Discussion Hot Take on SH

[SMK1444]

Self harm is amazing and in my opinion is a behavior that should not be stopped unless it's causing you or the person cutting stress. I think it should be normalized like suicide; it's a form of art in my mind that portrays emotion very beautifully.
I've been yapped at by my family for 2 years now because of my cutting addiction. It's not fair, there's really no difference in a tattoo and cutting except most the time the person wanting the tattoo doesn't give it to themselves.
What's y'all's opinion?

 

[Lam1dz]

Self harm is amazing and in my opinion is a behavior that should not be stopped unless it's causing you or the person cutting stress. I think it should be normalized like suicide; it's a form of art in my mind that portrays emotion very beautifully.
I've been yapped at by my family for 2 years now because of my cutting addiction. It's not fair, there's really no difference in a tattoo and cutting except most the time the person wanting the tattoo doesn't give it to themselves.
What's y'all's opinion?

i have cutting marks too but i did it as a child So it was just bad for them but yes agree with you

 

[violetdevil]

It's a bad coping mechanism. Once you start it's hard to stop. You could lose a limb or paralyze yourself. I remember when I first started cutting, I did small cat scratches. I told myself I would never cut deep. Then one day I was really overwhelmed and cut deep enough to require quite a few stitches. My arms and legs are covered in scars. I've been asked about them at work. My body is now permanently scarred and it makes me feel so insecure.
It's not worth it.

 

[Death is my goal]

bad take

 

[cgrtt.brns]

tattoos dont have the risks of nerve damage or dangerous blood loss or loss of limb function/mobility etc., but i see where you're coming from.
personally i wouldnt go as far to say its amazing bc that feels kind of encouraging, but it definitely should be more normalised/not demonised. ive always thought it was weird how much shit other people give you for hurting yourself. like, when ppl tell me it makes them sad to see my scars, all i can think is how the fuck do you think i feel? (not including ppl who get triggered by seeing scars, thats different and valid)
if the self harm is at a point where the person is needing regular professional medical attention and is endangering themselves, or the person just wants to recover/stop then personally i think harm reduction really should be used. but overall its the individuals decision.
for me at this point in my life im not bothered about stopping, its something that helps me cope.

 

[brokeandbroken]

It's a bad coping mechanism. Once you start it's hard to stop. You could lose a limb or paralyze yourself. I remember when I first started cutting, I did small cat scratches. I told myself I would never cut deep. Then one day I was really overwhelmed and cut deep enough to require quite a few stitches. My arms and legs are covered in scars. I've been asked about them at work. My body is now permanently scarred and it makes me feel so insecure.
It's not worth it.

It's this, I wrote a reply to a similar thread yesterday. Number of issues associated but like @violetdevil said it is hard to stop. Your brain also becomes desensitized to it the more you do it the more you need bigger, deeper, more cuts to get the same dopamine release.

 

[winamp]

like others have said it's hard to stop

I do miss it because it worked for me

if I didn't have self control at the moment I would honestly do it right now out of boredom

it gives me a rush seeing the blood and what not and feeling the burning and stinging and watching the healing process when I am not doing it to control or repress emotions or trying to show the pain that I feel orthe pain others have inflicted upon me emotionally or mentally

sometimes once you get used to it you have to start getting more rough or intense with it or you start to doubt yourself when it comes to why you cope that way which could make you think you need to inflict pain in a more severe way

and I don't want to get to that point since I regret all of the times where I lost control while doing it and being paranoid about getting caught/arrested/admitted

 

[HaveToEndIt]

Personally I never understood it. If you're suicidal why would you want to cause pain to yourself? Don't you just want to die painlessly?

 

[Touhou]

Do you also happen to think life-crashing cocaine addictions should be normalized as well?

 

[SMK1444]

Do you also happen to think life-crashing cocaine addictions should be normalized as well?

No, but they aren't the same at all

It's a bad coping mechanism. Once you start it's hard to stop. You could lose a limb or paralyze yourself. I remember when I first started cutting, I did small cat scratches. I told myself I would never cut deep. Then one day I was really overwhelmed and cut deep enough to require quite a few stitches. My arms and legs are covered in scars. I've been asked about them at work. My body is now permanently scarred and it makes me feel so insecure.
It's not worth it.

Maybe my brain just works differently than others…I really like my scars and I've caused nerve damage to multiple parts of my body but I still really like it? Idk I'm confused I thought most people on this site would agree with me I'm kinda shocked with the amount of people that don't.

Personally I never understood it. If you're suicidal why would you want to cause pain to yourself? Don't you just want to die painlessly?

I want to die painlessly but I have a strange relationship with pain I really like it but I wouldn't want to die in a painful way.

 

[cgrtt.brns]

Idk I'm confused I thought most people on this site would agree with me I'm kinda shocked with the amount of people that don't.

this is a suicide site, not a selfharm site, so although i can see why youd be shocked, most people here have had enough suffering and just want things to end rather than causing more suffering if that makes sense. maybe some may have taken your post as encouraging selfharm too, which i dont know for sure if that was your intention but i didnt get that impression. more that selfharm shouldnt be treated as something to be prevented, like suicide is? in the same vein that nobody here encourages suicide, but we realise prevention is not always helpful. hope this made sense.

 

[SMK1444]

this is a suicide site, not a selfharm site, so although i can see why youd be shocked, most people here have had enough suffering and just want things to end rather than causing more suffering if that makes sense. maybe some may have taken your post as encouraging selfharm too, which i dont know for sure if that was your intention but i didnt get that impression. more that selfharm shouldnt be treated as something to be prevented, like suicide is? in the same vein that nobody here encourages suicide, but we realise prevention is not always helpful. hope this made sense.

Oh, should I delete this thread then?

 

[cgrtt.brns]

i dont think it goes against any guidelines, but im not sure, id check the rules and maybe ask a mod if you're concerned. i dont see why youd need to delete it though, theres still many people here that struggle with sh too so its not like talking about sh is not allowed, theres even a sh megathread. hope this made sense.

 

[day]

No reason to delete the thread.

I agree to a certain point but don't think it should be normalized. I think cutting is beautiful and I find art in it as well just as I do with peaceful suicides. But suicide and cutting are 2 very different ball parks.

Obviously not everyone will be happy with your post but don't take it personal everyone gets their own views and they're entitled to have those views.

Best of luck OP.

 

[Maeve]

I think it is important to speak how addicting sh is like other drugs. I mean there is not the same chance somebody's gona ctb just because someone talked positive about it but if sombody says that sh helps them, without warning maby someone is gona try and is then stuck.