how do you deal with the fact that no one truly knows you?

[5_5]

just you. alone in life. forever. you might even have friends or parents who love you and make you feel appreciated, but you can appreciate anyone. making someone feel seen takes truly knowing them, and no one sees you…

 

[LastNite]

You learn to accept it.

 

[Hollowman]

I dissociate constantly so I can't even really care about it anymore.

 

[vitbar]

Do we even truly know ourselves? Sometimes I feel too close to get the full picture.

 

[Soumatou]

If someone really did know me, I would be terrified.

 

[Forever Sleep]

Because I suppose it works in reverse also- do we truly know them? Of course, it's sad if we've made much more effort than them but then ultimately- we all have our own lives to contend with.

How reasonable even is it to hope someone would know us as well as we know ourselves? How much of their time would they have to spend thinking about us to truly know how we feel? Wouldn't that have a detrimental effect on their lives? Do we want that for them?

Do you even want all of your secrets revealed? Are there any things you would prefer people didn't know about you? Things you feel ashamed of? Things you would rather forget?

What if it doesn't work in our favour? What if someone who actually has a worse life than us knows everything there is to know about us and our lives and berates us for not trying harder to make things work?

I've only seen the trailer for it but, it makes me think about the film: 'Obsession' (2026.) A guy is desperate for this girl to love him more than anyone else. So- he makes a wish on a novelty item, it works and the reality is hugely creepy. I imagine it could be the same here.

Plus, part of building a friendship is getting to know someone. Learning about their life. Finding out their opinions over things. What would there be to talk about if you knew everything? Wouldn't it just come down to receiving advice then? What if you don't like the advice?

Plus, in my experience- it's unwise to become so dependent on a person. Your lives may change. You may end up drifting away from each other if they get a partner. They could even die some day. If you feel like you can't cope without this other person, it can feel terrible. I've personally found- it's safer to try to be self sufficient. Still appreciate people but accept that they come and go. Plus, don't be surprised if they let you down.

 

[delinquentsandwich]

it feels deeply lonely

I have tried to fully show myself to my past best friend before
but the truth is that I am too much for anyone

it's very isolating and the answer is, I don't know how to deal with it
I can temporarily distract myself but I cannot face it directly

 

[Pluto]

 

[foreverfalling]

I've come to accept that it is just a fantasy that can't possibly exist, like love or being able to fly. It is liberating in that I do not have to search for it anymore.

 

[majmun32]

just you. alone in life. forever. you might even have friends or parents who love you and make you feel appreciated, but you can appreciate anyone. making someone feel seen takes truly knowing them, and no one sees you…

Other people know who you are, but only you know who you want to be percived as by other people. Your deeds make you, not the toughts that exist only in your head about who you should be.

 

[need2beskinny_]

Cry at night (on sum nonchalat shit)