how do you cope with loneliness?

[MrFreshTheCat]

I just started studying again since i dropped out of college a couple of years ago because of my mental health, since then i started going to a psychologist and got diagnosed with autism, i always struggled A LOT with socializing and never had friends, that always made me feel kinda sad but this time when EVERYONE else went from strangers to sitting together and making friend groups in just like 2 days and i already became literally the only person alone in the entire class, Im so tired of always being the only person like this honestly i dont understand if it is my aspect or what, i know im shy but even other shy people on the class get people that randomly talk to them, again this has been like this practically my entire life but this time i think i reached a point where it made me so sad and felt so lonely i cried on the way home, i never felt this sad and lonely before in my entire life i stopped eating almost completely i dont even know what am i suppossed to do at this point i just feel like crying all day, anyway i guess i just wanted to vent to someone and somehow feel seen, thanks to whoever readed it :)

 

[.idiot]

i already became literally the only person alone in the entire class, Im so tired of always being the only person like this honestly i dont understand if it is my aspect or what, i know im shy but even other shy people on the class get people that randomly talk to them,

What is your posture like? Resting expression? Do you make sure that you smell good? What kind of clothes do you wear? These factors are all things that determine the "vibes" someone gives off, and you could be giving the others "bad vibes" or some shit from a combination of these aspects unknowingly. That or it is the classical NormieSense™ where they are able to just immediately sense, on either a subconscious or conscious level, that you are an autist and thus avoid you- if the NormieSense™ is the reason, you're fucked.

i think i reached a point where it made me so sad and felt so lonely i cried on the way home, i never felt this sad and lonely before in my entire life i stopped eating almost completely i dont even know what am i suppossed to do at this point i just feel like crying all day

The generic answer to this is to "get a pet!" Given the current global economy, I will be assuming you are living with your parents. If your parents are pet-avoidant people, do your best convincing them to get something like a cat. Once again this is a generic answer and you could have a pet already, and besides- connection with other people and connection with a pet are different things.



Do you have online friends? If not, are you a part of any communities online where you could make friends? If yes, you could try making friends over the shared common trait with people in those communities. Online friends could lessen the sting a bit, although you wouldn't be seeing them face-to-face so it would not completely alleviate the feelings of loneliness.




To answer the thread title, I cope with loneliness similar to the way I cope with being a permavirgin: reminding myself that the average person my age nowadays is extremely boring and just does vain shit like browsing TikTok all day. They would have little in common with my interests and thus we would have nothing to talk about, and they would be unlikely to listen to my own issues.

 

[tonicer]

I cope with a mixture of computergames, anime, youtube, working out, gardening and the occasional photo safari.

It works pretty well but i wish i had someone to go places with and do stuff with.

 

[Forveleth]

I genuinely learned to enjoy doing things by myself. I have several Hobbes that I can do solo. I also learned to enjoy usually social activities (movies, dining out, traveling) on my own.