Help Is suicide selfish?

[oxymoron]

I know I can't move on and I'm tired of suffering so much. I feel bad for my parents. It's like a tug of war between wanting to live or die and I've been the same since Nov 18. I've attempted twice and failed. I really don't know what to do anymore. Some people are not meant for a life.

 

[Lost4toolong]

My opinion. No. If it is then it is just as selfish for others to want you to continue living in pain and distress. They dont understand what truly hating your own existence can be like. That being said. I would always wish someone make the attempt at getting help. Meds or therapy can help wonders so im told. But i dont take my own advice. Guess id just rather better for others. U deserve that chance too. All im sayin

 

[theguineapigking]

It is not selfish in itself. If you do it to spite or hurt others,yes. But if you do it because every day is hell and you just can't live anymore,then it's not selfish. It would hurt your family if they care about you. But if someone wants you to live just so they can be content and they claim you're selfish,they couldn't be more wrong. Wanting someone to live just so you don't have to mourn them is very selfish.




You didn't ask to be born. You have no obligation to live if you're single and don't have anyone that relies on you directly. (If you had kids,it would be complicated)


Have you talked with your parents at all? Have you tried any meds or therapy? I know meds are often overrated. But sometimes they can adjust the serotonin level in your brain to help you feel happier. But that's up to you to decide if you want to try or not(assuming you haven't?)


Hey dude. I know I'm just a random guy on the internet,but if you need someone to talk to,I'm here. I won't judge or bash you about your choices or problems. I'll just try to support you and comfort you.

 

[TimeToBiteTheDust]

No. Selfish are people who want to keep you alive when you want to die because they don't understand our pain.

 

[Tasdevil]

I won't feel selfish when I CTB. I have lived for others for to long. I have tried therapy and medication for a decade now without improvement ask for a medication change and I get told no stay on the same meds. in the past when I thought about killing myself thought of being selfish hit me but that was a long while ago now. I now feel like I will be myself a kindness to end the terrible mental illness pain I go through daily. I am a little scared of dying only because I don't know what happens after death if it just nothing or a afterlife.

 

[MoreThanAFeeling]

We are social animals. We wouldn't have survived childhood without the protection of parents and the community. To leave prematurely after the effort, time, and cost to other is selfish.

But life in general is pointless... so it does not matter in the end.

 

[Lost4toolong]

Nobody knows my friend. Thats a whole philosophical nightmare. There might be afterlife but would you even know because is your soul your consciousness or your brain which dies with your body? Are we just energy in a shell? Idk. And even after death we may not know

 

[waterbottleman]

I don't even care I just wanna get out of this shitty life.

 

[TimeToBiteTheDust]

I am more at peace with my decision of CTB now that I see how the people that want to keep me alive treat me. I don't care anymore.

 

[oxymoron]

Yeah, I have tried a lot but you know it's all the same the end of the day.

 

[Lost4toolong]

Yeah, I have tried a lot but you know it's all the same the end of the day.

I get it. Just remember, gottalook out for yourself and whats best for you

 

[Jean4]

Deciding that I should have been born is selfish.

 

[tom90]

I don't think so. Because at the end of the day, when you close the door, you are the one suffering and dealing with pain. Not other people.
Maybe other people are selfish because they want you to live, even though you just want to die.

 

[oxymoron]

I get it. Just remember, gottalook out for yourself and whats best for you

Yeah. Fuck this man.

 

[Lost4toolong]

Yeah. Fuck this man.

Was going to call it a night. But. Always welcome to hit me up if you need to

 

[highlyvolatile]

I don't think it's selfish. You're thinking about yourself. Everything you've been though. Only you know everything that's gone on in your life and if you've reached your limit and are tired if holding out, you should be able to go.

 

[Marktheghost]

No. Selfish are people who want to keep you alive when you want to die because they don't understand our pain.

I agree wholeheartedly.

 

[Lastravel]

Of course it's selfish but it's also your life and your pain. You can't live for others if there is no point for you.

 

[oxymoron]

Of course it's selfish but it's also your life and your pain. You can't live for others if there is no point for you.

Wow. You diplomatic as fuck. Well played.

 

[Lastravel]

Wow. You diplomatic as fuck. Well played.

Well don't know if I'm right or not, or even if there is a good answer about suicide ... there are so many things to take in consideration and your question makes sense

 

[Soulless_Angel]

I don't believe there is a right or wrong answer to this, I do think it depends on your circumstances, but if I was forced to reply only yes or no, I would say No,
Why should people be forced to say alive just in case their luck changes, why suffer in the mean time for a potential, yes it may be worth it, but Meh fuck it, no its not selfish

 

[waterbottleman]

Wow. You diplomatic as fuck. Well played.

Lol

 

[Proto]

I too wonder this if it's selfish to erase myself and leave my family behind. I've been stuck in this guilt trip and i'm not sure what the consequences would be after i CTB.

 

[BPD Barbie]

For me suicide felt like the greatest act of self care I could ever perform. Yes, it's selfish, but you know what? I spent so long living for other people's sake that it's OK to be selfish over this. It's the only time I will ever put myself first.

 

[Aliali1992]

I feel bad for my parents too. And i do think that them wanting me to stay alive is not selfish...they just think that if i die i will somehow miss a good life ahead of me...but at the end of the time you have to see if you can really live through the pain only for them. Some people do it and live only for thier family or parents. I personally reached a level where that is not possible anymore.

 

[AlreadyGone]

Suicide is not selfish. I feel that I am taking control of my future and doing what is best for me; not anyone else.

 

[oxymoron]

I won't feel selfish when I CTB. I have lived for others for to long. I have tried therapy and medication for a decade now without improvement ask for a medication change and I get told no stay on the same meds. in the past when I thought about killing myself thought of being selfish hit me but that was a long while ago now. I now feel like I will be myself a kindness to end the terrible mental illness pain I go through daily. I am a little scared of dying only because I don't know what happens after death if it just nothing or a afterlife.

I'm so much like you. I'm 2 years into this crap called depression.

 

[s1mplem3]

Isn't selfish.

 

[oxymoron]

Having a terrible day. I want to die right fucking now.

 

[Remember to forget]

Having a terrible day. I want to die right fucking now.

How is your day been today?

Yes it probably is selfish but we can only endure so much.