Perhaps art can be a good thing to ease loneliness for some people.
"Art makes us feel less alone. It makes us think: somebody else has thought this, somebody else has had these feelings." (Alan Moore)
I think engaging in your own art, can help you to remember that your own feelings, are indeed actually real and possibly even validate them, and in some cases—help to rehumanize yourself in your own eyes, which I think, can be a valuable thing
Loneliness is a desire to connect with something human. Art often has raw humanity imbued into it. So, to a degree, art can help people feel less lonely, by virtue of allowing them to connect with the artist's sense of humanity.
And I imagine online socialization too would help to ease loneliness.
I should like to let people know, that loneliness is oftentimes, not your fault. Maybe it's just a skill you haven't practiced much, and maybe that's why people struggle with it sometimes.
I suspect that most people who regard themselves as "terrible at making friends", may potentially be suffering from a specific issue that hampers their ability to feel right and function, which can snowball into people having worse views of them, snowballing into a loop of worsening social reputation and self-confidence—at worst, resulting in
learned helplessness; essentially just giving up. But I also wager that if those people were somewhere relieved of such issues, by mitigating or healing from them in some way (and maybe even entered a new social situation; ie new workplace/school, if previous experiences were an issue); then they would experience a meaningfully improved level of social interaction.
I think social interaction is a skill comparable to others; but a skill that depends on your well-being, health, and ability to function alright.
I feel a good solution to loneliness is, potentially, to refine yourself and remember what your favorite hobbies are, then to work on those interests, then try to talk about those interests to other people (public or private), hopefully either finding someone who likes hearing about what you like, or being able to connect your own knowledge to what someone else is talking about. That seems like a great way to start a friendship. Through shared knowledge.
This seems like a pretty neat theory of mine, and I
think it might have worked for me many times in the past? I'm not sure, this is a pretty roughy wording of this idea anyhow. But I think it's a sound idea and a fair shot at practicing social improvement regardless, personally! But one should judge with their own mind in mind, and by remembering their context and circumstance to best fit their approaches for optimal effect.
I wish everyone who pursues down the road of mitigating loneliness the sincerest of luck. Please take care of yourself on such a journey. Loneliness really eats at you; maybe people aren't the only thing to keep it at bay. Maybe art and poetry and whatever interesting hobbies you love can help move your mind away from socializing and onto other aspects of life too.
I also want to note that loneliness itself, is a kind of pain that might result from lack of connection to something from our nature of tendencies. As in, a person by themselves, engrossed in some fascinating activity that they
love, maybe something as simple as a puzzle, to something as sophisticated as poetry or film—this person, is one who's technically alone, but doesn't
feel lonely. That is because loneliness is not a mechanical state of being; but a feeling—a very real one, that affects our lives profoundly. Just as love does. Not just love of other people, I mean—I mean love of anything, love of hobbies, love of pretty scenes in nature, love of ideas, love of science, love of words, love of music, love of art; and any thing interesting, to catch your eye..
But a person may—easily—feel brutally lonely in a room full of people. They are mechanically in company; but connection-wise? They feel deprived. If anything, it's made worse by seeing all the other be able to laugh and chat without fear for secure connection, all the people passing by that just take up a tally of chances gone past. In cases like that, where we feel paralyzed and can't make use of any chances that day, maybe it's better to keep to ourselves, to preserve our sanity and try to regain hope for whatever we like to occupy ourselves with. Maybe if we can't always to connect to other living beings face-to-face in front of us, then maybe—just maybe—at least we can connect with what really engages us, and makes wonders out of our attention, and some solace of our time.
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I think humans are not the only human-like things that exist in our world; art is human, words are human, heck, one might even say
nature gives off human vibes, too. I feel there are many, many things in life that can ease loneliness. I've just listed a mere few of them here. This is one of the core woes of humanity that countless people have tried to ease all throughout history. Know that (ironically), you are not alone, in being alone. And maybe... that can provide some solace, and comfort, and maybe even... company, as well.
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We're existentially alone on the planet. I can't know what you're thinking and feeling and you can't know what I'm thinking and feeling.
And the very best works construct a bridge across that abyss of human loneliness.
—David Foster Wallace
They're sharing a drink they call loneliness
But it's better than drinking alone
—Billy Joel
) mostly basically trying to distract myself from my head as much as I can. Although yeah to cure loneliness is talk ig but sometimes easier said than done.
