Help Ideal last talk?

[sklvlp999]

Is it possible by any mean to have a mature conversation with your family about why you choose to leave this place making sure they won't feel guilty about your decision before actually going through it?
If it was I feel like it actually would help both parts. Me and them.
Is it something possible

 

[alpha26]

No way its going to happen,once they get to know that they gona loose you forever they will start panicking and that will destroy the maturity in them

 

[sklvlp999]

No way its going to happen,once they get to know that they gona loose you forever they will start panicking and that will destroy the maturity in them

I know that is the most possible outcome but it doesn't have to be like this.
That's why the only option left is writing a note

 

[alpha26]

I know that is the most possible outcome but it doesn't have to be like this.
That's why the only option left is writing a note

Yeah that's the only better option we have it should be a not or a video or a Audio which ever you feel comfortable to express your feelings 100%

 

[sklvlp999]

Yeah that's the only better option we have it should be a not or a video or a Audio which ever you feel comfortable to express your feelings 100%

I didn't think of an audio but it's actually a good idea.
It might be too much for them tho don't you think?

 

[alpha26]

I didn't think of an audio but it's actually a good idea.
It might be too much for them tho don't you think?

your voice can carry your pain more than letters,so i think it is better not too much

 

[LifeIsCrazyNemb]

Thats a very relevant topic. Any parents would do anything to avoid their son/daughter to CTB so this ideal mature conversation is almost impossible to reach a resonable "agreement".

Nonetheless i plan to send my parents a very detailed video + writting letter making sure that they do not have any guilty about my death and expressing my love to them. Ill also send video to other close relative (sister, aunt and best friend) instructing them to help my parents cope with my CTB and reinforcing that my parents are not responsible for my act.

 

[hikikomorizombie]

i wish i could, esp bc i have a lot of questions as to why she raised me & handled things the way she did when she's dealt w mental illness her whole life too. + in her other fam members.

i couldn't though. every time i've had a real mental illness scare like an attempt or SH, she just commits me to the psych ward. i won't risk that again. it's obv that somehow, she doesn't truly understand.

+ i agree w other commenters, parents will never stay objective abt it. it'll always be too emotional of a convo to really have clearheadedly.

 

[sklvlp999]

your voice can carry your pain more than letters,so i think it is better not too much

I agree with it. It sounds so cold to just leave a note.
Maybe an audio to esch of them separately will make it easier to understand and leave no shadow of doubt that they could have done more.

i wish i could, esp bc i have a lot of questions as to why she raised me & handled things the way she did when she's dealt w mental illness her whole life too. + in her other fam members.

i couldn't though. every time i've had a real mental illness scare like an attempt or SH, she just commits me to the psych ward. i won't risk that again. it's obv that somehow, she doesn't truly understand.

+ i agree w other commenters, parents will never stay objective abt it. it'll always be too emotional of a convo to really have clearheadedly.

I know they would probably act the same way plus everytime I've come close to sharing these thoughts I have always encountered the word crazy on their side or a vision of it like there's something wrong with me that needs to be treated.
I've followed their advice and found nothing but more despair and consciousness which is the opposite of what I need more of.
That's why I know we wouldn't reach an agreement too.

Thats a very relevant topic. Any parents would do anything to avoid their son/daughter to CTB so this ideal mature conversation is almost impossible to reach a resonable "agreement".

Nonetheless i plan to send my parents a very detailed video + writting letter making sure that they do not have any guilty about my death and expressing my love to them. Ill also send video to other close relative (sister, aunt and best friend) instructing them to help my parents cope with my CTB and reinforcing that my parents are not responsible for my act.

I feel like it's a good idea to send an audio or video also I hope it's not something they eternally keep re-visiting as it would just not help them heal.
Same with my sister….