It seems like my abusers are really well off, but I am destroyed

[Lolkillme]

My narcissistic ex contacted me today out of nowhere, telling me she's doing really well in so many ways. I've been destroyed since the break up, I've literally never been worse. The screaming, swearing at me, putting me down, the lies... it's affected me in so many ways that I can barely leave my apartment, let alone get out of bed. Yet, she's doing amazing. Then it got me thinking.. all of my abusers are super successful. Just like she is now. It's almost like they've sucked my life force and have used it to propel themselves forward in life while I just wait to die. Where is the karma, the justice? I fucking hate it here. She fucked up my life in a multitude of ways, while I did nothing but try to support and love her when she was broke and lying to me, yet I'm the one that's broken and she's doing great. I don't really want to see anyone fail but I mean wtf. Fuck this place. Fuck this life.

 

[Winklemate]

It's such a shame that karma is fairy tale instead of a reality, and the fact that she went out of her way to rub salt in the wounds is incredibly frustrating. I'm sorry you've had to deal with so many awful people.

 

[Bullit]

Success is the best revenge! If you can get your life together and maybe find a little happiness for you..?? I hope so.
What your ex did I think is not going uncommon among women. This bitch sounds like a loser maybe shell get karma in the future? While you stand tall??

 

[overcomingfear]

Fuck her, what a bitch. I hope u can move on from that and you should know that you're a better person. You can only create justice for yourself in this hostile world. You have to keep moving

 

[Alwaysbadtime]

Don't ever answer her calls. Block her. Text her what's on your mind and then block her.

 

[Lolkillme]

Don't ever answer her calls. Block her. Text her what's on your mind and then block her.

I don't even want to respond tbh, I feel like she'll be getting exactly what she wants. Knowing I'm doing shitty and she's doing great. It'll just make her feel good. She's a user and manipulater, treating people like shit just so she can feel better about herself. I fucking hate her

 

[Ramirez]

The sad thing is ppl with npd actually do good in this world. They use ppl and throw them in the dumpster. Someone said doing good is the best revenge. It's not to ppl with npd. They dont care but about themselves. They devalue people and they see you but nothing but a cockroach or sth once they do. Best to just cut them out imo. Hope you'll feel abit better in some time.

 

[Largeletters]

Honestly, I can relate to you, and seeing how much pain it has brought me I would never want anyone else to go through it. I have a few narcissistic exes, as well as former friends/bullies that all seem to be doing well when I am suffering due to the pain inflicted on me by them and by many other things. I'm really sorry. It's a horrible feeling.

 

[Journeytoletgo]

I am so sorry you experienced this. People will take advantage of your kind nature if you let them. I hope you're able to recover from this experience

 

[Pluto]

I don't think there's any justice in this world. In fact, believing in such is a known fallacy.

Just-world fallacy - Wikipedia

en.wikipedia.org

Sorry to hear about what you've been through. Know that narcissists are obsessed with domination, so will get 'narcissistic supply' out of the situation. There's a time to cut people off.

 

[Dear Agony]

I think about that a lot. It makes me laugh when people mention karma or any kind of divine justice. I remember all my abusers names, I dream about their faces, they're what I think about when I cry and when I'm panicking. I think about all people who wronged me after I treated them so well. Nowadays, they're dating, have friends, live in another country etc.... Nothing about this is fair.
I just wish they would even remember my face, even remember my name. I just wish they would KNOW how much they hurt me. That's all I ask. Yet, they wouldn't even recognize me if they saw me today. And I am doomed to think about them every second of my life.
While they're having sex, being happy, building a future and a family, going out for drinks, I am alone in bed crying everyday.

 

[FuneralCry]

Sorry you are going through this, people can be so cruel and can cause us a lot of pain. This life really is unfair. I wish you well.

 

[Worndown]

Abusers are like that.
You need to take a look at your life and decide where your strengths are. You do have them. Look past the abusive comments and see what is real. You need to reset your life so it works for you.

 

[sadbadpsychogirl]

the fact that she contacted you out of nowhere says she hasn't yet gotten you out of her mind.

 

[overcomingfear]

And I am doomed to think about them every second of my life.
While they're having sex, being happy, building a future and a family, going out for drinks, I am alone in bed crying everyday.

I think about all people who wronged me after I treated them so well.

this is unhealthy and i do this too sometimes. your life won't get better if they suffer. only you can improve your life, focus on yourself. it's hard to trust people after many betrayals but you have to learn from that

 

[Promortalist_]

I am so sorry that this is happening to you. My suggestion would be to cut everyone from your life who stress you out or who makes you feel bad if possible. From my experience people like these are not worth your time. Block them, delete their number, completely ignore them if you run into them and even if they talk to you...ignore them, don't reply back or smile or give them any reaction. Just pretend they don't exist. You will feel much better. <3

 

[LansJ70]

the fact that she contacted you out of nowhere says she hasn't yet gotten you out of her mind.

Nah mate narcissists (like my ex) love rubbing salt in the wounds, like a cat playing with a mouse.

Don't put the idea in his head she might still be interested, you'll be setting him up for the hoovering and round 2 of torture, which is always 100x worse than round 1.

 

[Dear Agony]

this is unhealthy and i do this too sometimes. your life won't get better if they suffer. only you can improve your life, focus on yourself. it's hard to trust people after many betrayals but you have to learn from that

I agree it's unhealthy and I shouldn't blame anyone or wish them bad. It's beyond me though. Also, I have to disagree with the second part. I would feel better if they suffered, if karma existed or there was a sort of payback. I know that's inherently bad, but I don't feel sorry for it. I don't feel sorry for wanting them to suffer. I know that makes me a bad person I guess, it makes me not much better than them, but I'm only human. I would never take vengeance into my own hands like some people do, but I would like to see the world doing it.

 

[sadbadpsychogirl]

Nah mate narcissists (like my ex) love rubbing salt in the wounds, like a cat playing with a mouse.

Don't put the idea in his head she might still be interested, you'll be setting him up for the hoovering and round 2 of torture, which is always 100x worse than round 1.

no i didn't mean like that. i meant she is pathetic for not moving on herself and randomly tormenting him

 

[Jack'sPain]

My narcissistic ex contacted me today out of nowhere, telling me she's doing really well in so many ways. I've been destroyed since the break up, I've literally never been worse. The screaming, swearing at me, putting me down, the lies... it's affected me in so many ways that I can barely leave my apartment, let alone get out of bed. Yet, she's doing amazing. Then it got me thinking.. all of my abusers are super successful. Just like she is now. It's almost like they've sucked my life force and have used it to propel themselves forward in life while I just wait to die. Where is the karma, the justice? I fucking hate it here. She fucked up my life in a multitude of ways, while I did nothing but try to support and love her when she was broke and lying to me, yet I'm the one that's broken and she's doing great. I don't really want to see anyone fail but I mean wtf. Fuck this place. Fuck this life.

Exactly the thought feeling i have and had quite a times now, just hadn't put it in words yet,

I feel this way about my brother, father

I too think of this spiritually, they sucking out our life like dementors,

But if there's such forces, God has to take control of them, that's the only reassurance we can have

 

[raison_d'etre]

My narcissistic ex contacted me today out of nowhere, telling me she's doing really well in so many ways. I've been destroyed since the break up, I've literally never been worse. The screaming, swearing at me, putting me down, the lies... it's affected me in so many ways that I can barely leave my apartment, let alone get out of bed. Yet, she's doing amazing. Then it got me thinking.. all of my abusers are super successful. Just like she is now. It's almost like they've sucked my life force and have used it to propel themselves forward in life while I just wait to die. Where is the karma, the justice? I fucking hate it here. She fucked up my life in a multitude of ways, while I did nothing but try to support and love her when she was broke and lying to me, yet I'm the one that's broken and she's doing great. I don't really want to see anyone fail but I mean wtf. Fuck this place. Fuck this life.

my mother is extremely narcissistic, me and my little sister grew up with an abusive father and emotionally abusive mother, after she divorced my father she found someone even worse. life was hell, i wanted to die, my sister almost did. after awhile, my sister worked her way out and cut contact, i did the same. the best thing you can do to a narcissist is cut contact, after that, they can never manipulate you or hurt you again. in some ways how you were talking about her saying "she's doing so well in so many ways" is prolly just another manipulation tactic of putting you down so you come crawling back to her which you should absolutely not do. NEVER GIVE IN TO THE NARCISSIST, THEY WILL DRAIN YOUR EVERY OUNCE OF ENERY.

Ë̸̝̪̙̭̲̝́̌V̴̨̫̹̥̠̼̮̀́E̴̝͍͓̥͛̈́̐̇͝Ŕ̷̯̼̥̥͋͌̿̕͘͘͝Ÿ̵̧̛̗̻́̈̉̀̈́̎̔͘ ̶̡̡̧̹̩̙̣͍̥̾O̴̘̬͂̋͛̿̚̚͜Ű̵̱͙̗͇̚N̸̛̮͎̼̪̝̫̞͍̺͆͗͂͆͐̋C̶͎͒͊̇͗̌̄͆͝͝Ê̸̡̜͖̜̦̬̪̯̰̎̇͗̿̈́̅̐̀

 

[divorceddepression]

My narcissistic ex contacted me today out of nowhere, telling me she's doing really well in so many ways. I've been destroyed since the break up, I've literally never been worse. The screaming, swearing at me, putting me down, the lies... it's affected me in so many ways that I can barely leave my apartment, let alone get out of bed. Yet, she's doing amazing. Then it got me thinking.. all of my abusers are super successful. Just like she is now. It's almost like they've sucked my life force and have used it to propel themselves forward in life while I just wait to die. Where is the karma, the justice? I fucking hate it here. She fucked up my life in a multitude of ways, while I did nothing but try to support and love her when she was broke and lying to me, yet I'm the one that's broken and she's doing great. I don't really want to see anyone fail but I mean wtf. Fuck this place. Fuck this life.

Im in the same boat. I wish for death every day

 

[Brokenhearted84]

So, I'm in the same situation. My ex even made fun that she should've cheated me earlier on her social media. But I'm thinking that the best strategy is to cut off any possibility of contact for many years (or maybe forever), so you don't have to prove anything for anyone and that relieves anxiety. Improve your life in your terms and don't have ANY news about their life. It's just too random and out of your control to really care about, and it's not a competition.

Gain experience through traumatic events and nourish new and better relationships in the future. Some years later, it won't even matter anymore.

By the way, I was also in a situation that an ex got worse after we broke up. I just felt pity for her, and wished she could've done better (really did). So, don't be her.

 

[blue_muse]

There is karma, you said it in your thread title "...seems like". Don't believe all is well with her because, it sounds like she's saying that to metaphorically kick you when you're already down. Someone I nearly got close to once made a display, window slightly open with no curtains, of getting raunchy with a one-night stand just as I walked by their place.

As for your other abusers; you're hearing and/or seeing what they want you to see and/or hear.

 

[GreenMile]

my mother is extremely narcissistic, me and my little sister grew up with an abusive father and emotionally abusive mother, after she divorced my father she found someone even worse. life was hell, i wanted to die, my sister almost did. after awhile, my sister worked her way out and cut contact, i did the same. the best thing you can do to a narcissist is cut contact, after that, they can never manipulate you or hurt you again. in some ways how you were talking about her saying "she's doing so well in so many ways" is prolly just another manipulation tactic of putting you down so you come crawling back to her which you should absolutely not do. NEVER GIVE IN TO THE NARCISSIST, THEY WILL DRAIN YOUR EVERY OUNCE OF ENERY.

Ë̸̝̪̙̭̲̝́̌V̴̨̫̹̥̠̼̮̀́E̴̝͍͓̥͛̈́̐̇͝Ŕ̷̯̼̥̥͋͌̿̕͘͘͝Ÿ̵̧̛̗̻́̈̉̀̈́̎̔͘ ̶̡̡̧̹̩̙̣͍̥̾O̴̘̬͂̋͛̿̚̚͜Ű̵̱͙̗͇̚N̸̛̮͎̼̪̝̫̞͍̺͆͗͂͆͐̋C̶͎͒͊̇͗̌̄͆͝͝Ê̸̡̜͖̜̦̬̪̯̰̎̇͗̿̈́̅̐̀

Wise words, wish I had known this years ago.

 

[noname223]

I can relate. My mom abused for over a decade physically she is completely healthy and has almost no problems except 2 traumatized children. My bullies in school came all from very rich parents. I have nightmares about them till today. I am convinced they are way better off than me. It is very difficult to have it worse tbh.

 

[Jack'sPain]

U

Exactly the thought feeling i have and had quite a times now, just hadn't put it in words yet,

I feel this way about my brother, father

I too think of this spiritually, they sucking out our life like dementors,

But if there's such forces, God has to take control of them, that's the only reassurance we can have infringe jb

Exactly the thought feeling i have and had quite a times now, just hadn't put it in words yet,

I feel this way about my brother, father

I too think of this spiritually, they sucking out our life like dementors,

But if there's such forces, God has to take control of them, that's the only reassurance we can have

I think most of us suicidal people would be be atheists or agnostics..? What

Exactly the thought feeling i have and had quite a times now, just hadn't put it in words yet,

I feel this way about my brother, father

I too think of this spiritually, they sucking out our life like dementors,

But if there's such forces, God has to take control of them, that's the only reassurance we can have

I think most of us suicidal people must be atheists or agnostics...
What about you..? [general]

 

[OnlyTheWind]

U

I think most of us suicidal people must be atheists or agnostics...
What about you..? [general]

Pseudo-Christian-Gnostic-UFO-Cult-Theosophist, heh.

 

[cantlive]

They don't have any special rights

 

[slyna]

Pseudo-Christian-Gnostic-UFO-Cult-Theosophist, heh.

You're jokknh right