Discussion I wonder what the average length of time people stay on here for is

[bluebus]

Poorly worded title. I'm just wondering how long most of us are on here before we either ctb or decide to stop using this site. I only decided to ctb in June. It wasn't until mid-July that I discovered this site. I only actually created an account and started interacting in the beginning of August. In this short time, I have seen a number of goodbye posts and accounts deactivated. I see some people who have been here only a few weeks (like myself) and others who have been here years. It just got me thinking how long must of us are here for.

 

[Zegers]

It's hard to say, from days to years.

 

[Touhou]

I've been here since I joined, with a few short hiatuses inbetween.

 

[HighFlight]

I have a theory, but it is just that - an educated guess...

@Zegers is right - it ranges greatly. I think many people find this site it times of stress and during a very low point of their life. Some will simply find the information they want and ctb. Others will read some of the posts, reply, and begin to feel like there are people like them here. They stick around longer, learn more, and help others. Finally, after a while, they put off their own ctb to help others in their journey - regardless of the path taken. And when they are ready, will end things under their own terms using a well thought out plan.

Everyone has their own reasons for being here and how long they stay. But this model works for my overly analytical mind.

 

[xBrialesana]

I've been here a while and just want to say that this website and community literally saved and prolonged and better improved my quality of life (ctb soon finally regardless, which is why I'm back) but I really owe years of life quality (it was shitty but I was trying) to the beautiful people here.

 

[Zegers]

Finally, after a while, they put off their own ctb

Maybe but i have to say, it's not my case, I'm still at the point of getting what i need to complete the method.

Anyway, you will find very understanding people here no matter what, this forum is rare and you will find few people like here out there.

 

[FuneralCry]

I think for most people this website is just an information resource, they only come on here in the first place to learn about suicide methods as after all this is the only place where they can find out information about that, it's censored everywhere else.

And I believe that once those people find what they need either to ctb as soon as possible or to just have the information to ctb with in the future they feel like they have no need to come on here anymore.

I personally believe most people come on here come only for method purposes, not anything else which can explain why lots of users don't stay here for long as they only made the account to ask a question about a method or use the search function to research methods and find information they couldn't find when lurking.

 

[bluebus]

I think for most people this website is just an information resource, they only come on here in the first place to learn about suicide methods as after all this is the only place where they can find out information about that, it's censored everywhere else.

And I believe that once those people find what they need either to ctb as soon as possible or to just have the information to ctb with in the future they feel like they have no need to come on here anymore.

I personally believe most people come on here come only for method purposes, not anything else which can explain why lots of users don't stay here for long as they only made the account to ask a question about a method or use the search function to research methods and find information they couldn't find when lurking.

I think you summed it up really well. I appreciate your feedback. You have been here for a few years right? Can I ask what brought you here? And what made you stick around all this time? I see your replies all over the place and I always admire your compassion and understanding of other people' situations. I may not know you in real life, but you seem like a really awesome person :)

I've been here a while and just want to say that this website and community literally saved and prolonged and better improved my quality of life (ctb soon finally regardless, which is why I'm back) but I really owe years of life quality (it was shitty but I was trying) to the beautiful people here.

That's really nice to hear. I'm glad you found comfort in this community. I have too for sure.
I also love your profile pic. It's so cool! I love Alice and Wonderland, it's always been one of my favorite stories. I had a number of different Alice in Wonderland books growing up and I must have seen the Disney animation movie like 50 times lol. It has also inspired a lot of my writing/ poerty/ art. Anyway thanks for your input! All the best,

 

[Nlis2244]

I found this a few day ago. Apparently most users are only active for about 2 weeks.

https://thesis.unipd.it/retrieve/3f2c4551-edf3-494f-9fc6-ff39821ac254/Sartori_Elisa.pdf

 

[FuneralCry]

I think you summed it up really well. I appreciate your feedback. You have been here for a few years right? Can I ask what brought you here? And what made you stick around all this time? I see your replies all over the place and I always admire your compassion and understanding of other people' situations. I may not know you in real life, but you seem like a really awesome person :)

Thank you, you sound really kind. A few years ago I discovered this site after trying to research suicide methods online because obviously I wanted to read about ways to die. I made the account so I could search for specific information, but sadly there was no straightforward way for me to leave, suicide just isn't straightforward in this anti suicide society after all.

I didn't post much until 2021 but then I started posting regularly as a way to pass the time and I'm still here unfortunately and what's kept me here as I already mentioned is the fact that suicide is purposely made so difficult and inaccessible with guaranteed, peaceful method options restricted and I would fear a suicide attempt going horribly wrong which is why I've never attempted.

Overall I wish to ctb as the only thing I truly desire is to sleep eternally, I despise existence and the harm it causes, I see no value in slowly decaying from age in an existence that was completely unappealing in the first place.

 

[bluebus]

Thank you for your reply. It really provides a lot of insight. I really appreciate you answering, and all the information and compassion you hav provided. I wish you all the best on your journey. I'm sure that you'll outlive me, as I'm ready to ctb soon. Thank you for everything and I hope you can find the peace that you deserve.