how do I find a girlfriend?

[dune7263]

I used to speak with this girl but I forgot her instagram

 

[Forveleth]

Find people that have similar interests as you. Spend time with them. Make friends. The best partners come from friends you can share something with. Do not force it.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

Find a dimensional portal to the Harry Potter world and acquire a Felix Felicis potion then drink it until it eventually works in getting you a girlfriend. Either that or smoke a ton of four-leaf clovers to further enhance your luck because that's literally all it takes.

 

[KillingPain267]

The later inevitable breakup is not worth it

 

[Haematemesis]

find people with common interests
find places to meet those people with commin interests
befriend some
flirt subtlely
if she flirts back go on
if she backs off back off
best case scenario you get a gf
worst case scenario you get a friend

honestly talking to someone with the first intention of dating seems weird to me

 

[EvisceratedJester]

Be tall and have a mogger face

^ Don't have this guy's attitude. Most women find this kind of shit unappealing

 

[menheraboy]

i started off with my girlfriend by being her best friend, we grew closer and closer. basiccally i waited for the first time she flirted and i did it back, until i finally confessed

 

[ramon]

Look, @dune7263 , I might sound painfully cliché, but here goes: You don't need to find a girlfriend. You just need to become the best version of yourself.

I've read from a fair amount of guys who are in a situation similar to yours, so I'll include the answer I would give to most these guys (including myself when I was young):

For appearances, assuming that you're broke, go to online communities (specially YouTube) related to seduction and hand pick everything you need to LOOK your best (hygiene, exercising, grooming, and fashion). You don't need to become an underwear model overnight! You just need to pick up the attitude of a man who LEGITIMATELY wants to become better by the day. Girls can detect that attitude and that makes them interested in you (Not attracted to you, but it's a good start).

For confidence, read Rollo Tomassi's "The Rational Male". This book will teach you not to chase women, but to chase that self love we all must have before being loved by others.

For relationship skills, I don't recommend most of the ideas provided by the online seduction community. Instead, get the following type of books or videos and figure out a way to ingrain part of these materials into you modus operandi:

*. One book on negotiation (Similar to Chriss Voss's "Never Split The Difference").
*. One book on persuasion (Similar to Patrick King's "Persuasion Tactics" or R.B. Sparkman's "The Art Of Manipulation").
*. A short video or two on JUST approaching women in public without being creepy (This is the exception to my prevention towards online seduction advice).
*. One book on intention detection (Similar to David J. Lieberman's "Never Be Lied To Again").

Q: ¡¡¿¿TOO MUCH HARD WORK??!!
A: Please let me know about anybody who became good at relationships in a year or two. Even the legitimate lady's man learnt what he knows in a decade or two by improving his game via trial and error, and by stop giving a monkey's butt about getting rejected by a thousand women.

Q: ¡¡¿¿WILL I TURN 99 BY THE TIME I MASTER ALL THIS CRAP??!!
A: You can spend your whole life trying to get women, get zero results, and still tell yourself "I tried the HARDEST and that's why I'm proud of myself"; or you can spend decades blaming others (in this case, women) for your failures... like I did in the past... DON'T REPEAT MY MISTAKE!!!

Q: ¡¡¿¿WHAT GUARANTEES I HAVE THAT THIS CRAP WILL EVER WORK??!!
A: Chances are you'll never get the girl of your dreams; but, in the process, you became the man you always wanted to be. The kind of man who needs nobody (even girls) to enjoy every new day. The kind of man who can choose to be happy around women or to be happy all by himself. Again, women can detect that and can't help feel attracted to that.

Q: ¡¡¡BUT I FEEL LONELY!!! ¡¡¡ I NEED TO HAVE SOMEONE NEXT TO ME, RIGHT NOW!!! ¡¡¡I FEEL LIKE I'M WASTING MY YOUTH!!!
A: I say it's a good deal to forfeit company in your 20s in favor of becoming that someone you admire and would like to become, so that your 30s and 40s will become the most memorable decades of your life. Besides, as you age, your testosterone levels decrease to a point in which your emotions will no longer take control over you as they usually do in your 20s, therefore making your perception of life more enjoyable.

Look at all this process as a video-game: You'll lose a million times, and as you get defeated one try after another, you'll figure out what works in order to finish this challenge. Persistance is key.

Another useful cliché here: What makes this fun is not undressing her body. What really makes this fun is undressing her mind... and you didn't even had to touch her.

At least let me know if what I've told is just a bunch of rubbish.

Take care.

 

[Subhumano]

Thats the question Ive been asking myself for a very long time