'Winning in life' won't change any unlying mental illness or unresolved trauma. It also won't automatically make you to feel fulfilled.
On paper, someone looking in from the outside would say I was 'winning' in a purely materialistic sense.
The 'big' house
The sporty/luxury cars
Married for 10+
Go on holiday 3+ a year
Have travelled all over the world
Stay in luxury accommodation
Started my own multimillion pound business (please don't DM me to ask me about this. My privacy is my priority over proving this to anyone)
However ..... none of these 'things' stopped my repeatedly trying to take my own life last year, the last attempt leaving me in ICU on life support. I then went into voluntary inpatient about 3 weeks later.
One thing I know for sure is that 'winning' in life is absolutely nothing to do with the above. True 'Winning in life' for me would be:
Good self image
Solid self esteem
Low anxiety
Contentment
Fulfilment
Emotionally supported
Spiritually enriched (not God, but just a sense of self/inner peace/calm).
To live in the moment
Please don't think that ticking those stereotypical goals off the Bingo Card of Life will make you feel any better. If you are already depressed, it won't. In fact, the more things I ticked off the more I became depressed.
With those things come more stress and pressure. Yes, financial security is great, but no one really is financially secure unless we are talking about old money billionaire sort of wealth. It can all disappear as quickly as it came. The more you have, the more you have to loose and the bigger the fall from grace. Oh he had no money and I've had a lot of money. A lot of money is better but it doesn't quell that dark, empty, hollow feeling inside your chest that comes with Major depressive disorder or other mental illnesses or personality disorders.
All I want from my life now it to build my self esteem and self image. Also to live in the moment. That is the only way I can feel at peace.
