trying ungracefully
Experienced
- Jun 11, 2025
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My older brother moved out a while ago but me and my younger brother still live at home.
My older brother and I fought when we were kids (still loved each other and played), became close as teens, and then grew apart as adults. We aren't even that old yet either, I'm 22 he's 24. He moved out when he was 18 and since then the communication has just lessened. I asked him when he can come over because I crocheted him a pair of pants he wanted and he said he'd check when he is free since he works a lot. He never got back to me. He still texted me about something happening at his apartment which was nice but not with seeing him.
My younger brother and I weren't close at all growing up. It was only when I was 17 and him 14 that we started bonding. Now that we are older we are just doing our own things. He leaves to hang out with his friends all the time and I am going to my boyfriend's house. We talk a lot less and it seems like when I talk to him he doesn't care to listen and is only acknowledging. He did come into my room yesterday to tell me about his friend that got his fingertips blown off by a firework but that is the first time in a while we had a conversation that lasted more than a minute.
How do you deal with growing apart from your siblings when nothing even happened? I don't have friends so it makes it hard for me because I don't have the socialization I was getting before. I have people to still talk to like my parents, boyfriend, grandma, and great aunt but I am also just missing my brothers. I want to talk to them about stuff that is going on in my life but it doesn't seem like they care to listen (I mean it's small stuff) and like I am just annoying them by trying to communicate.
It's hard seeing them move on with their lives in a different way than I am and that's why the communication is lacking. I don't know how to deal with that either, it makes me so suicidal sometimes even moreso because my younger brother is already getting ahead of me and I'm 22 and he's turning 19.
My older brother and I fought when we were kids (still loved each other and played), became close as teens, and then grew apart as adults. We aren't even that old yet either, I'm 22 he's 24. He moved out when he was 18 and since then the communication has just lessened. I asked him when he can come over because I crocheted him a pair of pants he wanted and he said he'd check when he is free since he works a lot. He never got back to me. He still texted me about something happening at his apartment which was nice but not with seeing him.
My younger brother and I weren't close at all growing up. It was only when I was 17 and him 14 that we started bonding. Now that we are older we are just doing our own things. He leaves to hang out with his friends all the time and I am going to my boyfriend's house. We talk a lot less and it seems like when I talk to him he doesn't care to listen and is only acknowledging. He did come into my room yesterday to tell me about his friend that got his fingertips blown off by a firework but that is the first time in a while we had a conversation that lasted more than a minute.
How do you deal with growing apart from your siblings when nothing even happened? I don't have friends so it makes it hard for me because I don't have the socialization I was getting before. I have people to still talk to like my parents, boyfriend, grandma, and great aunt but I am also just missing my brothers. I want to talk to them about stuff that is going on in my life but it doesn't seem like they care to listen (I mean it's small stuff) and like I am just annoying them by trying to communicate.
It's hard seeing them move on with their lives in a different way than I am and that's why the communication is lacking. I don't know how to deal with that either, it makes me so suicidal sometimes even moreso because my younger brother is already getting ahead of me and I'm 22 and he's turning 19.