Venting I got myself into two relationships at once

[struggles_inc]

I need to know someone else's thoughts because I am genuinely spiralling at this point.

My (ex?) boyfriend failed to move in with me. I have been waiting for him for almost 3 years and last month I just got done with his passivity and unwillingness to make decisions. I told him that our relationship would be just friendly from now on.

I met a girl after that. She's no saint, maybe I'll talk about it one day, but I care about her. She seems to care about me too. We got into a relationship. That's when my boyfriend came back with his resolution — he doesn't care who I'm dating and if I'm no longer interested. He said he will be persisting until I said yes. He said he wants a family with me, and that I don't control my feelings but he does.

What. The. Fuck.
I am very, very disturbed by this. It made me freeze. I feel unsafe.
He had a habit of dismissing my feelings in the past. But this is a new high, I guess. He now dismissed my decision to break up, huh?

On the other hand, what will he do? It took him 3 years to fail to move in with me — a decision my girlfriend made in a few days. I don't know if he'll be as decisive as he usually is.

Anyway, here's the end of the vent. It's the first time something like this happened to me.

 

[TearStainedSunsets]

personally i would block him on everything after taking screenshots of what evidence i had of these interactions. after that i would try to just get past it. if he came to my home, i would call the police and handle him myself while the police are on their way.

but ig just blocking would suffice.

try talking to your gf about how ur feeling and ask for some support. no one should be treating you that way, its just abuse.

I hope you and your gf are safe and I hope you have a desirable way to handle the situation or find one. I'm sorry youre going through this.

 

[Captive_Mind515]

You're not in two relationships. It sounds like you have a stalker.

Don't make the mistake of thinking someone is harmless just because you know them. Many women have made that mistake.