Discussion How do you cope with feeling abandoned?

[Require_love]

I sincerely have no clue. Gosh it hurts like hell. Stupid human reactions, I wish I were robotic. Goal driven and without fucking emotions. I wish I could open my skull and dump some happy hormones.

 

[agarthacel]

I sincerely have no clue. Gosh it hurts like hell. Stupid human reactions, I wish I were robotic. Goal driven and without fucking emotions. I wish I could open my skull and dump some happy hormones.

i think about it all the time

 

[Michi_Violeta]

Hate used to work for me. It's not the most healthy way of coping, but it can be effective and jumpstart a better healing process based on something else than hatred. Happened with my first ex, I got so full of hate I burned every bridge and lived the rest of my life thinking I was better than her and would find someone better than her. It helped back then, moved on, didn't beg once, tried meeting new people relatively quick.

 

[Require_love]

Hate used to work for me. It's not the most healthy way of coping, but it can be effective and jumpstart a better healing process based on something else than hatred. Happened with my first ex, I got so full of hate I burned every bridge and lived the rest of my life thinking I was better than her and would find someone better than her. It helped back then, moved on, didn't beg once, tried meeting new people relatively quick.

And did it work out finally? (no offence intended)

And did it work out finally? (no offence intended)

I'm not sure if I can hate that long. I'd suck up to the tiniest bit of validation lol

 

[Michi_Violeta]

And did it work out finally? (no offence intended)

Back then it did, but I don't think it's healthy overall in the sense that it involved acting in a way different to who I am and involved forgetting some beautiful years in my life. Again, it was effective for what I needed to when I needed to. In the long run it didn't work out because I swore to myself I'd never hate someone I loved again and put a lot of hope in meeting someone better only to be hurt AGAIN in the same way when I finally met someone after years of waiting. It's a risk, but maybe it'd work for you if you're lucky and don't make my same mistakes.

 

[Griever]

I can't cope

 

[FoxSauce]

Sh moslty or just keep it with anger with myself moslty

 

[Forever Sleep]

I try really hard not to rely on people to begin with now. Go in expecting them to be fickle and unreliable and, you don't get so disappointed.

As for previous relationships, I realise how foolish and probably unreasonable it was to expect things of them in the first place.

It's not a warm and cuddly way to live but, it's a lot less hurtful.