The thing is my outer appearance is not really the issue. My brain that becomes paranoid when I meet a woman ruins it. Some women still gave me a chance but the stigma was too much. I ruined my last chance with a woman because of that. And I think I will or already have ruined another chance. The other woman is also mentally ill I hope she understands it better. To be honest I have the feeling I almost already ruined it again. I might meet her again after the holidays. I am a little bit scared I tend to overthink things on an insane level. Even pathologically.
I think focus on outer appearance is a little bit superficial but it is the first thing one notices. I am very thin and some women like that. I might look slightly above average (?). Some women told me I look (very) good.
Some steps which I have done so far. I had serious issues with scall in my hair. I bought a medical anti-scall shampoo which fixed the issue. I also care more about hygiene in general now.
I bought me some NIke shoes which look extremely good (in my opinion) but they only costed like 60 bucks which is insane. (they were new)
I slightly inspired my style of Lil Peep but not the very daring outfits. Bought me new clothes. I would like to elaborate more but I am too scared of being identified.
From my outer appearance I hate my teeth the most. But I won't spend a couple thousand to fix them. My outer appearance is not the main reason why I have no success with women.
I have bought some gimmicks that might make women curious about me. Once a woman was interested in me because I had a Death Note phone case.
On the one hand I think a woman should not start to like me because my fucking Nike shoes look good. It is also unfair for poor people. On the other hand this is our human nature and I also try to express my personality over how look. Okay now I say it. I have glasses. And I don't want to change to contact lenses or even have an operation. With my glasses I rather look like an intellectual. And me being considered a semi-intellectual is charming for my ego. Sadly I am not smart enough and not educated enough. But I am very articulate and sometimes women like that. However I rather feel like chatGPT. Like a fraud. I am good at sounding smart but I don't have very deep knowldege on things. But at least I am deep.
Moreover I hated to make the lenses in my eyes. I really hated that feeling. I feel very comfortable with my glasses.
Recently a very hot woman kind of complimented me. On that day I was very depressed and it helped to lift my mood. But what does this matter if my brain always ruins it.
Any more tips and tricks? I always try to consider the ratio between how much it improves my style and how much it actually costs. I don't spend insanely much on one piece of clothing. I would never buy something like Gucci, Rolex or Balenciaga. I also would not have enough money for that anyway.
I think focus on outer appearance is a little bit superficial but it is the first thing one notices. I am very thin and some women like that. I might look slightly above average (?). Some women told me I look (very) good.
Some steps which I have done so far. I had serious issues with scall in my hair. I bought a medical anti-scall shampoo which fixed the issue. I also care more about hygiene in general now.
I bought me some NIke shoes which look extremely good (in my opinion) but they only costed like 60 bucks which is insane. (they were new)
I slightly inspired my style of Lil Peep but not the very daring outfits. Bought me new clothes. I would like to elaborate more but I am too scared of being identified.
From my outer appearance I hate my teeth the most. But I won't spend a couple thousand to fix them. My outer appearance is not the main reason why I have no success with women.
I have bought some gimmicks that might make women curious about me. Once a woman was interested in me because I had a Death Note phone case.
On the one hand I think a woman should not start to like me because my fucking Nike shoes look good. It is also unfair for poor people. On the other hand this is our human nature and I also try to express my personality over how look. Okay now I say it. I have glasses. And I don't want to change to contact lenses or even have an operation. With my glasses I rather look like an intellectual. And me being considered a semi-intellectual is charming for my ego. Sadly I am not smart enough and not educated enough. But I am very articulate and sometimes women like that. However I rather feel like chatGPT. Like a fraud. I am good at sounding smart but I don't have very deep knowldege on things. But at least I am deep.
Moreover I hated to make the lenses in my eyes. I really hated that feeling. I feel very comfortable with my glasses.
Recently a very hot woman kind of complimented me. On that day I was very depressed and it helped to lift my mood. But what does this matter if my brain always ruins it.
Any more tips and tricks? I always try to consider the ratio between how much it improves my style and how much it actually costs. I don't spend insanely much on one piece of clothing. I would never buy something like Gucci, Rolex or Balenciaga. I also would not have enough money for that anyway.
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I do not know of such a book to be able recommend it here. I recommended one of the best books I know of, on dating.
