Alec, I'm so curious about that one thing you want!
This is me, LMFAO FOCKERS. I'm sad to think you'd be bored by me. But, I am bored by myself, too, so I don't blame you. The limits of poverty are effing boring. :(
Kudos to you for having successfully moved up the social-economic ladder. Social mobility is on the decline. People's circumstances at birth—specifically, what their parents do for a living—are a huge factor in how far they get in life.
Totally agree. I like to be around people who're doing and achieving similar or more things because I want to be inspired. Some people do the opposite - hanging out with less successful people - so their inflated ego can be constantly stroked.
LOL. You'll find us boring then. When my husband and I go on vacations, we mostly stay at resorts, all we do is f*** and eat. Sightseeing is more like a side activity. When we f*** 5 times a day and being in a constant food coma really doesn't leave much extra energy to venture out. We don't travel around often. My husband flies around for business trips, so when he catches free time he just wants to relax at home. He also works from home whenever he can.
I drive a Honda. I don't even bother getting it washed. I wait until it rains, and then I drive the car out for a grocery shopping trip. The rain washes the car well enough. My husband hates driving in San Francisco, so he just Uber everywhere. I never buy luxury accessories. I only buy cheap clothes from Forever 21 and H&M. We also choose to spend on the things we enjoy - dining out.
LOL. What's so special about the moon? I think human society will eventually become like in the Hunger Games or the movie Idiocracy. PS, true socialism and true democracy have never existed, don't exist and will not exist. Slavery has always existed, still exists and will exist - just under different names and disguises in different societies at different times.
So true.
Its often hard for me to respond because it takes me a lot of time to organize my thoughts on a page such that one can read them fluidly. Thats part of the ADHD challenge too. I'm all over the place in my brain. Pretty disgusting for someone who used to take 2-3 showers a day (I've always been a bit of a germaphobe.)Camus said that, as life is absurd, the most important philosophical question is wheter commit suicide or not... So I definetely get what you mean.
I don't live the lap of luxury. I could if I wanted to, but I see it as unnecessary and burdensome. My dad had a mansion with a gym and a swimming pool. We used to spend 2 hrs per week on searching for the family cat. The cat is a jerk - when we called his name, sometimes he "meow" and showed up, other times he played hide-and-seek games. My parents would call me on my cell phone to tell me to eat lunch and dinner coz they didn't know which room I was in. Now my family of 3 just live in a 2 bedroom apt - nothing luxury about that. It doesn't even come with an air conditioner - AC is usually not needed in San Francisco climate.
I asked why my husband is attracted to me and loved me for all those years. He said, "Out of women as smart as you, few are as fuckable as you; out of women as fuckable as you, few are as smart as you; out of women as whimsically creepy as you, few are not serial killers; out of women as provocative as you, few are as creepy as you; out of women as fierce as you, few are as compassionate and philanthropic as you, etc, etc. He said like 20 things - you get the idea.
@nitrogen Thank you for writing to me. I admire your fierce loyalty to your family, and your efforts to protect your business; I think that requires a lot of talent, and I feel bad that your parents think you are "wasting" any by not working outside the home. I was interested to hear about your exploration into black magic. Very eclectic and cool. Please let me know if you come across any spells that allow for "Freaky Friday"-like body switches. :)
You're so sweet. I wasn't accusing you of being snobby or anything. My own poverty bores me so much. I don't know how someone (me) who loves money and material things so much could be so chronically poor. One would think that someone who loves money so much would find a way to get some, and then hold onto it, you know? I love money and the things it can buy.
Thank you for taking such an interest in me LMFAO FOCKERS. My avatar is a picture of the inimitable Chinese actress Gong Li. She is loaded, in her 50s, has no kids, and is hotter than she was at 20. She's kind of my hero. I think she's so cool.
I tend to intellectualize because, for one, I'm aware that intuition and common sense are often unreliable. For two, I try not to let emotions cloud my judgment. I rely on logical reasoning and empirical evidence - perhaps I'm a human/Vulcan hybrid like Spock, minus that silly haircut and eyebrows.
My hubby usually only spends time at work and at home, very rarely goes out with friends. He's competent in social situations, but he's not a social person if that makes sense. I'm not ok with lonely nights; luckily he's a family man.
What happened last year? What types of investments have you been doing if you don't mind me ask?
I don't have good girlfriends who can truly bond with me. Shallow and dumb people are more interesting dead than alive. The human body is always fascinating, but the human mind is often banal. I can't be completely open with my girlfriends; I usually just say what they want to hear.
Aww.I'm so burned out I cant remember the last time I washed and combed my hair. It stays in a braid for weeks at a time. I combed my hair this morning and it was clumped together with lots of lint.
I wish I can give you a hug (only after you shower, lol). I'm a germaphobe, too. It takes me 15 minutes to brush my teeth each time. PS, I always ask my hubby to take a shower and brush his teeth before we engage in anything intimate. He whines about no spontaneity and calls me a buzz killer - I won't budge. We hired a live-in nanny when our child was younger and was unable to sleep through the night. Our personal space was already invaded by the child, having another person live with us to further invade our personal space was unbearable. So as soon as I felt that I could handle our child alone, we let the nanny go. Daycare is a better solution in the way that not only do we get some personal space back, but also the child gets to play with kids of her age.
@LMFAO FOCKERS, thank you so much for being curious about my pathetic situation. I read your reply last night at my glamorous night-time hospital job, and I felt as if you had spirited me out of the rubble -- back into the world (e.g., college, high school) when career counselors and coaches and the odd professor was interested in my future and eager to bet on this horse (aka me).
The way you communicate is addictive: all the questions and the way you establish time/place/people so quickly and enticingly. I don't read anymore, and I have no vocabulary. , but your writing is really good at "bouncing back. " I don't even know how to say it. You stay on-topic, and ask questions that really advance the discussion. I don't know how to talk anymore. There are remote opportunities for financial writing. You could do that in a snap. Do you have a blog or something? You should be writing. What about you? What are some of the ideas you've batted about in your head for future work? Do you have a support network? My dad threw around furniture, too. I wish I had your C.V. to call my own, and feed into the meat grinder of these online Applicant Tracking Systems (ATSs). Yeah, she's amazing. I would love to be her. Actually, I erred. She does have one kid.
I just read some books on demonology, exorcism, step by step guide for how to safely summon the 72 demons of Goetia to make them do stuff, etc. Each of the demons is proficient in several areas and all of their powers can be used alone or in combination. I tried a few rituals, the results are too amazing to be attributed to coincidences: the gender of my child was revealed the day before her conception; I was told I was gonna get a parking ticket the next day, although the type of violation was off; a family member's end-stage acute myeloid leukemia was miraculously cured. These are what I can think at the top of my head at this moment. There are more.
My medical career never launched after medical school. The consulting, writing and pharmaceutical jobs require previous experience of working as a physician, which I don't have.
This analogy made me cackle, maybe because it's so fitting and I step on dog poop all the time.You're so sweet. Reading other people's sad stories don't make me feel good though. I wish the world is a better place for everyone.
I've been feeling like this for the past ten years.
The fact (based on scientific research) is, the joy from buying commercial goods almost fades instantly. It feels good when you first get it, but won't last long at all.
Why not go back to Asia and continue teaching? Even if you don't teach/do educational consulting, you can always teach English. Before I immigrated to the US, I was attending school in China obviously. Besides my Chinese English teacher, I also had two English teachers from Canada. They were an old couple in their 60s. My Chinese English teachers taught boring grammar, reading, writing, etc. My Canadian English teachers taught us lyrics in pop songs, trained us on English speaking & listening skills. They had a good time teaching us. Got taken out for dinner by the students' parents all the time.
That is so cool! I love reading stories about your famiily's wealth. II feel like I failed in China; t's just too humiliating to be a single, aging Laowai there who is not working for a good company. People think you are weird and wonder why you don't have kids and you're just all alone. That Canadian couple had each other. I'm amazed they were allowed to have remained in China for so long. I have played with the idea of going back to China, but I don't know. Without a GREAT job It'd just be too hard to re-brand myself, and face my former students and all the contacts I managed to make there. But, thank you for having confidence in me.I just read some books on demonology, exorcism, step by step guide for how to safely summon the 72 demons of Goetia to make them do stuff, etc. Each of the demons is proficient in several areas and all of their powers can be used alone or in combination. I tried a few rituals, the results are too amazing to be attributed to coincidences: the gender of my child was revealed the day before her conception; I was told I was gonna get a parking ticket the next day, although the type of violation was off; a family member's end-stage acute myeloid leukemia was miraculously cured. These are what I can think at the top of my head at this moment. There are more.
There are sexual demons, like Beleth and Sitri, that are said can cause, for instance, a named individual to be inflamed with passion for you, to encourage another to yield to the temptations of your seduction, to give you an aura of lustful power, to urge sexual attraction into a calmer and more genuine love, etc. Perhaps you can try to work with them for your man problems.
I'm totally sold. This is right p my alley. Hearing about your success with these spells gave me such comfort. Thank you for telling me.
I've also been looking into the research done by the University of Virginia School of Medicine Division of Perceptual Studies on reincarnation, near-death experiences, psychic abilities. It appears that reincarnation is real - bad news.
My medical career never launched after medical school. The consulting, writing and pharmaceutical jobs require previous experience of working as a physician, which I don't have.
Residency or no residency, if you have that piece of paper, you are a hot commodity. . I'd be thrilled to take a break from my own dismal job search to find you some opportunities to keep your spirits up., and remind you that if you could get through med school, you are not at a loss.
I almost got an internship opportunity at a mortuary earlier this year. I find embalming interesting - the embalmer gets to suck the cadaver's organs out with a big trocar; suture the cadaver's mouth shut, reconstruct a crushed skull, etc. That's the closest thing to what a trauma surgeon gets to do for someone no longer in a medical profession. FYI, I'm not a bat-shit crazy psycho.
Long story short, it's the largest family-owned mortuary in Northern California. The owner was very interested in me during the interview. He asked when I wanted to begin and what kind of work schedule I wanted. Then I mentioned I had to leave work before 4:30pm because I have to pick up my child from daycare. As soon as he heard this, I saw a flicker of disappointment and hesitation pass in his eyes. He said, "Ohh, so you're a mother." Then after a moment of awkward silence, he told me he needs to discuss it with the manager. A couple of days later, he rejected me with the excuse of me being over-qualified. That's just BS! It was totally because I'm the mother of a young child.
It's supposed to be good luck, right? This happens in Paris, too, apparently. Lot sof stepping in dog pop.
You're so sweet. Reading other people's sad stories don't make me feel good though. I wish the world is a better place for everyone.
I've been feeling like this for the past ten years.
The fact (based on scientific research) is, the joy from buying commercial goods almost fades instantly. It feels good when you first get it, but won't last long at all.
However, to not intellectualize too much, I'm gonna add a bit of my own intuition here - Having money doesn't necessarily make people happy, but not having money definitely makes people unhappy.
It also brings to mind the famous Maslow's hierarchy of needs as demonstrated below. Needs lower down in the hierarchy must be satisfied before individuals can attend to needs higher up. As you can see, money can't satisfy all the needs, especially the higher needs.
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Why not go back to Asia and continue teaching? Even if you don't teach/do educational consulting, you can always teach English. Before I immigrated to the US, I was attending school in China obviously. Besides my Chinese English teacher, I also had two English teachers from Canada. They were an old couple in their 60s. My Chinese English teachers taught boring grammar, reading, writing, etc. My Canadian English teachers taught us lyrics in pop songs, trained us on English speaking & listening skills. They had a good time teaching us. Got taken out for dinner by the students' parents all the time.
This is total discrimination, and it's illegal. I feel like you could bring him to court if you wanted. Shocking.
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Aww.
I don't mean to dispense unwanted investment advice to patronize you. It's just that based on what you wrote about your current financial situation, it seems that you can't afford to learn as you go while paying expensive tuition. I hope you can quickly work out a sustainable strategy that allows you to successfully work your way up to #3 (make $ from $).
Haha. I'm sure @azucaramargo will be better of with an Asian man. I don't think an American woman would feel comfortable with being treated like an object or personal belonging or share a husband with other women. I remember seeing a video made by a Saudi Arabian family therapist on how to beat a wife properly. I could be making a racially insensitive generalization. I have little interest in learning about other cultures that have nothing to do with me, especially those with uncivilized barbaric practices.
My father's legend ended with the 2008 financial crisis. His business took a huge hit. He lost the mansion. Faced death threats. His biggest clients filed bankruptcy and owed him millions. He'll never return to his previous glory - many opportunities only come once in a lifetime.
WTF???? Jeez! That makes me so mad! Talk about taking advantage of someone vulnerable! GOD! So inappropriate.My father's legend ended with the 2008 financial crisis. His business took a huge hit. He lost the mansion. Faced death threats. His biggest clients filed bankruptcy and owed him millions. He'll never return to his previous glory - many opportunities only come once in a lifetime.
Even before the financial crisis, I didn't really live a luxury life. I had been a student too busy with schoolwork. I had to wear a school uniform every day. My school prohibited us from wearing makeup, putting our hair down, dating, wearing nail polish, getting piercings, dying hair, etc. I ate school meals like everybody else. I guess the only times when I enjoyed my family wealth was when I saw a grand piano that cost 40K and really wanted it, my father bought it for me on the spot, but there weren't many examples like this.
My college career counselor, also a visiting professor, attempted to make me his sugar baby. He was married and had his wedding pic on his office desk. I went to seek advice on polishing my resume and picking a major. He basically re-wrote my entire resume for me and asked me to go to lunch with him. At first, I thought he was just being nice and lunch sounded casual. But midterm was coming up and I postponed making lunch plan with him. Then one day, I was walking in the street, with a box of Chik-fil-A chicken nuggets in my hand, didn't see him at all. He grabbed my wrist and dragged me to the side, pressed against me and asked when we're going to lunch. I freaked out, dropped the chicken nuggets on the ground, hightailed away, starved throughout my exams that afternoon.
@Secrets1 I was fascinated by biological entities, not just humans. How trillions of cells that derive and differentiate from a fertilized egg coordinate and form a sentient being capable of moving around and reacting to surrounding environmental stimuli. Also how that anything so remarkable as the state of consciousness comes about as the result of irritating nervous tissue.
What I mean by I don't judge people is that I don't put labels on or make assumptions about people based on limited info they reveal about themselves. Also, I'd rather believe the predicaments that people face are due to external uncontrollable factors (ie, childhood trauma, being unlucky) rather than their intrinsic traits (ie, being lazy and stupid) before I learn more about them personally. With that being said, me not judge people is far from me wanting to invite them to my house for dinner.
