Venting I want her to get out my head

[TheShadowKing]

It's been a year now and I still think of her every day she occupies my mind all day I don't even love her anymore I don't understand why I can't stop thinking about her it drove me to hate her at a point but I couldn't bring myself to keep hating her I just want her out of my head now we've had our "closure" conversation a week ago I thought it would make stuff better but it just made me worse and she still doesn't respect I don't want contact with her and still calls and text me even though I've been ignoring her for months until our last conversation

 

[Adûnâi]

Find another maybe lol?

 

[TheShadowKing]

Find another maybe lol?

Oh shit you changed my life with this one why ain't I think of that

 

[Forever Sleep]

Have you ever heard the term limerence? Might be worth looking in to it... It's an obsessive crush on someone. I've had lots of them! I feel like it is limerence for me because my idea of them isn't really them. They could say something that made me think they were quite an arsehole actually but a few days later, I'd be back to fantasizing about them.

The cure I found was to force myself to stop fantasizing about them- especially sexually or romantially. It's obvious they didn't feel the same so- I'd have to keep reminding myself of that- even though it hurt and also- what a waste of my energy and emotions it was- be kinder to yourself and stop putting yourself through this- type of thing. I wasted 12 or 13 years to it but I'm wiser to it now- thankfully.

 

[TheShadowKing]

Have you ever heard the term limerence? Might be worth looking in to it... It's an obsessive crush on someone. I've had lots of them! I feel like it is limerence for me because my idea of them isn't really them. They could say something that made me think they were quite an arsehole actually but a few days later, I'd be back to fantasizing about them.

The cure I found was to force myself to stop fantasizing about them- especially sexually or romantially. It's obvious they didn't feel the same so- I'd have to keep reminding myself of that- even though it hurt and also- what a waste of ee energy and emotions it was- be kinder to yourself and stop putting yourself through this- type of thing. I wasted 12 or 13 years to it but I'm wiser to it now- thankfully.

Thank you I'm doing some research on limerence and it's seems like that might be the problem