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Do you want to die in part due to you being lonely?

  • Loneliness is a major/primary reason why I want to die

    Votes: 52 28.9%
  • Loneliness is one of the reasons why I want to die.

    Votes: 87 48.3%
  • Loneliness doesn't play a factor in me wanting to die

    Votes: 40 22.2%
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    Votes: 1 0.6%

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Thatdude

Life is temporary, death is permanent
Sep 26, 2019
467
I hate it but stupid things like romance characters in games can cause my loneliness to spike. And while it isn't the only reason I want to die. It isn't a small part of it.


The interesting thing to me is while I want to die. If I did had a romantic partner in rl, I wouldn't even try to off myself.

Btw is there a word for it if you are lonely for a romantic partner, but not for family?
 
elfgyoza

elfgyoza

Cursed
Aug 5, 2019
326
This is actually kind of a weird one for me...I can't really seek out company, but I still always feel isolated and alone. I'm asexual and aromantic so I'll never be interested in a relationship, which basically just leaves me with friends. But I'm shit at making friends and those that I have I can't spend a ton of time with, otherwise I'll develop new misophonia triggers and will want to claw my eyes out :)
I hate it but stupid things like romance characters in games can cause my loneliness to spike. And while it isn't the only reason I want to die. It isn't a small part of it.


The interesting thing to me is while I want to die. If I did had a romantic partner in rl, I wouldn't even try to off myself.
I'm definitely not an expert at romance, but I think feeling like that is fairly normal? Seeing a couple will make you long for the same intimacy, which I'd imagine feels pretty lonely if you haven't got it. It's good that you've got a goal though I guess! You working towards finding a romantic partner?
 
BitterlyAlive_

BitterlyAlive_

-
Dec 8, 2020
2,394
It's one of the reasons. There's something seriously wrong with me. I can chat with friends for literal hours, talking about each other's problems, life, and joking. And I still feel lonely as I'm chatting with them. I was talking with one or two people on here today, and I still felt painfully lonely. It doesn't matter who I'm with, where I am. The loneliness doesn't stop. As for your question... I'm not sure. The word yearning comes to mind? You are yearning for a romantic partner?
 
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Thatdude

Life is temporary, death is permanent
Sep 26, 2019
467
It's good that you've got a goal though I guess! You working towards finding a romantic partner?


I'm not actively looking. Like I'm not on dating sites anymore, I'm not go out and trying, and I mostly given up. I'm 30 something, autistic, lives with their parents, not that good looking, been turn down from pretty much any job with retirement (but still I have 4 degree, and what not. But found my odds of getting a stable job is only 15% based on national average with my disability).

And going out doesn't help since I live in the country.
 
Nexuno

Nexuno

Specialist
Dec 9, 2020
301
No. I don't like existence and being forced to exist. I think life it's totally useless and I'm fully aware that there's no choice between living or dying: we have to die in any case, it's not an option. I quite enjoy being alone, actually I hate to be forced to be part of the human society, and I never really enjoyed being with other people. Yes, my personal life sucks (it's just a collection of failures) but I don't want to die because of this: I know my life sucks because, basically, I never been able to be a human being, I just cannot adapt to this thing. I see existence as a useless masquerade with no purpose but dying, and consciousness as a weird biological anomaly. It's absolutely necessary for me to learn to die and put an end to this farce.
 
user667

user667

Student
May 11, 2020
255
no, i wouldn't say it's one of the primary reasons. i'm incredibly lonely, don't get me wrong and it hurts so so so bad. but something like that can change. even if it's unlikely, loneliness can change but death is permanent. my reasons for dying are more things that cannot ever be changed, which gives me more peace of mind that i'm making the right decision.
No. I don't like existence and being forced to exist. I think life it's totally useless and I'm fully aware that there's no choice between living or dying: we have to die in any case, it's not an option. I quite enjoy being alone, actually I hate to be forced to be part of the human society, and I never really enjoyed being with other people. Yes, my personal life sucks (it's just a collection of failures) but I don't want to die because of this: I know my life sucks because, basically, I never been able to be a human being, I just cannot adapt to this thing. I see existence as a useless masquerade with no purpose but dying, and consciousness as a weird biological anomaly. It's absolutely necessary for me to learn to die and put an end to this farce.
wow i relate to this so much. for me it's not about personal things but rather that i hate my entire existence. i simply don't enjoy consciousness, thoughts, or feelings whether it's good or bad and it's all inherently meaningless. combine that with a horrible society, cruel human nature and my miserable and painful life, it's just a recipe for suicide :)
 
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JGT

Member
Jul 22, 2020
48
Connecting to people. I only seem to be able to do at work in certain situations.

It's strange cause I want to connect, but there are so many self absorbed people out there it's frightening. They only engage when they need something from me.
 
Nymph

Nymph

he/him
Jul 15, 2020
2,566
Loneliness is not one of my reasons, I like being alone and I hate being around people and hearing people speak. its quite the opposite. If I could live alone it would be better than living with my parents cause I could be alone all the time
 
ohhgeeitsme

ohhgeeitsme

Wizard
Feb 5, 2020
694
It's a big one, but it's not the main reason and I doubt I would even be actively suicidal if it was. I'm the cause of my own loneliness anyway. People like me a lot and want to be my friend, men pursue me, but I isolate myself so often mostly because of mental illness (isolation has gotten worse over the years) that I'm just too flaky and people eventually give up trying to be a real friend that they actually spend time with. In a way, I have a lot of friends, but I don't actually hang out with anyone anymore so I also kind of don't. As for romance, I'm still looking because I know that if someone came into my life and swept me off my feet, I'd want to stay. For now, anyway. Here's to hope, I guess.
 
demuic

demuic

Life was a mistake
Sep 12, 2020
1,382
Hmm.. I would say not really. I would like to have friends who have similar mindsets and hobbies to me, but I know such a thing is impossible considering how..."weird" I am. Most human being annoy me, and will eventually disappoint you in some way, so I content myself with fictional characters and worlds. Reading and playing video games is 90% of my day, and I don't like being forced to interact with random people.

I do like discussing things with people, like my interests, but it's so rare to find someone who likes the things I likes, in the way that I like them, who I can naturally click with, and doesn't somehow irritate me. It's like looking for a unicorn, or maybe a flying pig. And even if I did find such a person, I don't have the social skills to reach out and maintain a friendship anyway. I've given up, and I try not to let it bother me anymore, because it is what it is.
No. I don't like existence and being forced to exist. I think life it's totally useless and I'm fully aware that there's no choice between living or dying: we have to die in any case, it's not an option. I quite enjoy being alone, actually I hate to be forced to be part of the human society, and I never really enjoyed being with other people. Yes, my personal life sucks (it's just a collection of failures) but I don't want to die because of this: I know my life sucks because, basically, I never been able to be a human being, I just cannot adapt to this thing. I see existence as a useless masquerade with no purpose but dying, and consciousness as a weird biological anomaly. It's absolutely necessary for me to learn to die and put an end to this farce.
Completely agree... Existence is highly limited and inconvenient.
 
gnomeboy17

gnomeboy17

Specialist
Feb 11, 2020
356
I thought it was, but then I found a good group of friends, I no longer feels as lonely, at least, not in a physical sense, I think I often felt like I have to justify WHY I want to die, and loneliness seemed like a good excuse. But in reality I think there's a biological cause that nothing and no one can help with.
 
tonygw

tonygw

Member
Dec 12, 2020
27
I hate it but stupid things like romance characters in games can cause my loneliness to spike. And while it isn't the only reason I want to die. It isn't a small part of it.


The interesting thing to me is while I want to die. If I did had a romantic partner in rl, I wouldn't even try to off myself.

Btw is there a word for it if you are lonely for a romantic partner, but not for family?
Everyone needs someone to share things with in a romantic settlement but today is really difficult to find the right persone. It is hard i konow and i feel you
 
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Dr Iron Arc

Dr Iron Arc

Into the Unknown
Feb 10, 2020
18,433
Yes. Even though I have friends and family, my body decides to punish me for not passing down my genes by creating an emptiness inside me that none of them could help me with. Ultimately I want to CTB because I hate myself and I don't think I'll ever stop hating myself until I have proof that someone else can actually love me in that way.
 
Øystein

Øystein

Can't cope
Apr 24, 2020
80
I hate it but stupid things like romance characters in games can cause my loneliness to spike. And while it isn't the only reason I want to die. It isn't a small part of it.


The interesting thing to me is while I want to die. If I did had a romantic partner in rl, I wouldn't even try to off myself.

Btw is there a word for it if you are lonely for a romantic partner, but not for family?
I'd say that everyone who feels suicidal is lonely to some degree.
 

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