Discussion Is it worth it to have sex on the bucket list? Or not?

[Thanksforeverything]

New poster. I'm headed out in a few days.

I have been trying to do stuff whenever I get a chance for the last couple of weeks. Stuff I've always wanted to. Finally watch Interstellar. Try hallucinogens. Apologize to a friend I hurt. But I kept thinking if all this hype around sex or more precisely dying sexless is really something I should be concerned about. I have no issues with sex work, so I'm open to purchasing it if the experience is worth it. Thoughts?

 

[weedico]

no lol. overhyped. interpersonal intimacy (not just sex) is the shit however

 

[suicidaleeyore]

No way, not for me anyway. Im both asexual and autistic (which means I am socially awkward and generally hate physical contact)

 

[Whale_bones]

It really depends on how much you're interested in it. Sex in reality is very different from what is portrayed in movies, porn, etc. If you find a sex worker you're attracted to, you could have a good experience that you'd find very enjoyable. With that said, I don't recommend pushing yourself just for the sake of having sex, or doing it with someone you don't feel attraction towards, etc. Parts of our society put a weird emphasis on just technically having sex, but the good parts all come from actually enjoying the experience.

 

[Thanksforeverything]

It really depends on how much you're interested in it. Sex in reality is very different from what is portrayed in movies, porn, etc. If you find a sex worker you're attracted to, you could have a good experience that you'd find very enjoyable. With that said, I don't recommend pushing yourself just for the sake of having sex, or doing it with someone you don't feel attraction towards, etc. Parts of our society put a weird emphasis on just technically having sex, but the good parts all come from actually enjoying the experience.

I think I'm probably not interested in sex a lot, but I say that being someone with absolutely zero real-life experience with it. I've mostly ever had relationships with people who I found uninteresting when I actually got to know them a little, and in turn, almost always dumping them before we got past second base. I think I'd be a lot more interested in it if I had some meaningful connection with a person. But some part of me wonders how much of sex is actually the physical component and the emotional one.

 

[Whale_bones]

I think I'm probably not interested in sex a lot, but I say that being someone with absolutely zero real-life experience with it. I've mostly ever had relationships with people who I found uninteresting when I actually got to know them a little, and in turn, almost always dumping them before we got past second base. I think I'd be a lot more interested in it if I had some meaningful connection with a person. But some part of me wonders how much of sex is actually the physical component and the emotional one.

It's definitely hard to judge how much you'd like something when you haven't done it yet, I get that (and I felt the same way about sex before I did it, too, I really didn't know what I would think about it). And it varies for every person; for some people the emotional connection is essential, they don't even feel physical attraction until a deep emotional connection is established, for others they can enjoy being around someone and appreciate an experience regardless of deep emotions being involved. And there's people who are everywhere in between.

There's no right or wrong way to be, you just have to discover what feels right for you and then vibe with people who are on the same page. A lot of things regarding sexual and romantic attraction take self-discovery, though, they aren't things we can just know about ourselves (even though it would be waaaay easier if we could have it written out on a page for us).

In your position, where you aren't looking at years of dating and figuring out what you like and don't like, it's somewhat hard because you can only assess your thoughts so much. But I would say take the experiences you have had, and what you thought and felt about them, and let that guide you, as best you can.

 

[foreverfalling]

Try it and then tell us if it was worth it or not.

Is there any reason for you not to do it? If you're on this forum then I'd guess you wouldn't have much to lose doing it, so why not do it? If you do have reasons then until those reasons go away you should hold off from it until you are ready.

 

[hendry]

Try it and then tell us if it was worth it or not.

Is there any reason for you not to do it? If you're on this forum then I'd guess you wouldn't have much to lose doing it, so why not do it? If you do have reasons then until those reasons go away you should hold off from it until you are ready.

Good answer! It has all the logic. Those who are in this forum, for the most part, are out. Why not try it? You even like it.

Good luck

 

[Wehmut]

Personally would not go to a sexworker because I dont support such things. And I dont think dying a virgin is a shameful thing. Although dying without haven seen Interstellar is a very bad idea!

 

[bored2death]

give it a shot if you're willing to go through the effort. sex itself is a bit like masturbation if it's with someone who means nothing to you

when it's with someone you care about and who cares about you back, it's great

 

[superficialphony]

not sure if they're still here but if so you should add it

 

[locked*n*loaded]

I'd go for it. If you're on your way out, why not? It would be something new to you to try and it's not going to hurt you one single bit, nor an escort, if that is the route you decide to go. I, too, have no hangups with sex workers. They're merely providing a service, a necessary service, and it's between consenting adults. Obviously, the type of escort or sex worker I'm talking about are NOT the ones who are exploited, or are child sex workers. There are plenty out there who have made the choice for themselves. Some of them are even co-eds who merely like sex and figure why not get paid for it and help pay the bills. My advice is make sure you find one that is willing to kiss, because not all will.

 

[Daft-Bear]

Sex is really weird and everyone views it a bit differently. Generally, without an emotional component, I feel pretty empty, or even bad afterwords. But… that is because I've been in absolutely amazing relationships before. If I hadn't, I wouldn't understand what I was missing and I'd probably just enjoy it for what it was.

I don't think you've got anything to lose if you try it.

 

[jessisme]

New poster. I'm headed out in a few days.

I have been trying to do stuff whenever I get a chance for the last couple of weeks. Stuff I've always wanted to. Finally watch Interstellar. Try hallucinogens. Apologize to a friend I hurt. But I kept thinking if all this hype around sex or more precisely dying sexless is really something I should be concerned about. I have no issues with sex work, so I'm open to purchasing it if the experience is worth it. Thoughts?

Hey are you still around?

 

[Doz]

Isn't it ironic these concepts we come up with like "dying a virgin" means you will be shamed or frowned upon? Is there any logic as to why? No. Just an idea that we invented and is based on emotions and not facts. Don't feel ashamed if you go out without ever having sex. It doesn't make you a bad person or a failure, it'd just be one of those things you never got to experience and that's totally okay. Not everyone is gonna experience everything life has to offer. With that being said if it's something you want to do then I say go for it.

 

[moggedtodeath]

No. It's not worth it

 

[eashanm]

New poster. I'm headed out in a few days.

I have been trying to do stuff whenever I get a chance for the last couple of weeks. Stuff I've always wanted to. Finally watch Interstellar. Try hallucinogens. Apologize to a friend I hurt. But I kept thinking if all this hype around sex or more precisely dying sexless is really something I should be concerned about. I have no issues with sex work, so I'm open to purchasing it if the experience is worth it. Thoughts?

Which country you're based in? Sex Workers differ in each country and what you expect/get from them as well.

Lets say you're in London, you can opt for the girlfriend experience program with the escort, where they try to remove non intimacy parts of it.

A lot depends on the girl too. Whether she can make you feel good.

Do you have any jotted activities that you want to try in sex? That might help.

All in all, I'd suggest go for it if your country has an active escort scene.

 

[conarc]

Go for it. Its something that just keeps me going right now.

 

[CW36]

Sex is like any other drug - addictive at first, but the novelty starts to taper off. Love is what it's all about, and the two together are the best of it.

 

[Unattainable666]

My dream death would be dying while having sex. I think it should definitely be on the bucket list.

 

[conarc]

Sex is like any other drug - addictive at first, but the novelty starts to taper off. Love is what it's all about, and the two together are the best of it.

Sounds true - except for the fact that love does not exist.

 

[Unattainable666]

Sounds true - except for the fact that love does not exist.

Sex and love are two very different things

 

[John Ryder]

My dream death would be dying while having sex. I think it should definitely be on the bucket list.

SLAAAM! dun duh-nuh, dun duh-nuh, let the boys be boys!
Sorry, I dunno

 

[EndJstifiesTheMeans]

I will die virgin for chooise, i want sex only with the girl i love

 

[conarc]

Sex and love are two very different things

Love isnt even a thing

 

[CW36]

Sex and love are two very different things

They're not mutually exclusive as you seen to suggest.

 

[Unattainable666]

Love isnt even a thing

You are absolutely correct

 

[nessun_nome]

New poster. I'm headed out in a few days.

I have been trying to do stuff whenever I get a chance for the last couple of weeks. Stuff I've always wanted to. Finally watch Interstellar. Try hallucinogens. Apologize to a friend I hurt. But I kept thinking if all this hype around sex or more precisely dying sexless is really something I should be concerned about. I have no issues with sex work, so I'm open to purchasing it if the experience is worth it. Thoughts?

Boringly, good sex is good, bad sex is bad.

I like sex but it takes time to get fulfilment out of it. With a sex worker your first time, you'll likely come (cum) away thinking 'Is that it?' So you're unlikely to have a good experience doing it transactionally.

 

[ApparentlyNot]

New poster. I'm headed out in a few days.

I have been trying to do stuff whenever I get a chance for the last couple of weeks. Stuff I've always wanted to. Finally watch Interstellar. Try hallucinogens. Apologize to a friend I hurt. But I kept thinking if all this hype around sex or more precisely dying sexless is really something I should be concerned about. I have no issues with sex work, so I'm open to purchasing it if the experience is worth it. Thoughts?

really amazing sex, whether fueled by lust or love, would definitely be worth it. but that realistically isn't going to happen for anyone one of their first times. I personally don't think it's worth it unless you find yourself in a situation where you really want to and it feels right.

 

[bangimout]

Considering how exposed to sex we are, I'd say go for it so you can experience it for yourself because it really depends on your expectations. Like most things, while some people can't get enough of it, others could live without it. Since you're in a situation where you could (like you said) see a sex worker, I personally think you should do it IF doing it could change your mind about ending it all.