Is being at least 6 ft tall really that important?

[Snake of Eden]

Plus, apparently short guys statistically have more sex.

when god takes with one hand he gives with the other

 

[motel rooms]

Accurate depiction of our 5cm height difference.

But you were on your knees when you took that pic. How quickly you forget, you ingrate!

 

[maakies]

I prefer people of a similar height 5'5 to 5'8. I don't like people above 5'10, though I have dated tall people.

I am in the minority of course. I will say my brother does very well with women and he's 5'6. He also has no degree or money. He's a real smooth talker.

 

[motel rooms]

some people are into dating people who look like them and i see that very prevalent in gay dating scene.

Yeah, there's a lot of that, but plenty of "masculine" gays are still only into "feminine"/"stereotypically gay" guys. I'm one of those horrible "masc-4-masc-only" people who get accused of being homophobic (yes, that really happens sometimes! lol) just because they don't enjoy fucking just anyone. I'm sorry, boys, I can't stick my dick in you if you don't turn me on. Unless you're willing to pay me.

Myself on the other hand I dont feel attracted to people with my attributes. Somehow it feels too close to home and borderline incestous.

There are 2 things I could never do - let someone fuck me & do a young guy who is no longer underage, but still looks like a high school kid; that creeps the shit outta me. I know it isn't illegal & it shouldn't be, but I find it very disturbing.

no you are not. I always find over confidence is a big turn off especially when the person is not all that attractive irl. I find some humility and insecurity as very attractive. Also little bit of playful cockiness (like in a teasing way) is also attractive if the person is really physically attractive.

Really vain hot guys are obnoxious, but gagging & punishing them is so much fun. No need for foreplay & worrying that you're hurting them either. Modest, respectful guys who are unaware of just how attractive they are are the hottest.

If someone isnt physically attractive and vain it is such a turn off. I notice alot of non attractive guys in my region of the world think they are the shit once they hit the gym and improve their looks little. It is nauseating

Nauseating? That shit is hilarious.

 

[Snake of Eden]

Really vain hot guys are obnoxious, but gagging & punishing them is so much fun. No need for foreplay & worrying that you're hurting them either. Modest, respectful guys who are unaware of just how attractive they are are the hottest.

I want to high 5 you IRL for doing that

Nauseating? That shit is hilarious.

It is the worst type of human being when somebody are very rude because they think they are hot when they aint shit. And yes it is very sad and hilarious. Human monkeys

 

[eternalpeace]

I know that really short guys are unfairly penalized for their height, but is it really that important for a man to be at least 6 ft tall? Is a guy really utterly & totally fucked if he's, say, 5'8 ft?
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Average_human_height_by_country
The average height for white men in the States is 178 cm (5'10 ft), 176.4 cm (5 ft 9+1​⁄2​ in) for African Americans, 172.3 cm (5'8 ft) for Asians & 171.2 cm (5 ft 7+1​⁄2​ in) for Latinos. Dutch men are the tallest in the world - 183.8 cm (6 ft 1​⁄2​ in). Brazil - 170.7 cm (5'7 ft). Malaysia - 165.2 cm (5'5 ft). Something doesn't add up here , somebody's being paranoid.

I'm 190 cm, quite tall. I can also still afford to be very superficial when it comes to other gay men's looks, but "masculinity", a nice face & a reasonably fit body are much more important than height to me. I've slept with plenty of quite short Latinos & Arabs & some Asians. From what I've observed over the years, handsome gay guys with average social skills do just fine even if they're pretty short. It isn't hard for average-looking normie gays of average height to get laid either.

I highly doubt that the average gay man cares significantly less about height than the average str8 woman. The obvious difference between us is that women are much more interested in long-term relationships (& having kids, ofc), so they care more about a man's socioeconomic status. I'm pretty sure they don't give a shit if a guy is 5'8 if they perceive him as someone attractive enough who's got his shit together. The average Latino man in the US is only 5 ft 7+1​⁄2​ in. Why aren't most of them depressed af? How come some white & black women marry Latinos of average height?

Please try & remember I started this post by saying that I know really short guys are unfairly penalized for their height. Let the senseless bloodshed begin.

I'm not a short man, so I can't speak directly to this. As a 5' 7" woman who is not at all petite, I like being next to a taller, bigger guy so that I feel more traditionally "feminine". I hate that I think this way (I try to avoid stereotypes about femininity and masculinity, but somehow this bias seeped in). Having said that, I do find shorter men attractive, and have had long term relationships with people shorter than myself. (Then again, I am not obsessed with looks or social status as is the societal norm, so I might not be representative of the main stream on this point).

I have known many short (some even less than 5' 8") men who have achieved prominent positions in their careers, so I think being shorter than 6' is not nearly as prejudicial as being unattractive, fat, in a racial minority, or in any other category that tends to be marginalized (health problems, neurodivergence, gender identity that society doesn't accept, etc). I think height is something that Western Society emphasizes for men, but I don't think failing to have it is, in and of itself, as detrimental as falling short (pun fully intended) in other areas of expectation. I have no data to back this up. Just my opinion based on what I've observed.

 

[OrcWitch]

I'm 6ft2 myself, and being female and that height is *really* hard to deal with. The one time I had a partner taller than me it was amazing as I finally got to feel 'small'. No one ever looks at a 6ft2 female-presenting person and sees vulnerability.

My girlfriend is very tall like you and has talked about the same issues. I try to make her feel like the little spoon.

 

[motel rooms]

I think it depends, not every woman wants the same thing in a man and vice versa for men.

Of course, but it's useful & possible to determine what most people who belong to a certain group do & why they do it. Social science is interesting.

It is the worst type of human being when somebody are very rude because they think they are hot when they aint shit. And yes it is very sad and hilarious. Human monkeys

A gay guy needs a sense of humor about hooking up. You never know what kind of moron you're gonna end up fucking.

 

[Chaestergram]

Definitely not ! There is faaaar more small womxn so someone 6ft is not necessarily what they look for but womxn like me who's already tall (5'8) yes definitely that's our ultimate goal but most of us will end up with shorter guys or same size as there is not much very tall guys but this won't change anything, for exemple my partner is wayyy smaller than me even tho I dreamed about being with someone two heads taller than me it doesn't change the fact that I love this man and still want to be with him regardless of his height

 

[motel rooms]

I will say my brother does very well with women and he's 5'6. He also has no degree or money. He's a real smooth talker.

Does he have an attractive face & a nice little bod as well?

 

[tiredplant777]

It's not important to me at all really. I am a woman who is 5"3 and I actually prefer guys who are around 5"7 as a height, but overall I don't have a huge preference as long as they aren't really tall. Actually when I was on dating apps and I always swiped left on guys who were over 6"1 because that is just too tall for me. I had a fling with a guy who was also my height, so 5"3, and man he was so hot and we had fun. I get taller women wanting to be with guys who are also tall, but like yeah I don't want a guy who is super tall because I'm short.

 

[motel rooms]

when god takes with one hand he gives with the other

God is an expert hand job giver.

 

[chocolatebar]

I can understand the plight of short people. I just don't think that men of average height are fucked just because they aren't 6 ft tall.

It's really hard to understand. I've seen many threads on reddit about people venting about their height. It usually works this way: a man who is really short compared to the men averages (let's consider 1,60m for example) posts about it and many people start showing some chaotic support, but then, other men start venting as well and guys slightly taller, around 1,61 to 1,63, start appearing in. The logic is that if 1,60m is short, then 1,63 is short too, but then it becomes the new comparison value and it goes up and up until the 1,70m short guys start spawning. The same happens, with more and more people joining, and the discussion becoming heated, until the small 1,80m guys join the venting, pushing the value up and up and, if the thread isn't closed or loses popularity, we can even find some 1,90 something people talking about how fragilized they feel when around taller people. I've never seen 2m "short" people venting in those threads, but I wouldn't be surprised if there are some around there

 

[summers]

I'm 5"2 ( 1.58m)
I do like taller guys, they make me feel safe and protected.
Ofcourse that's not always true.
But I've never felt attracted to a small guy.

I think it's some primal thing...

The short guy who carries a glock would do a much better job protecting you than the tall guy who doesn't.

 

[Myforevercharlie]

The short guy who carries a glock would do a much better job protecting you than the tall guy who doesn't.

True.

But like I said, I think it's a primal thing

 

[death137]

Height is important but face is the most important trait. I'm disadvantaged on both and they are the main reason why I want to kill myself. Your life as a whole is affected by your looks. Humans are superficial by nature so I don't expect to be treated with love. I just want society as a whole to acknowledge the hell ppl who are unattractive are going through and provide us with the option to end our lives humanly. I mentioned unattractive ppl but I also believe anyone in hell or just doesn't want to live for whatever reason should be provided with that option.

There are very few ppl who doesn't care about your height or face or both. But the majority do so.

 

[summers]

Height is important but face is the most important trait. I'm disadvantaged on both and they are the main reason why I want to kill myself. Your life as a whole is affected by your looks. Humans are superficial by nature so I don't expect to be treated with love. I just want society as a whole to acknowledge the hell ppl who are unattractive are going through and provide us with the option to end our lives humanly. I mentioned unattractive ppl but I also believe anyone in hell or just doesn't want to live for whatever reason should be provided with that option.

There are very few ppl who doesn't care about your height or face or both. But the majority do so.

Maybe you can't change your face or height, but having a nice body goes a long way too. Plenty of guys have unattractive faces, but their body will still attract attention.

 

[death137]

Maybe you can't change your face or height, but having a nice body goes a long way too. Plenty of guys have unattractive faces, but their body will still attract attention.

It's very difficult for me to have a nice body. I mostly eat healthy and do fasting but I still have a disgusting body (I'm not obese though). While my brother and friends can eat whatever they want and not do fasting but still have normal or less body fat concentration. I've come to the conclusion that it's mainly due to genetics. Even if I managed to have a nice body I would still be an ugly and short clown. I can't escape my subhumanity except through death.

 

[Myforevercharlie]

Height is important but face is the most important trait. I'm disadvantaged on both and they are the main reason why I want to kill myself. Your life as a whole is affected by your looks. Humans are superficial by nature so I don't expect to be treated with love. I just want society as a whole to acknowledge the hell ppl who are unattractive are going through and provide us with the option to end our lives humanly. I mentioned unattractive ppl but I also believe anyone in hell or just doesn't want to live for whatever reason should be provided with that option.

There are very few ppl who doesn't care about your height or face or both. But the majority do so.

Unfortunately you are right about that ..

In my case, people tell me I have a pretty face.... directly followed by, " but you should loose weight"

I stopped dating altogether, I deserve someone that cares about me for me. Not who they would like me to be.

But that's not always fun...

 

[summers]

Unfortunately you are right about that ..

In my case, people tell me I have a pretty face.... directly followed by, " but you should loose weight"

I stopped dating altogether, I deserve someone that cares about me for me. Not who they would like me to be.

But that's not always fun...

That's incredibly rude and mean. I've never once said that to anyone. And just ignore them, unless your weight is causing health or mobility issues, the most important thing is you are happy with yourself.

 

[GoldLeafIndigo]

As a straight woman who works as a stripper and sugar baby with 0 interest in serious relationships/marriage, having kids etc., a man's height is irrelevant to me, their income/wealth & status is what attracts me. I'm tall anyway at 5'9-5'10"(6'6" in my work heels!) so I'm well used to towering above men

Edit: I think it should go without saying that personality is still a major factor in whether you find someone attractive or not, at least it is for me

A big definitely on personality. I'm learning that if our values don't line up, it's not going to go well, so don't bother. And hygiene. Never forget hygiene.

Unfortunately you are right about that ..

In my case, people tell me I have a pretty face.... directly followed by, " but you should loose weight"

I stopped dating altogether, I deserve someone that cares about me for me. Not who they would like me to be.

But that's not always fun...

That's such a dick thing to say to you.

"Well, you should develop some social skills"....

 

[Nanako]

I'm very tall for a woman (180 cm) and I dated a guy who was 1.74m for a good while. He was very good looking however imo, so I won't pretend for a second that I'm devoid of my own superficial inclinations lol. We eventually broke up (for reasons unrelated to his height, I swear).

 

[Cameron Diazepam]

Not to derail but height is correlated with higher income.

The findings suggest that someone who is 6 feet tall earns, on average, nearly $166,000 more during a 30-year career than someone who is 5 feet 5 inches--even when controlling for gender, age and weight.

Standing tall pays off, study finds

The findings suggest that someone who is 6 feet tall earns, on average, nearly $166,000 more during a 30-year career than someone who is 5 feet 5 inches, even when controlling for gender, age and weight.

www.apa.org

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

Not to derail but height is correlated with higher income.

Me being a statistical outlier by being a tall NEET:

 

[Cameron Diazepam]

Hey, parents always say we're gonna be special, right?

 

[maakies]

Does he have an attractive face & a nice little bod as well?

Hah, yes. He's got a good fashion sense, and works out. Whenever anyone whines about how their height is preventing them from dating I automatically assume their personality or style sucks.

 

[Interloper]

I automatically assume their personality or style sucks.

Usually personality, if how they act online is anything to go by.

True.

But like I said, I think it's a primal thing

I know what you mean, it's nice to be held by someone bigger and stronger. Didn't have glocks in the primal days...

 

[GentleJerk]

My favorite comment in the sex fantasies megathread

6'5 woman giving me a hug :0

Seems there's a bit of a trend, women often like men to be at least a bit taller than them, men often like women to be shorter than them.

Being somewhat tall means I've only dated people shorter than me. Which is fine, but nowadays wouldn't mind an absolute amazon ngl

 

[CryWolf]

No, the "I only date guys 6' and up" is akin to men saying they only date women of a certain weight or cup size.
I'm 5' 10" and I think short guys are sexy.
Tall, particularly very tall men (not ALL) don't appeal to me, because they don't really HAVE to develop a personality or be exceptional in any other way to succeed in life and have women throwing their panties at them. As a tall woman, they tend to be overconfident/cocky that I MUST be attracted to them and dis the shorties I'm obviously with.
I'd rather be with a confident, exceptional shorter man who tries harder. I find it much more sexy, including society being somewhat judgemental towards tall girls and short guys.
Besides, we're the same height laying down

 

[Kristicide]

Depends on the person who's looking. Some people want only tall dudes. Others aren't as picky. I've had a full range. + and - to everything