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rotten_hrtz

rotten_hrtz

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Nov 25, 2025
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Before I begin, I would like to say that he is the reason I have attempted suicide repeatedly

For as long as I can remember, my dad always expressed hatred towards me. I remember when I was 5 years old and he told me I was fat like a cow, and when he saw me crying he told me I was very sensitive and I didn't know how to "laugh at myself," so I learned to hide my feelings so I wouldn't look like a crybaby or something. As time went on, he started to become more violent with my mom, my mom works all day and he would take advantage of that to mistreat me and my sister as revenge for the arguments he had with my mom, but his mistreatment was always worse towards me.

Everyone thought we were a perfect family because my dad always seemed kind and good but when we were alone he was a monster. Ever since I was little, I just wanted my dad to die or simply stop humiliating me for everything, but he never stopped, and every year that passed, everything got worse.


My dad even tried to kill my mom and threatened to do it in front of my younger sister and me. He had us all terrified; my dad seemed like he was crazy and the police did nothing because supposedly there was no physical evidence that my dad was hurting us.


I was scared, so I never told my mom what my dad was doing to me because I was afraid he would hit me even harder. He became so cruel and neglectful that he wouldn't feed us for hours at a time as punishment, When I turned 11, my mom found out what he had done to us and left him. My dad tried to act like a good father and repeatedly tried to apologize to my mom, although she never forgave him.

And now, after discovering that he even abused me, he continues trying to pretend he's a good father. Today he called me to ask how I was and said he missed me, I don't understand how he keeps pretending nothing happened and that I'm just exaggerating. I don't think he'll ever regret it, but I hope he feels a lot of pain when I finally die.
 
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FreshCrabs

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Oct 28, 2025
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And now, after discovering that he even abused me, he continues trying to pretend he's a good father. Today he called me to ask how I was and said he missed me, I don't understand how he keeps pretending nothing happened and that I'm just exaggerating. I don't think he'll ever regret it, but I hope he feels a lot of pain when I finally die.
that's how abusers try to rope you back in. they will harm you one day and then the next day they go "it was all in the past!" or "but what about all the good i've done for you?" or just act like nothing ever happened like what happened here.

i'm sorry for what's happened to you op. no one, and i mean no one, deserves abusive parents.
 
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rotten_hrtz

rotten_hrtz

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Nov 25, 2025
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that's how abusers try to rope you back in. they will harm you one day and then the next day they go "it was all in the past!" or "but what about all the good i've done for you?" or just act like nothing ever happened like what happened here.

i'm sorry for what's happened to you op. no one, and i mean no one, deserves abusive parents.
Thank you. Right now I'm trying to heal, but I still feel like I'll never be able to forgive him. Maybe my death will make him feel bad.
 
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Forveleth

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Thank you. Right now I'm trying to heal, but I still feel like I'll never be able to forgive him. Maybe my death will make him feel bad.
If he did not feel bad, being doing horrible things to you repeatedly during your childhood, then he will not feel bad when you die. The fact that he is still trying to rope you in shows that he has not changed his mindset at all, unfortunately.
 
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gunmetalblue11

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Thank you. Right now I'm trying to heal, but I still feel like I'll never be able to forgive him.
You don't owe him forgiveness. You only owe that to yourself, and if for your own morals or whatever reasons forgiving him is something you truly wish for yourself, then do it. But to owe absolutely nothing to him, not forgiveness or the time of day frankly. Despite whatever he may say.

I'm sorry you went through this. And I wish you peace of mind.
 
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Firaga

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Nov 28, 2025
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We're hardwired to love our parents, even if we simultaneously hate them. It's not fair. I don't have a great relationship with my mother, and no relationship at all with my father. I have fantasies of killing my step-father for what he did to me.

I'm sorry that you felt like you had to pick up the phone. He didn't deserve a moment of your time for what he's done to you. I hope you're able to heal in the way that you need to.
 
rotten_hrtz

rotten_hrtz

(ó﹏ò。)
Nov 25, 2025
7
If he did not feel bad, being doing horrible things to you repeatedly during your childhood, then he will not feel bad when you die. The fact that he is still trying to rope you in shows that he has not changed his mindset at all, unfortunately.
You're right, sometimes I wish he would die so I wouldn't feel so bad
Estamos programados para amar a nuestros padres, incluso si al mismo tiempo los odiamos. No es justo. No tengo una buena relación con mi madre, y ninguna relación con mi padre. Fantaseo con matar a mi padrastro por lo que me hizo.

Lamento que hayas tenido que llamar. No merecía ni un segundo de tu tiempo por lo que te hizo. Espero que puedas sanar como necesitas.
Entiendo, yo también fantaseo con matar a mi papá, espero que sanes también <3
You don't owe him forgiveness. You only owe that to yourself, and if for your own morals or whatever reasons forgiving him is something you truly wish for yourself, then do it. But to owe absolutely nothing to him, not forgiveness or the time of day frankly. Despite whatever he may say.

I'm sorry you went through this. And I wish you peace of mind.
Thank you, I don't think I can ever forgive him. I also wish you peace of mind.
 
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