Discussion How Being A POC Has Brought You To SS

[RazzleDazzle]

I recall reading about a study in which it was concluded that African Americans of low socioeconomic status are capable of overcoming the lack of quality tuition and education and achieving success in the workplace, but then they tend to experience so much burnout that they often have major health problems in their 30s and 40s. The conclusion was that they seem to be better off accepting that they are set up to fail.

There's a huge study on Adverse Childhood Experiences which has tracked people who experienced specific ACEs into adulthood, and then also tracked their health. The study doesn't specifically track the effects of racial discrimination or socioeconomic status, but it does show really clearly that people who experience high levels of stress and trauma in childhood are more likely to have autoimmune diseases, heart problems, addiction issues, etc. in adulthood.

There's a very clear link between high levels of stress over time and negative health consequences, and childhood stress levels affect adult health.

 

[Bullit]

You guys just love to preen!

Re Kamala,she is regarded as dumb by just about everybody. Are you American?
She started in politics by sleeping with the black California Speaker of the House,one Willie Brown. He set her up in public life in return for her sexual services.
I could go on,but I fear I will be axed if I say anymore!

Please hurry up and kill yourself.

Tell me again about how good and accepting people here are!

 

[motel rooms]

You guys just love to preen!

Re Kamala,she is regarded as dumb by just about everybody. Are you American?
She started in politics by sleeping with the black California Speaker of the House,one Willie Brown. He set her up in public life in return for her sexual services.
I could go on,but I fear I will be axed if I say anymore!

Go on, please. Get it all off your chest. Tell us one more joke about how dumb women are & how evil, pedophile-loving Jews have taken over the White House. Call someone else a "filthy immigrant piece of shit".

 

[WatermelonMel]

It's not easy being a watermelon..

(PS. Please stop fighting. This is the last place for that )

 

[lv-gras]

Please hurry up and kill yourself.

hey, just a reminder ( ? ) even though the guy we're responding to is pretty reprehensible, j f c wow he is - this is still not a great sentiment to have or post on this site?

 

[RedEther]

Ever since I first posted this thread I have been getting DMs because people have been wanting to share their stories but sick and tired of people like him. There is truly no safe place. Even here you have to hide that part of yourself because this and worse is ALWAYS the outcome. In the frazzle and stressed state that people are already in, you think people need shit like this!? to be afraid!?

Afraid in a Sanctuary!?

 

[motel rooms]

(PS. Please stop fighting. This is the last place for that )

Well, someone has to finally do something. I regret not reporting his occasionally racist, anti-immigrant & anti-Semitic comments months ago.

@stevienix & I have provided more than enough evidence on this thread that he's a repeat offender. @stevienix, @ClairyFairy, @hʚll & everyone else who thinks enough is enough, please visit his profile page & report his account, not just his many offensive posts. The more of us do it, the sooner he'll be banned. His "GO BACK HOME, BLACKS" post was removed recently, so he's on the moderators' radar &, like I said, there's more than enough stuff on this thread alone that is grounds for a ban. He is clearly not sorry for hurting the feelings of suicidal non-whites, immigrants & Jewish people.

P.S.
I don't give a shit if you think this is self-congratulatory virtue signaling, snitching or a call to lynching. You don't know my race or if I'm an immigrant myself. Also, I despise the Democrats almost as much as the Republicans.

 

[WatermelonMel]

Well, someone has to finally do something. I regret not reporting his occasionally racist, anti-immigrant & anti-Semitic comments months ago.

I agree, some of the stuff they said is really wrong especially in a thread like this. Very sad.

 

[Deadlyroses]

My parents are black immigrants and I'm a first generation American. I had a very fucking hard time relating to any group of people growing up. I felt out of touch with my family because I'm westernized from being born/raised in America. Felt out of touch with Americans for being a socially awkward and anxious black girl in a mostly white area in the south. Went to a predominately white southern baptist school and couldn't fit in for the life of me. Dealt with a lot of self hate and insecurities growing up. And loneliness. I had no friends and I felt out of touch with my family. To top it off, I struggled with my adhd and depression and anxiety. All of this has definitely contributed to my misery and pain. And eventually finding this website. Eventually I did manage to socialize a bit in college, but my anxiety + depression + the damage from my childhood always held me back. Now I'm a lonely borderline alcoholic working grad student who hardly leaves the house (unless it's for work). I don't expect to live long. I am functioning on autopilot at this point. I don't even feel real half time. I know my story will end at the bus stop one day...once I manage to overcome this stupid SI.

 

[motel rooms]

Please hurry up and kill yourself.

I hope he lives to see 150. That's how you properly wish people ill on this forum

 

[lv-gras]

I hope he lives to see 150. That's how you properly wish people ill on this forum

nicely said
lol

 

[newave3]

Please hurry up and kill yourself.

This is absolutely the worst,most despicable thing I have ever seen communicated to another member on SS. You should be ashamed of yourself @TotallyIsolated. I don't care how vehemently you disagree with @Bullit politically or how reprehensible you find some of his comments, something like this should never be written.
I'm not going to alert any mods or put anyone on ignore because unlike many of you,I actually believe in free speech.

 

[nfives]

There are incels in here, so why am I not surprised there are also racists. Well, safe space for sure.

 

[ClairyFairy]

Well, someone has to finally do something. I regret not reporting his

This is absolutely the worst,most despicable thing I have ever seen communicated to another member on SS. You should be ashamed of yourself

I'm guessing you're white if that's the worst thing you've seen on this thread let alone anywhere else

 

[newave3]

I'm guessing you're white if that's the worst thing you've seen on this thread let alone anywhere else

Yeah, that's right I'm white. What's that got to do with anything?

 

[Amumu]

I'm an asian in Northern Europe, not sure if that counts.

I'm not from a mass emigration country so I'm not negatively stereotyped as much because people don't meet my type often and don't really know what to expect. For best results I pretend I'm assimilated. Although Northern Europeans are generally not racist they are very "culturist". There are deeply rooted traditions of order and it doesn't mix with cultural pluralism that politicians praise so much. Order requires homogenity. If you don't fit the mold very neatly people will want nothing to do with you because they don't want to risk upsetting their everyday harmony. All things equal they will choose their own over a foreigner. Oftentimes, even when it's materially irrational, they will choose their own over a foreigner anyway, simply for the comfort of familiarity.

You'd think it should be human nature but there are strong regional differences. Northern Europe + Germany is extremely order-loving, and the country I'm originally from is also extremely order-loving. As a contrast, I've been to South America, and there nobody gives a crap about order, people seem to set no expectations and just do whatever. You could be a two-headed blue smurf and people won't be compelled to avoid you, because everything is already chaos and there's no harmony that you could possibly disturb. Eastern Europe is somewhere in the middle.

The odd conclusion is that being a foreigner is best in a chaotic culture where being exotic isn't seen as a negative factor.

I'm quite surprised. If you look at economic inequalities in Brazil for instance, isn't it clearly separated between Blacks / Métis / Whites ?
Now for the foreigners, idk. Maybe most foreigners have similar cultures in South America, so that integration goes well.
I get the impression this "chaotic culture" is only superficial, when you look at reality it isn't the same.

All in all assimilationism seems to be doomed to fail everywhere, there is an atmosphere of psychosis and depression where people try it.

Contrary to what the woman in the article believes, it's far worse in Africa where it is completely divided between different ethnicities.
She's clearly never been in Africa.

Slavery in Libya, murders of white farmers in Zimbabwe, the apartheid... etc.

 

[All-Dead-Y]

hey, just a reminder ( ? ) even though the guy we're responding to is pretty reprehensible, j f c wow he is - this is still not a great sentiment to have or post on this site?

Iirc there's guy who will troll this forum to farm posts and make us look bad. So yeah, even if the person is spouting scummy racist nonsense-- don't tell them to off themselves!

That being said-- what a racist piece of shit. Hope he gets better

 

[ClairyFairy]

Yeah, that's right I'm white.

No shit sherlock

 

[WatermelonMel]

Yeah, that's right I'm white. What's that got to do with anything?

It doesn't, it's the #1 most useless, meaningless argument ever.

 

[nerve]

Man, seeing a thread like this and watching it devolve into a hellscape of bigotry and conflict sure does activate my white guilt

 

[StevieNixs]

Well, someone has to finally do something. I regret not reporting his occasionally racist, anti-immigrant & anti-Semitic comments months ago.

@stevienix & I have provided more than enough evidence on this thread that he's a repeat offender. @stevienix, @ClairyFairy, @hʚll & everyone else who thinks enough is enough, please visit his profile page & report his account, not just his many offensive posts. The more of us do it, the sooner he'll be banned. His "GO BACK HOME, BLACKS" post was removed recently, so he's on the moderators' radar &, like I said, there's more than enough stuff on this thread alone that is grounds for a ban. He is clearly not sorry for hurting the feelings of suicidal non-whites, immigrants & Jewish people.

P.S.
I don't give a shit if you think this is self-congratulatory virtue signaling, snitching or a call to lynching. You don't know my race or if I'm an immigrant myself. Also, I despise the Democrats almost as much as the Republicans.

Thank you for this post. You are one of a small minority who has placed his head above the parapet to say something. Other people have seen his posts in the time he has been on this site and ignored them. Maybe because they agree with him, maybe because it does not impact many of the people on this site, or, maybe because seeing others wanting to CTB due to their lifeline experiences of racism creates a cognitive dissonance in the people reading these posts so they simply do not want to deal with it.
No wonder so many people do not disclose their religion or ethnicity on this site. Why would they when it provides a forum for people such as "Bigot" to spout forth his rhetoric on everyone who is not white. Maybe his aim is to push people over the edge?

I am now so wary of befriending anyone on this site after seeing people I believed to be decent "thumbs upping" his comments and saying things which give away their personal animus towards non white people.

You would think the fact that non white people on this site are wanting to CTB would give them a sadistic sense of joy, but no, they've still "gotta" make their intolerance known.

So. A person such as Bullitt is on this site and his primary focus isn't his life or death...but Jewish people, Black people, migrants, diversity, etc? Wow.

My time on this site is going to become a lot more minimal. I am disappointed in so many ways and this simply confirms my view on the futility of this earth. I have reported one of his posts in the past ..his "star of David" comment. The comment, I believe still remains.

This website wants to remain safe from pro-lifers but people like this man are unwittingly placing it at risk because if he pushes a Black, Latinx, Muslim, Jewish, biracial, etc person over the edge and they cite his commentary, then this site will also become accused of enabling and providing safe refuge to racists and causing POC to take their lives.

As for people saying stop fighting. You mean stop calling out racists and just pretend it hasn't happened?

Anyway. I'm taking a back seat from this site in terms of posting. I'll look for my resources but really I do not see SS as the happy haven of compassion and tolerance that so many others do.

 

[Makko]

I'm quite surprised. If you look at economic inequalities in Brazil for instance, isn't it clearly separated between Blacks / Métis / Whites ?
Now for the foreigners, idk. Maybe most foreigners have similar cultures in South America, so that integration goes well.
I get the impression this "chaotic culture" is only superficial, when you look at reality it isn't the same.

There are probably large regional differences. I don't doubt it's like that in Rio and São Paulo but I was mostly hanging out in the northeastern part of the country where there are barely any whites at all.

"Maybe most foreigners have similar cultures in South America" -- what does this mean? I'm saying that getting along with Brazilians doesn't require integration at all, whereas getting along with, say, Swedes and Germans requires full assimilation.

 

[Amumu]

There are probably large regional differences. I don't doubt it's like that in Rio and São Paulo but I was mostly hanging out in the northeastern part of the country where there are barely any whites at all.

"Maybe most foreigners have similar cultures in South America" -- what does this mean? I'm saying that getting along with Brazilians doesn't require integration at all, whereas getting along with, say, Swedes and Germans requires full assimilation.

Well, Brazil aside, they have the same language, etc. (I won't elaborate because I think you see what I mean)
So if an Argentinian decided to go to Chile, culture wouldn't bring about any problem.
Nvm, I'm going to do stuff.

Man, seeing a thread like this and watching it devolve into a hellscape of bigotry and conflict sure does activate my white guilt

Don't forget the whip.

 

[ClairyFairy]

Ever since I first posted this thread I have been getting DMs because people have been wanting to share their stories but sick and tired of people like him. There is truly no safe place. Even here you have to hide that part of yourself because this and worse is ALWAYS the outcome. In the frazzle and stressed state that people are already in, you think people need shit like this!? to be afraid!?

Afraid in a Sanctuary!?

I'm so sorry that you can't live your life safely and you have to always be afraid. I feel ashamed of the privilege my skin gives me. A privilege that I'm only just learning about. A world where people are kind to each other no matter what colour our skin is should be at least imaginable but this thread is a small sample of what different races have to go through because the white man feels so inferior that he needs to put people down because they don't look like us. It honestly breaks my heart that we're not all seen as equals and judged on the content of our hearts not on the colour if our skin. This place should be a Sanctuary fir everybody and we should be able to share everything without fear. I'm really sorry that people of colour really can't x
@hotelbeneathground I reported him

 

[StevieNixs]

I'm guessing you're white if that's the worst thing you've seen on this thread let alone anywhere else

This user "NeWave3" agrees with the racist sentiments of Bullit - look at Bullit's racist comments and see NeWave3's thumbs up under most of these comments. He is in complete consensus with the man's views which is why he regards racism as perfectly reasonable - but reporting racism as an outrage.

 

[Makko]

Well, Brazil aside, they have the same language, etc. (I won't elaborate because I think you see what I mean)
So if an Argentinian decided to go in Chile, culture wouldn't bring about any problem.

Nvm, I'm going to do stuff.

I'm talking from the perspective of a foreigner who isn't from the local neighborhood.

 

[motel rooms]

This is absolutely the worst,most despicable thing I have ever seen communicated to another member on SS. You should be ashamed of yourself

Telling UK citizens of African descent who have no place to stay in Africa to "wait for it... GO BACK HOME!!!" is pretty much the same thing as telling them to drop dead, yet you liked that comment. Do you really agree with @Bullit? It's hard not to notice that you keep liking his racist posts.

Btw, I agree that the member whose comment angered you overreacted. They're from the UK, maybe they're of African descent... Maybe they're Jewish or an immigrant & people who call other human beings "filthy immigrant pieces of shit" make their blood boil, so they end up stooping to their level...

 

[newave3]

Telling UK citizens of African descent who have no place to stay in Africa to "wait for it... GO BACK HOME!!!" is pretty much the same thing as telling them to drop dead, yet you liked that comment. Do you really agree with @Bullit? It's hard not to notice that you keep liking his racist comments.

Btw, I agree that the member whose comment angered you overreacted. They're from the UK, maybe they're of African descent... Maybe they're Jewish or an immigrant & people who call other human beings "filthy immigrant pieces of shit" make their blood boil, so they end up stooping to their level...

Look,I fully admit I have no clue what goes on in other countries. I only know about the the US and specifically NYC where I have lived all my life. I am one of the few white people left in one of the worst neighborhoods in the Bronx. Throughout my life,almost all my friends have been black,hispanic or Jewish. Ignorant white liberals automatically assume all non whites are leftists like them.This isn't true. Most of my hard working Puerto Rican friends voted for Trump. They can't stand seeing millions of central american immigrants pour across our southern border. These illegal immigrants impact our neighborhood and our jobs.
But what I hate more than anything are guilt ridden self hating white libs living in mostly white neighborhoods or countries preaching their self righteous bleeding heart bullshit about how bad so called minorities have it. Come to my neighborhood you lilly white fools and you wouldn't last 10 minutes. @ClairyFairy & @stevienix

 

[user_name_here]

Contrary to what the woman in the article believes, it's far worse in Africa where it is completely divided between different ethnicities.
She's clearly never been in Africa.

Slavery in Libya, murders of white farmers in Zimbabwe, the apartheid... etc.

Man you've clearly never been to Africa. Africa is a MASSIVE continent with many peaceful nations that have never even seen war.
You make it sound like every African nation is fighting over minerals and white people get murdered as soon as they step off the plane.

Also, and this might blow your mind, there is more difference in the DNA between a West African and an East African than there is between a White American and an East Asian.
In other words somebody from Beijing and George from Wyoming have more genetic similarities than a Nigerian does to a Kenyan.
Africa is HUGE, and much more diverse than you might think.

Thank you for this post. You are one of a small minority who has placed his head above the parapet to say something. Other people have seen his posts in the time he has been on this site and ignored them. Maybe because they agree with him, maybe because it does not impact many of the people on this site, or, maybe because seeing others wanting to CTB due to their lifeline experiences of racism creates a cognitive dissonance in the people reading these posts so they simply do not want to deal with it.
No wonder so many people do not disclose their religion or ethnicity on this site. Why would they when it provides a forum for people such as "Bigot" to spout forth his rhetoric on everyone who is not white. Maybe his aim is to push people over the edge?

I am now so wary of befriending anyone on this site after seeing people I believed to be decent "thumbs upping" his comments and saying things which give away their personal animus towards non white people.

You would think the fact that non white people on this site are wanting to CTB would give them a sadistic sense of joy, but no, they've still "gotta" make their intolerance known.

So. A person such as Bullitt is on this site and his primary focus isn't his life or death...but Jewish people, Black people, migrants, diversity, etc? Wow.

My time on this site is going to become a lot more minimal. I am disappointed in so many ways and this simply confirms my view on the futility of this earth. I have reported one of his posts in the past ..his "star of David" comment. The comment, I believe still remains.

This website wants to remain safe from pro-lifers but people like this man are unwittingly placing it at risk because if he pushes a Black, Latinx, Muslim, Jewish, biracial, etc person over the edge and they cite his commentary, then this site will also become accused of enabling and providing safe refuge to racists and causing POC to take their lives.

As for people saying stop fighting. You mean stop calling out racists and just pretend it hasn't happened?

Anyway. I'm taking a back seat from this site in terms of posting. I'll look for my resources but really I do not see SS as the happy haven of compassion and tolerance that so many others do.

please don't take a backseat, it takes members like yourself and @hotelbeneathground to highlight people like this and lead others like myself to stand up for what's right.
It might seem like the overwhelming voice agrees with racists on here, but as a POC myself I really value users like you guys.

 

[Amumu]

Africa is a MASSIVE continent with many peaceful nations that have never even seen war.

Do you even believe in what you say?