Help how do i actually reach out for help?

[iknowwhatyouredoing]

there are people in my life, who i can easily reach out to, who care, but i can never find the words. how can i explain what im going through? what can anyone do to even help?

ive called a few hotlines before and they can kinda help me in the moment but i usually end up in the same place a few weeks later. there was one time i told my friend, i was on a bender and we were sitting outside, i turned to him and told him i think im going to die. he proceeded to cry and i ended up comforting him instead (lol), but afterwards i feel like he coddled me and i hate that. it just felt like lip service because he now feels responsible for my life because he was the person i decided to tell. and i know he was trying to do the right thing, and he was only doing it because he cared about me, but it made no change in my state. right now i want to talk to someone, and talk about how i tried to hang myself with my belt today or when i choked myself out yesterday, but it also seems pointless. i guess this post is becoming more of a rant so i wont go on for much longer.

anyway how do yall approach talking to people in your life about suicide? who do you trust enough to tell?

 

[Ch4in3dcr0w]

As much as i wish i had a good advice from experience but i was always hiding my feelings and what i was going through. Dont overthink too much on what to say or how to say it just chose the person u feel like going to for venting and vent your hearth out to them. I dont know what u are looking for while talking to them but generally no one can give a good advice and the only one that can help you is yourself, others can only support you on your own journey towards recovery. Its not pointless to look for people who u can pour your heart out venting is important whatever it might be small things like something upsetting you at school/work or more complex things like u are going through. Just chose the person who u feel most comfortable to talking and explain what u are going through in your words and what u yourself understand u are going through there is no need to sugarcoat anything. Dont overthink it too much. Much love and good luck

 

[Isolated Parasite]

The "criteria" people need to meet before I talk to them about suicide is that they won't freak out and call a hospital or the police or something, and that they don't get overwhelmed I guess. Similar to what you said, about the friend turning it into something about them in a way even if they didn't mean to, I need the person I'm talking to also not do that IMMEDIATELY in the sense of "think of how it would effect me!" But if the person talks about how they also battle with suicidal thoughts or whatever, I'm more than open to talk about how I feel and how they feel, it's extremely hard for me to find that level of understanding usually and it's a godsend when it does happen.

BASICALLY, what I'm trying to say is the person has to be understanding or at least non-judgemental and trusting to a degree in order for me to want or be able to talk about suicidal stuff. In my own day to day, I only talk to my therapist and people online about this stuff because everyone else in my life either doesn't understand or judges and doesn't trust, typically all 3.

But that is just me, if you need or want to reach out when things get rough, reach out to someone.

EDIT: I know that talking about this stuff effects the people you talk to, I only don't talk to those people about it because it makes them and me feel worse, not in an ENTIRELY selfish way, I kinda painted my message that way.

 

[5_5]

i'd talk to someone i'm really close to. if not it'd just be really awkward
it has to be someone you know can actually distract you from your thoughts, give you advice, maybe even lead you if you're feeling lost, someone that can actually help. i haven't spoken about it to anyone, but if i did it would probably be one of my closest friends

good luck with that