to hell and self doubt. I hope you get joy you deserve.

 

[existcrisisactor]

i am 27 and the same situation im so sorry

 

[FireFox]

Or maybe you just haven't found the right person yet, it's ok to be an outcast, it's ok to feel not part of the group. You are on your own journey and should not compare against other people. At 24 your life can still be whatever you want it to be, it's not to late, its just a slow burner. You will be ok

@DPJ187 I was the unpopular werid girl at school and it was the f*cking worst. The worst thing about being weird unpopular girl at school was having the guy you have a crush on be ashamed of you because you have this reputation of being the werid girl . I really liked this boy in school because I thought he was smart, I found him really funny and cute. I thought he was different but it turned out he was like everyone else in the school who thought I was werid. It showed on his behaviour when he started to push me away when people at school noticed I liked him :(

I am 24 years old but mentally I always feel like the unpopular teenage girl who was always rejected by the guys and never seen as pretty. I had to watch all the other girls at school have boys be I interested in them, ask them out to prom or other dates etc.

I always be that woman no guy wants.

I am not strong for this world. I can't do anything right . I am tired of living and waking up to see another day

Hope you find happiness. The mind can make us doubt ourselves so much. Its a pretty useless thing yhe mind. It's supposed to protect us but can lead to hell and self doubt. I hope you get joy you deserve.

@GreenTree The human mind is so cruel and the majority of the public have idea what it feels like to be tormented by your own thoughts. If people were aware how scary it is that your own mind can turn against you most people wouldn't be demanding this site be shut down and instead actually be doing productive things to help improve the lives of mentally ill people ie campaign for newer treatments, better improvement of the mental health care system, fixing social problems in society and having open discussion about philosophy of life etc.

The general public are sheep who just jump on whatever media bandwagon is popular.

i am 27 and the same situation im so sorry

@existcrisisactor I hope things work out for you. You deserve better.
Love
Firefox ;)

I'm sorry that you are in this situation. I know that it is awful when things seem hopeless. This life is just so unfair, and it is always sad to hear about people who want to live, yet are unable to. I wish you the best in whatever you decide to do and I hope you find relief from your pain.

@FuneralCry

I just can't do it anymore. I failed to grow up to be a functional adult and I am overwhelmed with the awareness of my own immaturity. I can't do anything right.
I can't drive a car something that is seen as simple by society, I rely on my mum for support financially it is so embrassing and I don't know anything. I am so stupid and I just want to break down crying.
No calls me stupid but in my head I feel like a stupid young woman in a world full of functional adults. Everyone has mattered adult hood and I failed

 

[TakeMeBack07]

Those things can be learnt, if you want to. I think you're overestimating others and underestimating yourself.
I also understand what it's like to be an outcast. I've terrible social skills and was bullied in and out the house. What's helping is alleviating the shame I've felt caused by thinking every problem is my fault. We need to relax and give ourselves a break. Really, we're barely in control of our lives anyway.
We're all gonna be equal in death. Realising this has helped me with shame, envy and even pride.

 

[existcrisisactor]

@existcrisisactor I hope things work out for you. You deserve better.
Love
Firefox ;)

thank you fren i don't think they will for me but i hope things work out for you we can be friends if you want

 

[Myforevercharlie]

I'm 46 and can't drive a car...there are lots of people who don't know how to drive ( or don't want to) as are more people then you probably think still virgin.

Not saying that you can't feel shit about it, but you're not alone.

 

[bing]

Yeah it's too late for me too. I gave it a good try though.

 

[y0dha]

I'm so sorry to what happened to you... It must have been really hard to be the outcast but now you are an adult and you can find people who share similar interests like you with internet groups for exemple and meet them up :)
Also don't worry if you have trouble driving the car, some people find it easy, for some it's harder like you but you'll eventually get it... You just need to be patient.
Try to drive it on a parking, slowly when nobody is here so you'll feel the less stressed and find someone that is nice who can teach you ;)

 

[locked*n*loaded]

I really wanted to be happy and do amazing things with my life but now I realise I am not strong enough for this world. I am a dysfunctional adult because there is a lot of things I don't know how to do and there is a lot I don't know.

I don't know how to drive a car and I dont have a drivers license. I do driving lessons but I still struggle, its so embarrassing i cant drive a car, it makes me cry . I don't even know how to pay a utility bill or understand how sex and relationships work or adult things generally. Everyone my age else can do these things properly and I can't.
To survive this world you have a be fighter, smart and I am none of these things. I am 24 years old but mentally I always feel like the unpopular werid teenage girl was who was rejected by the guys, never seen as pretty and struggled to fit in at school.
It's too late for me. I will never figure out how to do all the adult things, find love and do all the exciting things i wanted to do. Maybe it was not meant be.

Many of those "problems" you listed are easily solvable. As far as driving a car, obviously the license has to, or at least should, come first. My aunt was somewhat neurotic and was easily distracted and she learned to drive a car. She did side swipe a few parked cars over the years, but for the most part, she did okay. She got around. I was always a bit nervous driving with her, as were most people, but she still did it and she didn't learn to drive until much later in life. I highly doubt she passed her driving test on her first try, either the written or the practical. My mother never learned to drive. She wasn't the most coordinated person in the world and maybe not driving was actually a good thing for her. But, not driving had its pluses, too. She walked everywhere, to grocery stores, bus stops, and the like. Well, that's good exercise over a consistently long time. She was a survivor, too. From WWII bombings in Germany, an invader attack in her home, 2 abusive marriages, multiple homeless episodes with my sister when she was young. When her marriage broke up, before she got remarried to my father, she had to learn how to pay bills, balance a checkbook, and things like that. She was an immigrant from Germany and knew nothing about the culture here. But, yeah, she was a strong person. Much stronger than I am. She was smoker, too, and lived to be 88, smoking up to about 6 months before her death. And, even had endured all she did, she was still a personI whose heart was pure good. She didn't have one mean bone in her body. And I'm sure all of that walking had a lot to do with her living to 88.

Look at some of the drivers on the road. Many of them don't know how to drive properly and, yet, they still drive, and mostly get by. Being a fighter and smart can certainly help one out in this world, but I think resourcefulness can take you far, too. Hell, I'm 56 and single and obviously, at least it should be obvious, I have absolutely no idea how relationships work, let alone sex, in so much as getting any. What's to know? Part A goes into Part B. I doubt everyone is "good" at it. I'm not sure where you are, but in my country, the USA, there is a divorce rate of around 50%, so that alone sort of discredits your statement that "everyone my age can do these things properly and I can't", at least in regard to relationships. As far as being "weird", I think ALL people have some degree of weirdness. Go to the mall, or a park, or other public place and just do some "people watching". Study their mannerisms, their movements, facial expressions, and, if you can hear them, listen to what they say, and then tell me that, at least, most people don't have weird tendencies.

I don't walk in your shoes, and would never presume to, but, at least from the list of "undesirables" you mention, personally I don't see any rising to the heights of ctb. Personally, I feel that most of the things you mention are fixable, IMO. Only you can decide that, though. Whatever you decide to do with your life, I wish you good luck and especially peace.

 

[whatevs]

Many of those "problems" you listed are easily solvable. As far as driving a car, obviously the license has to, or at least should, come first. My aunt was somewhat neurotic and was easily distracted and she learned to drive a car. She did side swipe a few parked cars over the years, but for the most part, she did okay. She got around. I was always a bit nervous driving with her, as were most people, but she still did it and she didn't learn to drive until much later in life. I highly doubt she passed her driving test on her first try, either the written or the practical. My mother never learned to drive. She wasn't the most coordinated person in the world and maybe not driving was actually a good thing for her. But, not driving had its pluses, too. She walked everywhere, to grocery stores, bus stops, and the like. Well, that's good exercise over a consistently long time. She was a survivor, too. From WWII bombings in Germany, an invader attack in her home, 2 abusive marriages, multiple homeless episodes with my sister when she was young. When her marriage broke up, before she got remarried to my father, she had to learn how to pay bills, balance a checkbook, and things like that. She was an immigrant from Germany and knew nothing about the culture here. But, yeah, she was a strong person. Much stronger than I am. She was smoker, too, and lived to be 88, smoking up to about 6 months before her death. And, even had endured all she did, she was still a personI whose heart was pure good. She didn't have one mean bone in her body. And I'm sure all of that walking had a lot to do with her living to 88.

Look at some of the drivers on the road. Many of them don't know how to drive properly and, yet, they still drive, and mostly get by. Being a fighter and smart can certainly help one out in this world, but I think resourcefulness can take you far, too. Hell, I'm 56 and single and obviously, at least it should be obvious, I have absolutely no idea how relationships work, let alone sex, in so much as getting any. What's to know? Part A goes into Part B. I doubt everyone is "good" at it. I'm not sure where you are, but in my country, the USA, there is a divorce rate of around 50%, so that alone sort of discredits your statement that "everyone my age can do these things properly and I can't", at least in regard to relationships. As far as being "weird", I think ALL people have some degree of weirdness. Go to the mall, or a park, or other public place and just do some "people watching". Study their mannerisms, their movements, facial expressions, and, if you can hear them, listen to what they say, and then tell me that, at least, most people don't have weird tendencies.

I don't walk in your shoes, and would never presume to, but, at least from the list of "undesirables" you mention, personally I don't see any rising to the heights of ctb. Personally, I feel that most of the things you mention are fixable, IMO. Only you can decide that, though. Whatever you decide to do with your life, I wish you good luck and especially peace.

There is no peace while we are alive. Life is inherently an struggle. The best you can aim for is relatively long periods of peace in between the hardships and stress.