Is it even worth having a letter?

[cicadafriend]

So I'm sure this has been asked already. I have a note written out and everything that reveals some pretty intense stuff that most of my friends and even my family doesn't know about. I don't want to have to explain myself and would honestly just like to vanish with minimal drama, but someone made a good point that my family deserves to find out. Help please

 

[ScribeofSkryre]

im personally of the mind that you should write a note, mostly because it helps others process your passing. some people are quick to jump to guilt, thinking it was their fault, or performing some crazy feat of mental gymnastics to pin the blame on some political BS. one thing to note however is you don't have to be completely detailed in your letter, nor do you really have to be honest about every little thing, just provide something tangible.

 

[CentreMid]

I stand by the idea that, if you think it's worth it then go for it, and if you don't then there's no need to write anything. You're dying for yourself and nobody else after all. You don't owe your family anything.

 

[Praestat_Mori]

Writing a note/letter/last will is an individual decision one has to make on their own whether there is sth to be said or not. In my opinion a note/letter to a certain person can make it easier for them to understand ones own decision but that's also an individual decision. I wish you all the best!

 

[BlackNails]

Honest answer, I have no idea
I start writing so many letters but it just brings everything back again and I just get frustrated and stop writing
But the day I cant convince myself to not CTB as they say here, I would probably spend that last little effort writing everything out

 

[90starve]

i will personally be leaving a note. i also have things that my dad will have to sort out after my death, like selling my house - if you have similar affairs, then i would at least consider writing a will.

but the choice is completely up to you :) a final goodbye may give family and friends a little closure.

 

[The anhedonic one]

Yes, most definitely.
If no letter is left, then people will either drive themselves nuts with unanswered questions, or blame themselves, ( or both ).

 

[Goodgirlryeo101]

Personally I think it just depends you know if it's things that will bring more drama then just leave it. Personally, I realised that if I were to go to all my immediate family and reveal everything to one another most of them would end up secretly hating one another so I think it's best left alone.

However, having said that you can still leave a note detailing how they should deal with your belongings once you are gone etc….

All the best OP

 

[Sid19]

I don't have a great family but I'm still going to write a letter because it will more easier for everyone to understand why I did it. People jump on hundred different conclusions of their own and I don't want them to think that I did it for that reason or this. I want them to know my exact reason for doing it.

 

[Grav]

For me I will write a note. It's the last thing I'd ever say so I figure I should to give some explanation.

 

[Illidan77]

i actually was never really bothered with it but then i saw this thread which is kinda similar https://sanctioned-suicide.net/threads/are-suicide-letters-a-good-idea.109698/ and i think there was a reddit link probably from tg group but i forgot.
although i'm still not 100% sure to ctb.. but well the answers there and here is still kinda mixed / personal decision.
but for me, i think i'll write.. well i think explanation is probably important.. and from the thread above, it kinda change my perspective like i thought i'll be taking distance to err.. like instead of rejecting a meetup into accepting it.
i just wish like there's a format / index for it lol

 

[FuneralCry]

It's up to you deciding what to do, it's completely a personal decision, nobody is owed an explanation and it isn't like whatever happens in this world after we are gone could ever be our concern. But I guess that leaving a letter could mean that those left behind are less likely to be left with as many unanswered questions.