Is loneliness one of the major reasons why you want to die?

[Thatdude]

I hate it but stupid things like romance characters in games can cause my loneliness to spike. And while it isn't the only reason I want to die. It isn't a small part of it.


The interesting thing to me is while I want to die. If I did had a romantic partner in rl, I wouldn't even try to off myself.

Btw is there a word for it if you are lonely for a romantic partner, but not for family?

 

[newave3]

I live alone and like it. People nauseate me.

 

[StringPuppet]

Loneliness + knowing that I won't ever have the energy and social skills to make myself less lonely

 

[Mentalmick]

Loneliness is definitely one of the reason for me.

 

[Ghost2211]

It's high up on the list, but it's not primary.

 

[elfgyoza]

This is actually kind of a weird one for me...I can't really seek out company, but I still always feel isolated and alone. I'm asexual and aromantic so I'll never be interested in a relationship, which basically just leaves me with friends. But I'm shit at making friends and those that I have I can't spend a ton of time with, otherwise I'll develop new misophonia triggers and will want to claw my eyes out :)

I hate it but stupid things like romance characters in games can cause my loneliness to spike. And while it isn't the only reason I want to die. It isn't a small part of it.


The interesting thing to me is while I want to die. If I did had a romantic partner in rl, I wouldn't even try to off myself.

I'm definitely not an expert at romance, but I think feeling like that is fairly normal? Seeing a couple will make you long for the same intimacy, which I'd imagine feels pretty lonely if you haven't got it. It's good that you've got a goal though I guess! You working towards finding a romantic partner?

 

[BitterlyAlive_]

It's one of the reasons. There's something seriously wrong with me. I can chat with friends for literal hours, talking about each other's problems, life, and joking. And I still feel lonely as I'm chatting with them. I was talking with one or two people on here today, and I still felt painfully lonely. It doesn't matter who I'm with, where I am. The loneliness doesn't stop. As for your question... I'm not sure. The word yearning comes to mind? You are yearning for a romantic partner?

 

[Thatdude]

It's good that you've got a goal though I guess! You working towards finding a romantic partner?

I'm not actively looking. Like I'm not on dating sites anymore, I'm not go out and trying, and I mostly given up. I'm 30 something, autistic, lives with their parents, not that good looking, been turn down from pretty much any job with retirement (but still I have 4 degree, and what not. But found my odds of getting a stable job is only 15% based on national average with my disability).

And going out doesn't help since I live in the country.

 

[LooksAtMoonDog]

I'm "alone but not lonely", just feel no need for human companionship.

 

[Nexuno]

No. I don't like existence and being forced to exist. I think life it's totally useless and I'm fully aware that there's no choice between living or dying: we have to die in any case, it's not an option. I quite enjoy being alone, actually I hate to be forced to be part of the human society, and I never really enjoyed being with other people. Yes, my personal life sucks (it's just a collection of failures) but I don't want to die because of this: I know my life sucks because, basically, I never been able to be a human being, I just cannot adapt to this thing. I see existence as a useless masquerade with no purpose but dying, and consciousness as a weird biological anomaly. It's absolutely necessary for me to learn to die and put an end to this farce.

 

[omoidarui]

i'm lonely but not in the sense normally meant, i prefer to be by myself because people just make me feel like i don't really belong here.

feelin the guy in my avatar

 

[greebo6]

Yes, definitely .

 

[user667]

no, i wouldn't say it's one of the primary reasons. i'm incredibly lonely, don't get me wrong and it hurts so so so bad. but something like that can change. even if it's unlikely, loneliness can change but death is permanent. my reasons for dying are more things that cannot ever be changed, which gives me more peace of mind that i'm making the right decision.

No. I don't like existence and being forced to exist. I think life it's totally useless and I'm fully aware that there's no choice between living or dying: we have to die in any case, it's not an option. I quite enjoy being alone, actually I hate to be forced to be part of the human society, and I never really enjoyed being with other people. Yes, my personal life sucks (it's just a collection of failures) but I don't want to die because of this: I know my life sucks because, basically, I never been able to be a human being, I just cannot adapt to this thing. I see existence as a useless masquerade with no purpose but dying, and consciousness as a weird biological anomaly. It's absolutely necessary for me to learn to die and put an end to this farce.

wow i relate to this so much. for me it's not about personal things but rather that i hate my entire existence. i simply don't enjoy consciousness, thoughts, or feelings whether it's good or bad and it's all inherently meaningless. combine that with a horrible society, cruel human nature and my miserable and painful life, it's just a recipe for suicide :)

 

[Nexuno]

i simply don't enjoy consciousness, thoughts, or feelings whether it's good or bad and it's all inherently meaningless. combine that with a horrible society, cruel human nature and my miserable and painful life, it's just a recipe for suicide :)

I can feel you ;)

 

[ZardozOmega]

Yep

 

[Meretlein]

I'm asexual so I don't have to content with romantic loneliness but I have felt starved for friends and things to do with them for so long.

 

[self.destractive]

my suicidal ideation plays more into my lack of connections than my lack of connections plays into my ideation

 

[JGT]

Connecting to people. I only seem to be able to do at work in certain situations.

It's strange cause I want to connect, but there are so many self absorbed people out there it's frightening. They only engage when they need something from me.

 

[Marktheghost]

Yes.

 

[Nymph]

Loneliness is not one of my reasons, I like being alone and I hate being around people and hearing people speak. its quite the opposite. If I could live alone it would be better than living with my parents cause I could be alone all the time

 

[Sherri]

I would say yes. I miss having someone waiting for me when I get home. Or lovely texts from friends or a loved one.

 

[oneanonymous]

It's a big one, but it's not the main reason and I doubt I would even be actively suicidal if it was. I'm the cause of my own loneliness anyway. People like me a lot and want to be my friend, men pursue me, but I isolate myself so often mostly because of mental illness (isolation has gotten worse over the years) that I'm just too flaky and people eventually give up trying to be a real friend that they actually spend time with. In a way, I have a lot of friends, but I don't actually hang out with anyone anymore so I also kind of don't. As for romance, I'm still looking because I know that if someone came into my life and swept me off my feet, I'd want to stay. For now, anyway. Here's to hope, I guess.

 

[demuic]

Hmm.. I would say not really. I would like to have friends who have similar mindsets and hobbies to me, but I know such a thing is impossible considering how..."weird" I am. Most human being annoy me, and will eventually disappoint you in some way, so I content myself with fictional characters and worlds. Reading and playing video games is 90% of my day, and I don't like being forced to interact with random people.

I do like discussing things with people, like my interests, but it's so rare to find someone who likes the things I likes, in the way that I like them, who I can naturally click with, and doesn't somehow irritate me. It's like looking for a unicorn, or maybe a flying pig. And even if I did find such a person, I don't have the social skills to reach out and maintain a friendship anyway. I've given up, and I try not to let it bother me anymore, because it is what it is.

No. I don't like existence and being forced to exist. I think life it's totally useless and I'm fully aware that there's no choice between living or dying: we have to die in any case, it's not an option. I quite enjoy being alone, actually I hate to be forced to be part of the human society, and I never really enjoyed being with other people. Yes, my personal life sucks (it's just a collection of failures) but I don't want to die because of this: I know my life sucks because, basically, I never been able to be a human being, I just cannot adapt to this thing. I see existence as a useless masquerade with no purpose but dying, and consciousness as a weird biological anomaly. It's absolutely necessary for me to learn to die and put an end to this farce.

Completely agree... Existence is highly limited and inconvenient.

 

[gnomeboy17]

I thought it was, but then I found a good group of friends, I no longer feels as lonely, at least, not in a physical sense, I think I often felt like I have to justify WHY I want to die, and loneliness seemed like a good excuse. But in reality I think there's a biological cause that nothing and no one can help with.

 

[Futile]

It's my main and basically only reason to ctb, especially since I can do nothing about it

Btw you can see results without voting

 

[sadworld]

Not a primary reason but still a really important one

 

[tonygw]

I hate it but stupid things like romance characters in games can cause my loneliness to spike. And while it isn't the only reason I want to die. It isn't a small part of it.


The interesting thing to me is while I want to die. If I did had a romantic partner in rl, I wouldn't even try to off myself.

Btw is there a word for it if you are lonely for a romantic partner, but not for family?

Everyone needs someone to share things with in a romantic settlement but today is really difficult to find the right persone. It is hard i konow and i feel you

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

Yes. Even though I have friends and family, my body decides to punish me for not passing down my genes by creating an emptiness inside me that none of them could help me with. Ultimately I want to CTB because I hate myself and I don't think I'll ever stop hating myself until I have proof that someone else can actually love me in that way.

 

[morningdew]

its just makes everything harder to deal with. I understand they have their own lives but a phone call once a week or so shouldn't be too much to ask.

 

[Øystein]

I hate it but stupid things like romance characters in games can cause my loneliness to spike. And while it isn't the only reason I want to die. It isn't a small part of it.


The interesting thing to me is while I want to die. If I did had a romantic partner in rl, I wouldn't even try to off myself.

Btw is there a word for it if you are lonely for a romantic partner, but not for family?

I'd say that everyone who feels suicidal is lonely to some degree.