Is the worth writing suicide note?

[Peace2peace]

Is it worth writing suicide note to your parents even though they were never understanding of your situation?

 

[lostintheloop]

I think it's a really individual thing. Part of me would like to leave one to give my parents a little closure. Mine have tried their best and been supportive so deserve to know it wasn't their fault. But i'm guessing it won't change much. And i'm not sure i will leave one because every time I try to write one, i just can't find the words and nothing sounds enough or right.


I suppose it's different if they're not supportive. Some people may even leave a note as a grievance to parents who harmed them.

 

[TheHolySword]

It's something someone has to decide for themselves. I'm writing several notes, or at least I want to (it's very difficult tbh). I can understand why some don't but for me it's the last part of me that my loved ones can hang on to. They deserve last words and to know I was thinking of them even in my final moments.

 

[idelttoilfsadness21]

I think it's a really individual thing. Part of me would like to leave one to give my parents a little closure. Mine have tried their best and been supportive so deserve to know it wasn't their fault. But i'm guessing it won't change much. And i'm not sure i will leave one because every time I try to write one, i just can't find the words and nothing sounds enough or right.


I suppose it's different if they're not supportive. Some people may even leave a note as a grievance to parents who harmed them.

I hear it's a ripple affect and usually does the opposite and give the reader a sense of guilt because they felt they were the cause in some way or the letter emphasizes too much and it can give the reader a sense of responsibility to your pain because they feel violated by the fact that couldn't be there to protect you more and you shared all in letter but couldn't bring yourself to trust them enough to talk with them. It's so sad

 

[CouldaHvBeenARock]

Depends on what you wanna say, I just want to tell them to cremate me instead of a burial, I am not even sure they will respect that. For my first attempt, I just left a list of instructions on how to handle my stuff

 

[itriedinthislife2]

i plan on factory resetting my phone as i will be going out by firearm and i dont want the cops to find out how i got the firearm and share anything with my family because they will go through it. im going to do it in a public bathroom with the door locked and 2 hand written notes with my mothers contact information so whoever finds me deceased can at least cakk my mother and give her the letters. fuck this hurts as i know she will be going through a world of hurt but when i do it i will be sure of my decision

 

[vercabow]

110% yes if you have understanding parents. mine are the complete opposite so i personally wouldn't

 

[L'absent]

I understand what you're saying. The decision to write a farewell letter might seem important at a time like this, especially if you feel like you've never been understood. In the end, it depends on what you think might give you some sense of closure or relief. If you believe that writing the letter helps in some way, it's up to you to decide.

 

[wiggy]

I suppose the right way to go about it is thinking whether it would help them get closure/understanding out of your death. I don't think you should write a note for your own catharsis if it comes at the expense of the well being of those who will remain. I know it's hard enough as it is, but you should try to do the right thing up until the end.

 

[dontwakemeup]

I think it's a personal decision you have to make for yourself. I personally have never wrote notes with my attempts because I've said enough. But if one chooses to then it's understandable. Whatever males your transition more peaceful you should do.

 

[human909]

i think it is mostly up to you to decide but i am going to go with yes because your parents will most likely be confused why this happened and you don't want to keep them in shock for the rest of their life.

 

[lostintheloop]

I hear it's a ripple affect and usually does the opposite and give the reader a sense of guilt because they felt they were the cause in some way or the letter emphasizes too much and it can give the reader a sense of responsibility to your pain because they feel violated by the fact that couldn't be there to protect you more and you shared all in letter but couldn't bring yourself to trust them enough to talk with them. It's so sad

Hmm yeah I can see that perspective too. I wouldn't want to emphasise 'not your fault' as does seem like the opposite when you push it
But yes it's difficult balance, they'll want answers but maybe the truth would hurt more. I think they'd be very shocked at what's truly happening. Probably easier they just think i was too depressed

 

[idelttoilfsadness21]

Hmm yeah I can see that perspective too. I wouldn't want to emphasise 'not your fault' as does seem like the opposite when you push it
But yes it's difficult balance, they'll want answers but maybe the truth would hurt more. I think they'd be very shocked at what's truly happening. Probably easier they just think i was too depressed

I hate people will always think it's our fault even to the greater end especially people we love who didn't do anything wrong that much. Life is so cruel.

 

[theshund]

In the words of Ricky Gervais 'accept your little award, thank your agent and f*ck off'

 

[ItsyBitsyWeetard]

100%

 

[WhiteRaven]

People are still going to be sad, I don't think it changes anything, Saying sorry isn't going to make them feel any better.

 

[hereornot]

I don't know what say, bcause my father is dead and my mom is a bpd.. So, i don't have any familiar to write something.

Maybe a letter to help catch some scamers in my family.

 

[cme-dme]

I would. I have good parents and they deserve some closure. I might leave my laptop unlocked. I feel like they would see a completely different side of me if they were able to access my laptop and I think they deserve to see that side of me. All my devices have full disk encryption so there wouldn't be any need to factory reset anything if that's what I wanted to do.

 

[willow115]

Most loved ones I've heard feedback from on the subject say they would prefer one, or they appreciated the last letter to understand.

It's up to you from there. If it doesn't bring you any solace then it may not be worth it.

 

[Scythe]

I would even if I just know for a fact they won't get it even if I lay it straight for them. They would always believe I could've been fixed. My parents weren't the best, but they deserve an explanation at the very least since I've *never* expressed any sign of mental illness or told them about anything because they are extremely extremely normal people and cannot understand my reasoning. I never gave them a chance to help because nobody can help me, I don't want to leech off of them forever, and I don't think they would let me either.
I believe they deserve an explanation, that's all.

 

[Peace2peace]

I would even if I just know for a fact they won't get it even if I lay it straight for them. They would always believe I could've been fixed. My parents weren't the best, but they deserve an explanation at the very least since I've *never* expressed any sign of mental illness or told them about anything because they are extremely extremely normal people and cannot understand my reasoning. I never gave them a chance to help because nobody can help me, I don't want to leech off of them forever, and I don't think they would let me either.
I believe they deserve an explanation, that's all.

Thats good whatever u decide

 

[FadingSnowFake]

Every situation is different and I'm undecided if I would, but I guess in the end if the intension is good then the effort will be worth it.

 

[Languish]

I do think it's important. Even of you hate everyone around you, everyone deserves closure when it comes to loss. Grief is universal. We don't have to hurt the proper who hurt us. We can choose to be better, and at least offer an explanation or a comfort.

 

[Peace2peace]

I do think it's important. Even of you hate everyone around you, everyone deserves closure when it comes to loss. Grief is universal. We don't have to hurt the proper who hurt us. We can choose to be better, and at least offer an explanation or a comfort.

Agree but some people choose not to for personal reasons