Discussion Is it better to not say goodbye?

[hella.physched]

Is it better to not leave a note, or say goodbye or "i love you" to friends/family.
Will it save them the pain?
Ive tried killing myself multiple times since i was 12. Ive left so many suicide notes/texts.
This time i have nothing left to say.
Is it unthoughtful or is it ok to just leave…?

 

[leavingsoon99]

That's up to you. You said that you have no more to say, then don't. Your soul is tired of putting out its feelings. If you've left some before, then you've already said what you needed to say. That's just my two cents.

I'm not leaving a note.

 

[FuneralCry]

It's up to you if you wish to leave a note or not for them to read after you are gone. But I wouldn't do anything that could potentially cause other people to interfere in suicide plans, actually saying goodbye is a terrible idea unless you want to be locked in a horrific psych ward.

 

[hella.physched]

It's up to you if you wish to leave a note or not for them to read after you are gone. But I wouldn't do anything that could potentially cause other people to interfere in suicide plans, actually saying goodbye is a terrible idea unless you want to be locked in a horrific psych ward.

That's a point i kind of overlooked. Thank u.

 

[tiny_dancer]

I think it's a very personal thing, whatever feels right. Is there anything you want to say or have people understand after you are gone? Will it give you some type of closure or peace? Do you want to say "I love you" one last time? For me personally, I will not say goodbye to anyone or leave anything, even though initially I had many notes written. I've tried many times to explain my suffering (physical/emotional) causing me to CTB to those closest to me but it fell on deaf ears. So I've made peace with that fact, and nobody will know anything until I'm gone. It'll be business as usual. It will be hard enough for me knowing it's going to be the last time I see them, and I will have to say a silent goodbye in my own way.

 

[ringo99]

Probably leave one in such a way that it will be discovered after you ctb. That way if you fail you can still get rid of it if you want

 

[Vizzy]

Is it better to not leave a note, or say goodbye or "i love you" to friends/family.
Will it save them the pain?
Ive tried killing myself multiple times since i was 12. Ive left so many suicide notes/texts.
This time i have nothing left to say.
Is it unthoughtful or is it ok to just leave…?

Yes it's okay if you don't wanna leave a note, it is obvious a note gonna hurt your family more but you can leave a short note like "I can't do this anymore, sorry" just don't write a huge paragraphs of notes

 

[blacksand]

Fuck all that goodbye stuff it's so cliched. Just let me check out.

 

[Lintaga]

depends on your reasons i think. if its out or revenge, i could see someone leaving a note to the person/people who wrecked them. some may want to explain to their loved ones there was nothing they could do to save the person. it all depends. some people have lots to say but no energy to type or write it out and end up giving up on a note since they're giving up on life anyway.

 

[OceanBlue]

Is it unthoughtful or is it ok to just leave…?

As others have said, it's entirely up to you. Soon enough, they will be gone too.

This fear of traumatizing others comes from suicide stigma. If the society weren't so anti-choice, then others would understand that a person made a rational decision, saved themselves, would even be relieved and happy for them. Now we have to explain why we're leaving? It should be obvious - we live in hell, why do you even need explanations?

imo if someone is aware - they'll get it without a note, if not - a note won't help. Up to you, any choice is valid.

 

[Ambivalent1]

Closure is manmade. Many people die every day in car accidents. No goodbyes there