Discussion Is anyone going to leave video messages as their goodbye?

[Rustysoupcan]

I'm thinking about doing video letters to my loved ones before I go, because there aren't really any videos of me and I think they would like to be able to see me and hear me talk. But I don't know what to say. and I especially don't know how to keep myself from crying because I'm such an emotional lad.

 

[Smart No More]

Yeah, I've tried to do some myself.

I recommend searching "how to write a great suicide note" in a search engine.

I found some good tips. Ones that stick in mind are things like not saying sorry or not saying things like 'don't blame yourselves'. The reason being that you want to leave a good memory and putting that out there just makes them think about the possibility of blaming theirselves when they may not have done it without you bringing it up.

It's a tricky thing to get right. Especially when you're feeling so terrible. Leaving only videos of yourself in a negative light is not a great idea because thats all they will remember so it's a good idea to maybe recount some good memories, smile a bit and then make it clear that you're ctb is a good thing because it ends your suffering even though you'll be sad to say goodbye to them. Like it's just an unfortunate necessity but it's ok. You've made your peace with it and will be going happily. I can't say I've nailed it myself. There's a lot to think about and a lot to get wrong/right but the general gyst, as far as I can tell is to focus on the positives and try to leave as happy a memory as you can. Like, it's a sad goodbye but it's for the best and you're thankful foe the love you received etc etc. Hope that's of some use. You'll find much more useful info if you search it up though. :)

 

[Alwaysbadtime]

No, personally I think this is too haunting. I have no videos of my grandparents happy and alive why would I want someone to see me unhappy and about to off myself?

Do it if you want...perhaps they will like it. It's just way too much for me to fathom doing. I think it would disturb my family even more.

Of course this is my opinion. Do what you want.

 

[Smart No More]

I think it all depends on the nature of the video you leave. It's certainly easy to get wrong though.

I think maybe a well constructed letter is a safer bet.

 

[Sra_TZ]

A video message would turn out too emotional and I'm bad at expressing my thoughts verbally. I'd probably leave a letter given that my writing skills are pretty decent for the most part. The person with whom I'm going to leave the letter has an uncountable amount of photos and videos of me- on my good days and bad days. The best memories she'll have of me will be in her heart, not in the form of letters or videos.

I hope your loved ones treasure the video letters you leave them, if you choose to do so
~S

 

[finish.me]

i think it could be a good idea. if you left them something that doesn't outright put your sadness on display and instead focus the video on more wholesome things like, what you love about x person, talking about nice memories, etc, and ending the video with an 'i love you' instead of a goodbye, that would be nice. you could also write a letter to go with it if you feel the need to talk about your pain and give an explanation, just so they don't have to watch that video and feel be upset by it. but again its a slippery slope so truly like..have a long think about it

 

[FuneralCry]

I do not think that I will. I think a note would be better for me personally at getting all the points that I want to across. I am not good at communicating as well.

 

[bunnies]

i considered this but frankly i hate the idea of my personal words coming directly from my mouth being possibly shared or seen by others. in a weird way a letter feels a little more removed…can't explain it. other than that i know i will be terribly emotional and couldn't get through a good video. i do plan on leaving good memories in my notes and explaining why they mean so much to me, how they've impacted my life, times they created joy for me, and how much i love them and what i love about them. i am going to leave in as little explaining as possible (it's not really going to be needed tbh, the people getting notes know that i have had mental health struggles nearly my entire life and that i have always been a troubled person). i really just want the notes to be something they can read at other points in their life if they feel they need comfort, if they miss me, etc. i want them to be something nice. a nice goodbye.

 

[Helplessturtle79]

I'm thinking about doing video letters to my loved ones before I go, because there aren't really any videos of me and I think they would like to be able to see me and hear me talk. But I don't know what to say. and I especially don't know how to keep myself from crying because I'm such an emotional lad.

I wasn't planning on it, but I like this idea and think I will now. I was maybe going to get some pictures of myself printed.
I've also been thinking I'll make a pie or something for my friends as a thank you/apology gift for all of the shit they've tried to help me through.
"Don't feel guilty! I'm sorry I killed myself! Have a delicious pie :-)"