Discussion If you gave yourself a second chance, what would you do ?

[jeoel]

i wonder if you want to give yourself one last chance , what would you change ? , what kind of new things your gonna do ? you will start from the beginning or you will try to fix what you have ? What would you say to this world ? What would you say to the world ?
Why don't you do it now ?

 

[plan c]

Maybe I'll kill myself twice lol
On a second thought, just kill myself with the first chance and try to redeem myself using the second chance.
Dunno what I'm talking about

 

[SectOfValtiel]

I think even with everything else wrong in my life, Id still live it all again up to a certain point if it meant I could try to fix everything after

Id go back to the day I met my ex and use what I know now to be a better partner to her
Instead of begging her to stay for my own sake, Id just try to be there with her until the end
Instead of getting jealous Id trust her more- and do my best to be patient until she could trust me, too
And Id try my best to respect her wishes, even if it meant losing her all over again... at least if it happened twice I could die glad that I was finally something good to her like I always promised I would be

You have no idea how much I wish I had that chance
But I guess Ive finally come to terms with the fact that sometimes people are never coming back into your life again
Knowing how much I fuck up and how long it took me to even realize how to fix *those* things, I think for her sake Im glad my chances have run out

 

[aladdin]

No second chances for me at this age. I wish I could go back in time and redo my life :(

 

[Darkover]

kill everyone be nothing for all time

 

[Ceterum]

No second chances for me at this age. I wish I could go back in time and redo my life :(

same, if the question was "what would you do/change if you could move back in time", I could give some answers ...

 

[SamTam33]

No matter what you want to do, you need a collaborator and partner.

If you're homeless, you need a landlord to lease one of their apartments. You need a bank to give you a loan if you want to buy a house or car.

If you want a baby, it takes two people to create one.

If you want higher education, you need a university to accept you.

Right now, I would love a second chance at being employed. But I need an employer to choose me for a job.

I can't make them. They have to be willing.

The point I'm trying to make is that sometimes it doesn't matter if you have a second chance or how you want to change/improve your life - you always need someone willing to collaborate with you. And it's not always a given that you'll find one.

A lot of us are doing so poorly because no one is willing to collaborate with us in whatever area needs improvement.

 

[AnxietyHangover]

I kind of gave myself a second chance recently, but it doesn't seem to pay off, I mean, nothing is changing for the better, only for the worse. Maybe the true change should've been done like 10 years ago for me, while I wasn't this mentally shattered as I am today. Though, I'm not upset, maybe that was my destiny.

 

[BillyBob]

Have tried many times but all have ended the same.
Tried traveling with nothing but hurt.
Went and got a Degree and are now in debt instead and on a benifit.
Have been trying to get a job but are unable to because of not being physically well and mentally well.

More then enough chances that I would just kill myself again instead.

 

[A simple aid]

i wonder if you want to give yourself one last chance , what would you change ? , what kind of new things your gonna do ? you will start from the beginning or you will try to fix what you have ? What would you say to this world ? What would you say to the world ?
Why don't you do it now ?

id say it depends on the person....i dont believe in regrets or mistakes ....after all they shape the you now and the future you are in...and though some may feel wrong...even if you dont realise it...youd be a better person now with them than without them....so the question would be what could you do moving forward....now i dont know if the question is addressed at you or the audience ....but in both case id say it depends on the person

 

[👁️👃👁️]

I wouldn't watch pornography. I would take care of my body and eat healthier. I wouldn't do hard drugs like methamphetamine and heroin. I'd stay away from miserable people that only want to drag me down with them. I wouldn't spend all my time focusing on the most negative and depressing things about life. I'd spend more time away from technology. I don't know it's probably a lot of different things that I would do differently.

 

[GrumpyFrog]

This is a tricky question. What would make it "another chance", really? What do I have left to say to this world, besides "in conclusion, everything sucks"? Sometimes I think if I could do a complete re-do of my life, it would be better, but on the other hand there is no way of knowing, maybe in the end I would end up doing even worse than I do now.
I kind of wish I knew what I could do to fix my life at this point, but I have no idea what it could be. That is the primary reason why I am not really doing anything, but I am not dead yet either - I am taking a bit of time to think and see whether I can come up with any new ideas, or any new opportunities present themselves. If not, then it's game over.

 

[Regen]

Difficult question, I can only answer fragments.

If I could change anything from today, I wish I could feel joy. This would give me more interest in other people and more energy for all the tasks of the day. And I would wish for a partner with whom I could share my life.

In terms of material things, I would really incredibly like to have a house. I have dreamed of that since I was a child. Or at least more space in the apartment, I live extremely cramped.

If I could travel back in time, it would be difficult. I think I have a predisposition to depression in my genes and my parents were not very loving and supportive. I would like that to be different, but I have no influence on that. I would definitely give my narcissistic ex-partner a wide berth. Maybe move into a shared apartment.

But it is difficult. I myself and my parents would have to be fundamentally different for my life to be fundamentally better.

 

[niiina]

I'd kill myself again lol

I have severe depression so idk if I could do much, but let's say it was going better (and not talking about going back to the past).

I'd move to my mothers place cause her city is better than my father's(where I'm now), there are beaches, more things to do and specifically more jobs, I'd live with her till I find a job then would rent a place of my own, start some long distance courses at some online university, and as I'm hypothetically not depressed anymore I'd get a couple cats too, I love cats, I'd spoil them so much lol. After that I'd save a bit to them go and rent a small place in a even better city in the region and probably go back to sex work till I find another job but probably keeping the sexwork occasionally to have some pocket money.

But while I write, being extremely depressed it seems absolutely pointless to do all this, my life would still be miserable cause of the depression. It's unthinkable for me, I'm too far gone

 

[WhiskeyHands]

I would have taken college more seriously. I wouldn't have dated my last ex.

 

[ceserasera]

I don't know if any amount of chances would change anything because, fundamentally, I am the problem. Things happen, people react in certain ways, in direct response to *me*. So if I'm the common denominator in every bad thing, doing things twice, thrice over, isn't going to make a difference.

 

[Fadeawaaaay]

I would have engaged in the World from a very young age instead of isolating and ruminating… irony and cynicism got me nowhere

 

[tom_46]

Avoid addiction

 

[freedomcalls]

i wonder if you want to give yourself one last chance , what would you change ? , what kind of new things your gonna do ? you will start from the beginning or you will try to fix what you have ? What would you say to this world ? What would you say to the world ?
Why don't you do it now

What I wish I could do is go back before I had children, and follow through on my desire to die.
I've wished to every day since, but the pain it will inflict on them is unbearable so I feel condemned to carry that pain within me instead

 

[LesbianCarpetPython]

Not fuck up my relationships

 

[Forest Fire]

If you mean i could start my life again then i would. I was good at football when i was a kid and fucked up an opportunity i had to maybe have had a career at it. Given a second chance i would fully commit to it and wouldn't quit this time.
I ruined a relationship with the most kind and loving person i'd ever met, so i would like the opportunity to repair that.
In general i would talk to more people and not smoke or drink in my teenage years.

 

[Ashu]

More like what I wouldn't do.

 

[Forever Sleep]

The awful part is- I reckon I'd screw it up the second time round as well . Can't say I feel like I've made any huge 'mistakes'- most of my decisions made sense at the time. I'm not really that big on regret.

To be honest, I can't actually think of anything worse than being sent back to 'try again' or 'try harder.' I'd like to say I'd just kill myself earlier but I kind of know I wouldn't do that either because I feel like I have to wait for my Dad to go first.

As for 'starting again' now- or 'making a fresh start,' I have already relocated twice for jobs- they were pretty big resets and nothing has REALLY changed. I think quite often, you end up in the same place mentally because you still carry 'you' around. THAT would take a LOT to fix I think and honestly- I don't want the hassle and discomfort of doing that- I'd much rather 'force quit.'

Still, seeing as I'm rather stuck here for the time being, (while I wait on my Dad's life to play out- isn't it awful to look at it like that?) I know I SHOULD make more effort to make it bearable- although I find it far more likely I will just keep treading water.

 

[FuneralCry]

There was never a chance for me in the first place. I'm not compatible with life and I believe that some people are simply not meant to exist. The existence of life is an absolutely horrific thing and existing under any circumstances could never be desirable in every single way, I believe that non existence is always the preferable option. Life itself will always be the problem no matter what, and it's always made sense for me to leave this world. Choosing to stay alive will inevitably lead to more suffering.

And also in this world it's simply not possible for many people to live a life that satisfies them, so many people are trapped in circumstances that they have limited control over and they feel they have no choice but to ctb or they will suffer extremely. Not everyone is brought to this point due to their own mistakes that could have been changed.

 

[Venus13]

More like what I wouldn't do.

Yes, exactly my thoughts.

 

[Lifeaballache]

If my circumstances changed and I was able to enjoy my life again I'd probably find another job I loved which would enable me to live life to the full. Its opened my eyes on how much you've missed out on when you're close to the brink. I so hope I get a second chance.

 

[Niirvana]

Admit me to a psychiatric clinic...

 

[Dying Failure]

I wish I could go back in time and stop my past self from making the biggest mistake of my life. Which now brings me to the point where I would never like to live ever again.

 

[Sad_Sack]

Honestly the only thing I need differently is for whatever happened to me 30 years ago that caused my physical problems and subsequent medication use that made things infinitely worse to not have happened in the first place.

There are things I would redo though. My parents had some real issues that affected me and my sister growing up really bad and I never let it go. Even as they got towards the end of their life things would come up and I would let into them about it. Despite how badly these things messed with me I wish I would have just let it go. They definitely loved us and never stopped being there and in the end I wish I could have just let it all go for them.

 

[thedaywillcome]

Kill myself again.