UnnervedCompany

UnnervedCompany

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Jun 21, 2024
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A guy I had feelings for and he had feelings for me stopped talking. He was living too far away and he just ended a breakup and told me he doesn't want to date me. I kept telling him I am willing to wait until he recovers but he didn't give me any intention of dating me in the future. And I had to unfortunately block him. LOL And I thought I was doing mentally well in Uni but I just had the worst panic attack also with the addition of finding out that all my friends are leaving me due to co-op and I realized I WILL BE ALONE AGAIN AGAIN AND AGAIN LIKE I AM ALWAYS AM ALONE FUCKING ALONE. I don't want to be alone I hate this I hate this feeling I JUST WANT TO NOT BE ALONE. THAT IS MY ONLY ASK. I was ALONE IN HIGH SCHOOL I WAS ALONE IN ELEMENTARY SCHOOL. I CAN"T CONNECT WITH MY FAMILY CAUSE I AM FUCKING GAY WITH DIFFERENT LIKES AND INTREST THAN ALL OF THewniomoep wfji . I just don't want to be alone that is the last thing I want. Online friends leave me, irl friends leave me, people I want to date leave me. It hurts so much I want this pain to end. PLEASE I don't want to be lonely I can't handle this. AND THE FUNNIEST PART> AFter this rant I have to go fucking study for my midterm because life wants to continue challenging me and hurting me. I JUST WANT A BREAK. PLEASE ANYTHING THAN BEING LONELy.





Sorry if I went a bit insane during this I wrote this right after I stopped crying but the feelings are still fresh to me.
 

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TheLastGreySky

TheLastGreySky

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Nov 24, 2023
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Everything is going to be fine even though it doesn't feel like it is right now.

I hate being lonely myself, so I sleep around.
As a straight guy I get a lot of shit for it.

Things will get better if you believe they will.
But faith is the hardest part because it takes time.
 
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NeverBegun

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Sep 20, 2024
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I can imagine how you feel; I've been there many times, even worse. If you want, we can talk. I see you like Genshin Impact; I didn't play it much, but I do have an account. I'm more into playing The Finals lol. Have you tried dating apps? I know many say they don't work for long-term relationships and all that, but personally, I don't think that's true. Just send everyone a message like, "Hi, do you know who Arthur Schopenhauer is?" and start talking to those who say yes, lol. I swear it works—if you want, I can explain why later. The only way dating apps don't work is if you're a straight guy; in that case, it's more like "it's over before it ever began" :(
Everything is going to be fine even though it doesn't feel like it is right now.

I hate being lonely myself, so I sleep around.
As a straight guy I get a lot of shit for it.

Things will get better if you believe they will.
But faith is the hardest part because it takes time.
Hi, can you send me a private message? I'd like to talk to you and ask you some questions, but I don't know how to send private messages.
 
UnnervedCompany

UnnervedCompany

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Jun 21, 2024
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I can imagine how you feel; I've been there many times, even worse. If you want, we can talk. I see you like Genshin Impact; I didn't play it much, but I do have an account. I'm more into playing The Finals lol. Have you tried dating apps? I know many say they don't work for long-term relationships and all that, but personally, I don't think that's true. Just send everyone a message like, "Hi, do you know who Arthur Schopenhauer is?" and start talking to those who say yes, lol. I swear it works—if you want, I can explain why later. The only way dating apps don't work is if you're a straight guy; in that case, it's more like "it's over before it ever began" :(

Hi, can you send me a private message? I'd like to talk to you and ask you some questions, but I don't know how to send private messages.
Lmao but rn I don't feel lonliness for his departure I feel more anger mostly cause of my latest post were he returned to my life only to berate me for how I felt. OH WELL idc ill get over it. I did have a long talk with an older individual and they gave me some advice regarding loneliness and being with someone so I will be fine hopefully just some garbage I'll have to go through.
 
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TheLastGreySky

TheLastGreySky

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Nov 24, 2023
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I can imagine how you feel; I've been there many times, even worse. If you want, we can talk. I see you like Genshin Impact; I didn't play it much, but I do have an account. I'm more into playing The Finals lol. Have you tried dating apps? I know many say they don't work for long-term relationships and all that, but personally, I don't think that's true. Just send everyone a message like, "Hi, do you know who Arthur Schopenhauer is?" and start talking to those who say yes, lol. I swear it works—if you want, I can explain why later. The only way dating apps don't work is if you're a straight guy; in that case, it's more like "it's over before it ever began" :(

Hi, can you send me a private message? I'd like to talk to you and ask you some questions, but I don't know how to send private messages.
You might not have had enough posts/comments to send private messages yet, but you'll get there quickly.

It says you limit who can see your profile so I can't send you a private message unless you change your settings.
 
Lookingtoflyfree

Lookingtoflyfree

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Jan 11, 2024
322
I feel this. Everyone seems content to just float in and out of each other's life and be a ghost. I feel like I'm born in the wrong era. Today I got together with one of the few people in my life and realized she's always going to be an acquaintance and being close to her is not going to happen. We were going to an event and asked her if she wanted to see my apartment, and she said 'no thanks'. Like...what?!? People are bizarre weird little unpredictable creatures. I will back away from her. I won't have anyone in my life. People are not to be trusted. I feel less interested in emotionally investing in other people and want to get my finances in order so that I move somewhere cheaper and have a dog. Dogs don't hurt people the way people do.
 
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Leiot

Leiot

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Oct 2, 2024
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Attraction isn't a choice. You can't decide to be attracted to someone. Neither can they. But that doesn't mean you can't have a good friend.
 
Alexei_Kirillov

Alexei_Kirillov

Missed my appointment with Death
Mar 9, 2024
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I feel this. Everyone seems content to just float in and out of each other's life and be a ghost. I feel like I'm born in the wrong era. Today I got together with one of the few people in my life and realized she's always going to be an acquaintance and being close to her is not going to happen. We were going to an event and asked her if she wanted to see my apartment, and she said 'no thanks'. Like...what?!? People are bizarre weird little unpredictable creatures. I will back away from her. I won't have anyone in my life. People are not to be trusted. I feel less interested in emotionally investing in other people and want to get my finances in order so that I move somewhere cheaper and have a dog. Dogs don't hurt people the way people do.
Man do I relate. How can you call it a friendship when you're only on the peripheries of eachother's lives? When you're not actually involved in the nitty gritty of their daily life? When they only want to hang out in person when it's convenient?
 
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Aloneandinpain

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Dec 25, 2023
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This year I hung out with one friend for 45 minutes, and then another for a few hours.

That's a relatively busy year for me, typically I visit one friend.
 
N7_Alliance_Marine

N7_Alliance_Marine

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Sep 29, 2024
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Women can't be alone. The obese granny pill exists for a reason. No matter how ugly, low iq, and unattractive your personality is, you'll always have guys lined up to be with you.

You just choose to be lonely because you can't get Chad.
 
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Aloneandinpain

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Dec 25, 2023
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Women can't be alone. The obese granny pill exists for a reason. No matter how ugly, low iq, and unattractive your personality is, you'll always have guys lined up to be with you.

You just choose to be lonely because you can't get Chad.
That's correct in most cases, although dating isn't completely easy for unattractive/obese women, especially when they start getting older.

Most of the likes I got in dating apps were 1 out of 10s or 2s at best, so I think a small number of women do genuinely struggle almost as much as the average man.
 
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That's correct in most cases, although dating isn't completely easy for unattractive/obese women, especially when they start getting older.

Most of the likes I got in dating apps were 1 out of 10s or 2s at best, so I think a small number of women do genuinely struggle almost as much as the average man.
Even the ugliest of women will still get matches, you don't realize how desperate most men are. I've seen obese fugly grandma's make over 100k a year on onlyfans. Women will always be desired no matter how fat, ugly, and retarded they are.

Meanwhile the average man will still have a harder time than the lowest of the lowest of women. You said you were getting 1/10's and 2/10's. Most women underrate men when it comes to their physical attractiveness, so it's likely they were probably 4/10's and 5/10's.
 
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Jan 18, 2020
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Thread's gone lol.
 
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UnnervedCompany

UnnervedCompany

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I didn't expect this thread to turn into this lol.
 
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JoysoftheEmptiness

JoysoftheEmptiness

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Sep 10, 2024
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I'm lonely as well, hate it, crying everyday for over a month, I miss Emma, I see her everywhere, but she's not there anymore ;-;
 
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-nobodyknows-

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Loneliness is the worst feeling. I think it will ultimately be what drives me to ctb.
 
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Dec 25, 2023
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Loneliness is the worst feeling. I think it will ultimately be what drives me to ctb.
I have a chronic illness, and the pain from that and the pain from loneliness are kind of similar sometimes. That means it kind of multiplies, I just hate it so much,

Obviously my illness isn't really going away but if I could be rid of the pain of loneliness it would help my physical health slightly too.
 
bitofftoomuch

bitofftoomuch

hold onto those who accept your messy self
Jul 1, 2024
148
> be lonely woman
> opens thread
> incel is ranting about how lonely women don't exist and it's just because we only want gigachads. proof of this is that they've found a few OF models of diverse body types (famously, old and fat men have never been in loving relationships /s)
> incel seems to think they're alone bc of looks and not because they talk like a 2007 locker room bully's sidekick

This both amused and angered me enough that I think I can actually face the day now, so thanks lol. I hate to break it to you but the world is not as simple as "all women and chad men get laid". It's not "conventional attractiveness + gender + pickyness = marital status" there's a zillion other factors at play.
 
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PI3.14

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Oct 4, 2024
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Tell me about it. It's loneliness that drives me the most towards CBT.
 
redkitsune98

redkitsune98

Broken beyond repair
Sep 2, 2024
181
A guy I had feelings for and he had feelings for me stopped talking. He was living too far away and he just ended a breakup and told me he doesn't want to date me. I kept telling him I am willing to wait until he recovers but he didn't give me any intention of dating me in the future. And I had to unfortunately block him. LOL And I thought I was doing mentally well in Uni but I just had the worst panic attack also with the addition of finding out that all my friends are leaving me due to co-op and I realized I WILL BE ALONE AGAIN AGAIN AND AGAIN LIKE I AM ALWAYS AM ALONE FUCKING ALONE. I don't want to be alone I hate this I hate this feeling I JUST WANT TO NOT BE ALONE. THAT IS MY ONLY ASK. I was ALONE IN HIGH SCHOOL I WAS ALONE IN ELEMENTARY SCHOOL. I CAN"T CONNECT WITH MY FAMILY CAUSE I AM FUCKING GAY WITH DIFFERENT LIKES AND INTREST THAN ALL OF THewniomoep wfji . I just don't want to be alone that is the last thing I want. Online friends leave me, irl friends leave me, people I want to date leave me. It hurts so much I want this pain to end. PLEASE I don't want to be lonely I can't handle this. AND THE FUNNIEST PART> AFter this rant I have to go fucking study for my midterm because life wants to continue challenging me and hurting me. I JUST WANT A BREAK. PLEASE ANYTHING THAN BEING LONELy.





Sorry if I went a bit insane during this I wrote this right after I stopped crying but the feelings are still fresh to me.
I lost the love of my life because the circumstances in his life made him afraid to date me. I have become distant from my friends and just don't know what expecta me in the future. I just wish a boy could live me for who i am and stay even when things get hard. I understand how you feel. Maybe i am not the kind of boy made for love
A guy I had feelings for and he had feelings for me stopped talking. He was living too far away and he just ended a breakup and told me he doesn't want to date me. I kept telling him I am willing to wait until he recovers but he didn't give me any intention of dating me in the future. And I had to unfortunately block him. LOL And I thought I was doing mentally well in Uni but I just had the worst panic attack also with the addition of finding out that all my friends are leaving me due to co-op and I realized I WILL BE ALONE AGAIN AGAIN AND AGAIN LIKE I AM ALWAYS AM ALONE FUCKING ALONE. I don't want to be alone I hate this I hate this feeling I JUST WANT TO NOT BE ALONE. THAT IS MY ONLY ASK. I was ALONE IN HIGH SCHOOL I WAS ALONE IN ELEMENTARY SCHOOL. I CAN"T CONNECT WITH MY FAMILY CAUSE I AM FUCKING GAY WITH DIFFERENT LIKES AND INTREST THAN ALL OF THewniomoep wfji . I just don't want to be alone that is the last thing I want. Online friends leave me, irl friends leave me, people I want to date leave me. It hurts so much I want this pain to end. PLEASE I don't want to be lonely I can't handle this. AND THE FUNNIEST PART> AFter this rant I have to go fucking study for my midterm because life wants to continue challenging me and hurting me. I JUST WANT A BREAK. PLEASE ANYTHING THAN BEING LONELy.





Sorry if I went a bit insane during this I wrote this right after I stopped crying but the feelings are still fresh to me.
I lost the love of my life because the circumstances in his life made him afraid to date me. I have become distant from my friends and just don't know what expecta me in the future. I just wish a boy could live me for who i am and stay even when things get hard. I understand how you feel. Maybe i am not the kind of boy made for love
A guy I had feelings for and he had feelings for me stopped talking. He was living too far away and he just ended a breakup and told me he doesn't want to date me. I kept telling him I am willing to wait until he recovers but he didn't give me any intention of dating me in the future. And I had to unfortunately block him. LOL And I thought I was doing mentally well in Uni but I just had the worst panic attack also with the addition of finding out that all my friends are leaving me due to co-op and I realized I WILL BE ALONE AGAIN AGAIN AND AGAIN LIKE I AM ALWAYS AM ALONE FUCKING ALONE. I don't want to be alone I hate this I hate this feeling I JUST WANT TO NOT BE ALONE. THAT IS MY ONLY ASK. I was ALONE IN HIGH SCHOOL I WAS ALONE IN ELEMENTARY SCHOOL. I CAN"T CONNECT WITH MY FAMILY CAUSE I AM FUCKING GAY WITH DIFFERENT LIKES AND INTREST THAN ALL OF THewniomoep wfji . I just don't want to be alone that is the last thing I want. Online friends leave me, irl friends leave me, people I want to date leave me. It hurts so much I want this pain to end. PLEASE I don't want to be lonely I can't handle this. AND THE FUNNIEST PART> AFter this rant I have to go fucking study for my midterm because life wants to continue challenging me and hurting me. I JUST WANT A BREAK. PLEASE ANYTHING THAN BEING LONELy.





Sorry if I went a bit insane during this I wrote this right after I stopped crying but the feelings are still fresh to me.
I lost the love of my life because the circumstances in his life made him afraid to date me. I have become distant from my friends and just don't know what expecta me in the future. I just wish a boy could live me for who i am and stay even when things get hard. I understand how you feel. Maybe i am not the kind of boy made for love
 
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ThatStateOfMind

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Nov 13, 2021
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> be lonely woman
> opens thread
> incel is ranting about how lonely women don't exist and it's just because we only want gigachads. proof of this is that they've found a few OF models of diverse body types (famously, old and fat men have never been in loving relationships /s)
> incel seems to think they're alone bc of looks and not because they talk like a 2007 locker room bully's sidekick

This both amused and angered me enough that I think I can actually face the day now, so thanks lol. I hate to break it to you but the world is not as simple as "all women and chad men get laid". It's not "conventional attractiveness + gender + pickyness = marital status" there's a zillion other factors at play.
Yeah the incel stuff really caught me off guard. I forget what the term for this stuff is, it's either blackpill or redpill. Anyways, yeah, I guess we're all going to ignore the existence of sugar daddies.

I would ignore this guy, he's a racist incel. EvisceratedJester posted something I saw where he said the n word, and was pro life. Honestly not sure why this guy isn't banned. It also appears this is maybe a different website? Anyways, the profile pic is the same


I don't know. Why bother commenting under a thread about university and loneliness if all you are going to do is rant about premarital sex and abortions?
 
bitofftoomuch

bitofftoomuch

hold onto those who accept your messy self
Jul 1, 2024
148
Yeah the incel stuff really caught me off guard. I forget what the term for this stuff is, it's either blackpill or redpill.

redpill. which is ironic because they took it from the Matrix, in which the red pill is a not-subtle allusion to taking estrogen. chuds are very into reclaiming the matrix movies, i think because their movement has for the past 8 years been about co-opting language of the oppressed and insisting they are the actual "anti-establishment" crowd.

Anyways, yeah, I guess we're all going to ignore the existence of sugar daddies.
it's just so funny to me because MFs like this guy cite the dominance of female sex work actresses and it's like... u do realize that is all built on decades of women being trafficked or at minimum exploited by male executives for male enjoyment? OF is just an attempt by women-led sex work to hijack that market, and it works because the consumer base was built so large by the aforementioned exploitation.

I do feel bad. As a trans woman I understand masculinity is something beaten into a person, and that there's a tendency for lonely men to feel like they have personally failed... it doesn't excuse making a boogeyman out of other groups but I really wish we did more to help men (and women who were wrongly told they were men) to heal from that shit.
 
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Yeah the incel stuff really caught me off guard. I forget what the term for this stuff is, it's either blackpill or redpill. Anyways, yeah, I guess we're all going to ignore the existence of sugar daddies.

I would ignore this guy, he's a racist incel. EvisceratedJester posted something I saw where he said the n word, and was pro life. Honestly not sure why this guy isn't banned. It also appears this is maybe a different website? Anyways, the profile pic is the same
Yeah, it was a different site. His post on that other thread weirded me out and reminded me of that other guy from this abortion thread who had Elliot Rodgers as his pfp, so I decided to do some digging. I was originally just planning to try and find out who the white chick was because I assumed that they must have been some sort of concerning far-right figure and I ended up finding out a lot more about this person than I expected.

At first, I wondered if maybe this was someone else (even though the same pfp and username were also being used on another forum) but then I saw this post
Screenshot 20241017 040308 Samsung Internet
Which was eerily reminiscent of this post they made under a different thread here
My parents were going to abort me but luckily didn't. If they did, I wouldn't be here right now. At least if you're not aborted you're given the choice if you want to live or die.
So this, along with the distinct pfp kind of makes it clear that this is probably the same person. To add onto this, his pfp also happens to include some random lady who seems to just be a hairdresser, which is really strange. They don't seem to have a prominent online presence and are just a normal person. They aren't even American (they're Canadian it seems) which makes their face being edited on top of the Betsy Ross Flag very strange. This same lady also appeared on what seems to be another pfp that is linked to some thread that the same user also appeared on (along with a cameo from Xinino, lol), so I suspect that's it their old pfp. It's a pretty concerning one too

I honestly just assumed that it was going to turn out to be another typical case of someone whose pfp is of some awful person, not some poor woman who doesn't seem to even discuss politics online (though maybe I'm wrong here). I also didn't expect to find out that they weren't just misogynistic but also incredibly racist and potentially a neo-nazi.

Also, I'm sorry for kind of derailing your thread OP.

I'm not saying this to start any drama or something either. If you are a woman and/or are a POC, then I'd recommend just putting the user on ignore. I understand that others on here have trauma relating to sexism and racism, so it's best to limit your interactions with them.
 
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Lookingtoflyfree

Lookingtoflyfree

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Man do I relate. How can you call it a friendship when you're only on the peripheries of eachother's lives? When you're not actually involved in the nitty gritty of their daily life? When they only want to hang out in person when it's convenient?
I realized all this time i thought i had friends but they're acquaintances and I mean nothing to them. I've had health problems I've been open about and while they've lessoned, none of them called. I see them as users who were happy when i validated them but I won't make that mistake again.

I have hobbies to work on and focus on that, and maybe find friends through those hobbies. But people - I prefer paints, pets, and walks. People just hurt you
 
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tss fss

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May 19, 2024
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Well nobody wants to be alone , I don't think anybody would willfully choose to be chronically lonely and enjoy it unless they have a mental illness.The issue is are you capable of socializing or are at leat communicating with people. Unlike what most people think, the ability to socialize is an acquired ability and it does not come on its own , and worse this ability is learned and integrated during the early years of our childhood up until adolescence , if you haven't had this ability integrated into you by that age then it's too late. So socializing or having social relationships is not a question of choice but a question of ability , and some people seem to be socially impared and they will remain so for the rest of their lives.
 
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forgottenfantasywrt

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Oct 3, 2024
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i relate to that panic intimately well /: . I didn't even know i could feel like that until i thought i was finally going to get my chance to be in a relationship and then DIDN'T. I don't think anything that horrible/cruel can ever happen to me again in my life, which is saying something lmfao.

I'm not sure if the loneliness will ever end. I think i want to stay just so that i know for certain whether or not it ever does. But every day I'm falling a little bit deeper into despair. Not sure how much more pain I'm expected to take or for what reason
 

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