Discussion I am gonna be CTB tom. Should I inform or leave a message to my friends?

[lilacsan]

Hey folks,


I have my SN ready and I am planning on CTB tomorrow. I will be writing a letter to address my parents. But I am not sure if I should tell my friends and text them?

I am afraid that they will try to stop me or call the emergency line out of concern and try to prevent me from CTB. But i also kinda don't wanna leave without saying goodbye(?)

Idk I am kinda conflicted. Maybe it is better if I leave without saying goodbye because that way they'll be less traumatised. And also some of them I have had a falling out with, some I don't talk to as often etc., why remind them of me?
?
Thoughts

 

[Strangerdanger7]

Unfortunately, we do not live in the Netherlands or Switzerland, where this is legal, and you can do it surrounded by your friends, with no stigma or judgment.
They say we're free, but we're really not.
The movement exists in the underground for a reason; they've driven it there. We live in a society that is terrified of the concept that people die.
They won't openly discuss it or embrace it as a part of life. That's why I appreciate this group so much.
We bring the issue too light
dying is not that big of a deal or the worst thing that could possibly happen to someone.
We're not the ones afraid to explore the topic.
We're the ones speaking out for change
and basic human rights here.

 

[sadbh]

You could try a scheduled message via text or email?

 

[unluckysadness]

I'll leave without saying goodbye (just one letter for my family). I think it's risky to say goodbye in front of them because your emotions may uncover you. They will probably see that something is wrong. But it's just my opinion. Of course, if you tell them "Hello, I just wanted to say that I'll kill myself", you'll end in psych ward for sure. It's a personal decision. I hope you'll find the best thing to do.
May you find peace, and if you change your mind, we're here for you
Take care

 

[lilacsan]

I'll leave without saying goodbye (just one letter for my family). I think it's risky to say goodbye in front of them because your emotions may uncover you. They will probably see that something is wrong. But it's just my opinion. Of course, if you tell them "Hello, I just wanted to say that I'll kill myself", you'll end in psych ward for sure. It's a personal decision. I hope you'll find the best thing to do.
May you find peace, and if you change your mind, we're here for you
Take care

Yeah. This makes a lot of sense. Thank you for your response. Take care!

 

[wishmaster9]

After already having written a couple of notes and testing scheduled message, I think it would probably be easier to make a list of those I want my loved ones to contact after I'm gone, instead of writing to them individually. Just stating their names and the platforms we kept contact on so they'll be easy to find, like "Jane D - FB" or "John E - Telegram".
Maybe you could do that? Then in addition to that list you could address some of them personally if you want.
In my case, unless they'll get notified otherwise all of my "friends" will assume I'm still alive, but they'll want to know if I'm "suddenly" not.
Idk if that's the case for you too, but I assume most people want to know if someone they knew died, even if they don't do or say much before anything happens.